Mongering in Japan Experience
Since there is in general little info on Japan mongering, I thought I would start my a thread gathering my not so extensive experience there. I hope guys find the info useful. I want to give a bit of background info also.
First part, background info: non P4P japanese experience and some insights into difficulty of dating.
I have been into Japanese women since as long as I can remember. I do love Japan and have travelled there lots.
I have had the chance to have a long week end romantic experience with a Sapporo girl I met during a scuba trip in Thailand. Eeventually I made way way to Sapporo for a visit. She spent the week end with me (though not the full nights...). We visitied her hometown close to Sapporo, went to eat + drink at izakayas and ended both days in bed at my hotel. She was sweet, affectionate and definitely good in bed. This is where I learned that all those high pitch screams and "iku iku" were totally real... Wow!!
Sadly, she felt uncomfortable and likely frustrated communicating so things died off-- this was about in 2012, so you can understand that AI translation was non existent.
At about the same time, I met a really pretty and nice Tokyo girl, whose English was "much better". She was an adventurous soul, loved to travel, had had a gaijin boyfriend before, was single and seemed interested. We met multiple times, went out, even went on a 3 day holiday to Kyoto together, sharing the same room... But eveytime I tried to get closer (like really close...) she would clam up. Once I succesfully kissed her, she let me do a little, then said "chotto mate kudasai Hormone-san!" (wait a little, Mr Hormone!). The sudden use of "san" honorific with me made me understand that she was putting up a clear "polite" barrier between us and this would not progress. Up to now we had been "kun" (for me) and "chan" for her, whihc is much friendlier ... Had I misread signals? Was she hesitant because I did not live in Japan? I clearly had real feelings for this girl and would have been ready to make a move into a real committed relationship then... But alas...
What I did subsequently learn (from other nippon contacts) was that it is totally possible IF YOU LIVE IN JAPAN to get a Japanese GF as a Gaijin. Many Japanese girls actually seek out Gaijin... As long as you live there!! But most Japanese girls will consider you as "not serious" if you don't live there. There are also some girls who just want to have fun, go out to clubs especially in Roppongi area and are open to meet for fun some gaijin, but this is not my scene and my style (I am pathetic to meet strangers in a club...I suck at small talk, especially with language barriers...). SO while I know this is doable, I have not tried. Maybe also I am too old for this and the age difference would make it awkward, as opposed to a more P4P location like Pattaya/ BKK...
Next, my early experiences... | |
