Glad I'm not alone in this business. I knew I wasn't...but glad to see so many with positive mindsets about being married and mongering, rather than a bunch of no-goods just cheating on their wife because they hate her and hate life.
I am also happily married, and I love my wife dearly! I also love my family, both nucleus and beyond. My life is full of wonderful love, and I cherish every moment of them. I also monger.
There are two primary reasons I do this. One, my lovely and beautiful wife of XX years is frankly not very good at sexual pleasure. I was not pleased with our sex even before we got married, and although I hoped it would change eventually, it didn't. I didn't marry my wife for sex. I married her because she is a wonderful woman, a good person, and we love each other. Unfortunately, bless her, she is still kind of a star fish and a one-position lovemaker. And yes, I have tried A LOT to get her to do new things. She will, but it just feels like an awkward chore. So, my first reason for mongering is to fill a sexual emptiness I can't find at home.
Second, my sexual desires still seem about the same as when I was 18 (or 12, or 25, or any age!). I have a raw, unbridled desire to do dirty deeds with women, with a variety of women. It is instinctive, and I do not deny myself of my instincts. I started mongering before I married (in fact, it was my first introduction to sex), and I think I always realized it would continue after. I have no moral remorse with what I do, so it is pretty easy for me to continue my lifestyle. I know the majority of the world does not share the same thought, nor would my wife or family, so it is something I will also carry with me to the grave. In fact, it will be 12 feet under even my own grave if I do things correctly. So, to satisfy my most perverse desires, I monger! (I should note, I believe all women are very special and I respect them greatly. One of the things I love about mongering is when I'm with those women who understand men the most. The ones who love to be treated like a lady outside the bedroom, but will happily let their man treat them like a *put your desired word here* inside the bedroom.)
For all those good men who live secret lives for similar reasons, thanks for sharing your story. It is instinctive to want to talk about these things (even for an introvert), but sharing this with friends and family is clearly not an option. So, I'm glad we can share them here in complete anonymity . (Oh, keep your computer security tip top as well!) | |