Background, I'm happily married and I occasionally frequent. I'm im a happy relationship and my wife is actually very pretty ( at least to me)but for some reason I still frequent some establishments whenever I can. So I was wondering if anyone else is in the same boat as me. So some discussion items

What are some of your reasons for mongering?

How often do you go and how do you hide it from your significant other?

Has any of you guys got caught? What were the reactions?

Thanks

writing a book ?                                        .

Nah, not much of a writer. Just trying to find people in similar situations. Like a cheap form of therapy to get over my guilt. Maybe one day confess to the wife? Who knows ?

I'm in your position. I don't know why I do this. I sometimes hate myself for it but I may have come to terms with it now. My wife is beautiful and we used to have a fantastic sex life. However, it has almost completely stopped now. I wouldn't say the mongering is to satisfy an unscratched itch although it clearly does that. It's more the excitement of being with other women (don't have to be that young) and seeing if I can persuade them to have sex. Yes, very self-indulgent/selfish, and very risky as I am sure my wife would divorce me if she found out.

My main way of keeping this secret is to have a second identity which is linked to a second phone which is not connected at all to "my" phone. Different name, different WhatsApp and Telegram account.

My advice: never, ever tell your wife. Live with your guilt. It won't help her if you tell her, it will devastate her, knowing you have been lying to her all the time.

… absolutely without any string attached.

1) Yes
2) Yes
3) If yes you're fucked.

That used to be my modus operandi, lasted for 15 years? The alter ego idea made things a bit easier plus you can chat with the girls if you hit it off. Booking in advance using phone 2 also helps ensure you get what you're looking for, no hit or miss.

yeah married too. wife not interested in sex so I go have fun elsewhere, the longer you do it the more often you go. its like an addiction..  am I feeling guilty? no the wife started to hold off from sex and refuse . so its really her fault.  if she was opening legs enough id not have the energy to have started punting..  now prefer to go punting than try get in MRS pants

… it must have returned adequate results. There is some hazard in getting along beyond "imparted time".

You know what they say, if she fucking you, who’s she’s fucking?

I would say that for me it’s like trying different brands of wine or scotch, each one is different and I would lie to see what sorts of varieties are out there. Different body types different personalities different p**sy depth all bring a new experience to the table each time.

Even the hottest lady gets boring after years.

Men are naturally horny and need to plow our seeds, best keep the secret (if u have a wife or gf) if u don’t get it at home but provide other needs , well money and love then i feel no guilt, if like one of the bloke said here , if she open her legs often then our hornyness will go down a lot lol

Did K-amps a few times, and the value is really there for the money... experiences that have filled the spank bank for many years to come... but I really worry about STDs and it's only a matter of time, so I just stick to strip clubs and AMPs with HJs... I don't need the FS to get off, and in an AMP you can ask to get MSOG if you tip a little extra. I've been doing this for about 10 years, and I don't see the big deal... I can jack off myself, or pay someone to jack me off, but I'm never going to come home with a pregnant mistress or an STD in either case. She spends $100 to get her nails done, I spend $100 at the spa too.

You guys have pretty wives, yet you still monger. A pretty wife is not enough for you. Meanwhile my wife is an average-looking and flat-chested Asian (I'm Asian too). I guess this gives me more reason to monger

My wide is beautiful, but mongering is such an addictive sport. Sometimes, you wanna so the nasty things with another flavor

Men are wired to spread their jizz. Monogamy only became a cultural norm in the last ~100 years thanks to Christian SIMPS

How do you avoid bringing home STDs if you decide to continue mongering?  Avoid kissing, only have CBJ, and CFS?  No FIV?

Never had a problem including some accidental bbfs. (Touch wood....)

In my opinion Asian women are totally different as Western women. A
Asian has a different view of sex. It is pretty normal to give sex to
someone who will support them. For sex: Asian women, for living
together I prefer western..

Continuing:
  I think for Asian WGs sex is a service they are providing. It doesn't define them,  so they don't tend to be hung up or self conscious about it. They are just providing what the client wants. That's not to say they are indifferent, or unenthusiastic, or don't like the good clients and can get upset by being mistreated.

Of course, this is based on my particular experiences. YMMV.