I never approve nor disapprove when it comes to matters of the heart as you never know where/when someone special might come along. That being said, there are some things that you should be thinking about that I think I've remained consistent about on here over the years when these topics comes up.
1. What are your expectations with this relationship?
2. Everyone needs to make money. I wouldn't begrudge anyone for choosing any line of work. That being said, there's also WHY they are doing it. There's a difference between this being something she does to put food on her plate, or because it's the quickest/easiest way to make some fast cash.
3. You mentioned that you're not thrilled about her line of work. If she were to become your GF, would you be ok with it if she quit? Would you be ok with it if you brought her out and it turned out a colleague/boss/friend/neighbour had spent some time with her at some point?
4. How long has your acquaintance with her been? Why ask this question now?
It's nice to have someone there when times are tough. I get it. Bonus that she's easy on the eyes, cooks for you, and is fun in bed too. And if that's all you're looking for, then there's no reason to ask this line of question. Just enjoy it and don't complicate it by thinking about too much else. And if she starts pushing you towards something more and this is all you want, dude, it's your life and it's your future. Don't let nice get in the way of something potentially great.
If you're looking for something more long term and serious, that's ok too, but make sure you know what you're getting yourself into. And just because she ends up being your gf, it still doesn't mean you have to give up the farm for her. GF doesn't equal wife. Be together. Enjoy each other's company. Really find out about her, meet her friends, family, blah blah blah. Her becoming your gf doesn't mean you have to take over her life's finances, but you can also talk to her about being uncomfortable with her job and see if there are other options available to her.
Either way, no need to rush things. Take it at your own pace.
Bonne chance,
~UD | |
