Reply #30 wander's post
Hey bro,
I feel your pain 
Always remember: a girlfriend is a girlfriend, and a wife is a wife. CONTEXT is what defines the relationship, not the CONTENT.
A woman transforms in an instant, as she transitions from one to the other.
YOU are the grass that is always greener. At this time.
And you think you'd get all the benefits, and avoid all the bad-hair-days, if you were together 24x7?
That's when you get to see what she's like when she's off colour, when she knows she doesn't have to impress you any more, when she feels safe with you but that inner insecurity that gnaws away inside her continues to torment her to look for something else to worry about ...
I guess you know where I'm coming from 
It won't surprise me at all if she comes back to you ... and if she does, why not accept her back? But think twice (and have a titanium-steel prenup) before you agree to give up the things that are making your life worth living today.
In your circs you have a really good alibi for wanting to keep things the way they are: "sorry Honey, I'm damaged goods, x years of being married make me traumatised about ever again committing to an exclusive relationship with anyone, even with someone I appreciate and admire as much as you" ... or words to that effect.
This is of course just a "thought experiment" ... you should treat my advice with the disdain it deserves and live in the moment instead!
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