Reply #1 smilybob1's post
I have personally witnessed a lot of real bad things happen because of this "mid-life crisis;" lives destroyed, careers up in flames, life changing injuries - and most tragically - families in tatters.
And unfortunately, the worse usually happens to individuals who had all their lives up to then, been pretty much pilars of society. So very hard working, so responsible and so conscientious in trying to make his life and for those he loves, the best that it can be. And the tragic thing is that this usually happens all so rapidly without those around him - or even himself - actually realizing what actually was happening.
It's as if the guy just woke up one morning and decided that he was going to do something different - but of course this "change" had been building up to a crescendo all along....but without anybody even realizing or recognizing it; not even himself.
So its very good that you yourself has realized what you are going through; the next thing you must do - of course IMHO - is to actually take stock of where you are right now, find the GOOD things in what you've achieved, and build on those successes. Do not just decide to do something different - just for the sake of it being something you've never done before. There's a reason why you had not done those things in the past - and those reasons still hold true whether yesterday, today or in the futurue. You know it yourself.
One mistake, two, yeah OK as things ARE quite forgiving - but if you keep on testing your boundaries - you know sooner or later that you're gonna get caught and would only live to regret it afterwards. That's NOT mid-life crisis - that's a death wish.
So my li'l heads up - yeah - mid life crisis - don't let it destroy you, let it be the point where you take stock of where you are now at, build on your past achivements and successes and start afresh to achieve more successes. You'll look back and KNOW that you did well in life.
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