i think this a fairly common situation
even the comments above indicate that many bros can't cum from a BJ alone. i think it's common, and most important, don't worry about it!
sexuality is driven by the psychological mindset of the people involved. i'd rather have an enthusiastic mid-30s gal who's a bit chunky than some physically stunning yet icy "princess." there's communication issues, how you feel physically, etc etc. i've had flagging erections brought miraculously back to life (and culmination!) by women who really WANTED that to happen. i've had raging hard-ons slowly dissipate as some ice-queen gives off attitude. of course if it's a GF where yr having regular encounters, there are multiple factors (try living together for years and see what changes!). all this comes into play.
but BJs are usually not strong stimulation. IF a gal uses her hand(s) and varies things, it can be quite exciting. i can easily blow my load and have had to quickly switch to another activity to avoid a "misfire," heh heh. but if they're just going through the motions, well...also consider you're usually not getting feedback from yr partner. when fucking, they're usually enjoying themselves and giving you all sorts of indicators besides the flesh-to-flesh contact.
i have a friend who swore he wd never EVER be able to cum from a BJ alone. so i sent him to Lolita's in Bangkok. this place specializes in BBBJs in a big open area BUT yr part is sealed off by a big black curtain. however, u can hear guys getting sucked off and blowing their loads in the same room, see other girls' feet under the curtain as they're servicing yr fellow bros (if this puts u off, try Lolita's in Pattaya where u get yr own room).
sometimes i do prefer a good BJ to FS, and as that's the specialty of the house at Lolita's, ALL the girls are highly skilled. some are quite cute, so if u like that, go for it. but some of the less attractive ones have been there for years...for a REASON. think about it. regardless, no Lolita's tech will stop...they're like ZE TERMINATOR, they will not stop, EVER! well until u CIM, which is guaranteed, BTW.
so i sent my friend there. he said it took 35-40 minutes (damn!), but yeah, he proved to himself he could cum with a BJ. he was amazed.
bottom line: don't worry about it. there's no such thing as "normal" sex--we're all different. it's got nothing to do with athleticism, "manliness" or any other notion. whatever works for u is what's good. it's really that simple.
personally, i really enjoy watching women have orgasms!
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