the common factor in both of your examples is that the woman made a huge effort to fit in, and had a big incentive to get it right in each case - one because of the disproportionate power of the sugar-daddy, the other because she's smart enough to realise she doesn't get another chance at her age.
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... the kicker that would make life for the OP tough ...
is indeed the issue. If you take an "outsider" as a life partner, you have to be already strong enough (in social connections and economic power) to stand up to the rejections you'll get. Instead of being invited in, you'll be excluded unnecessarily, for fear your presence will remind them of their greatest fears and insecurities: that their own husbands might also prefer to be fucking a good-looking woman who's got neither "class" (in their eyes) / education / nor wealth but is willing to be more giving in bed than they are.
Look at it this way, it's a good thing to feel compassion for a good-looking and affectionate single mum who's having to work long hours and contemplating selling her body ... but if you feel compassion for one of them, what about all the dozens (no, make that thousands) of others just like her? Soon as you're hitched to one of them, she's going to decide she's somehow better than all the others, and demand you avoid all other deserving cases ...
If you want to do charity, much better to choose a partner who will help you be successful, make lots of money and power, and then use both to give help where it's needed and most appreciated. Don't get married to a charity project. |
