Reply #38 DArtagnan's post
Well what you say is generally is very true and may be especially true for the OP because he is still young, has relatively just arrived in our Asian shores and is lonely, and does not understand the culture in Asian deep enough.
Yet I do know of friends who manage to minimize the village part of the girl as much as possible.
I think in one friend's case, he was able to make it work because he was much older (about 20 years and the girl was in her early 20s) and more street-smart than the girls herself plus more importantly they lived together in China for several years to allow as my friend put it, 'I am training her to live outside of China and to test her sincerity of her love for him'. As part of the sincerity test, he told her straight out that he will never give her money for her to give to her family and the girl was fine with it. Last I heard they are happily married and living in California.
In another case, the girl is older than the guy but is smart enough to maintain a particular charm and good conversations skills in English in front of his friends as she doesnt want to lose her catch. Though at first the guy was suspicious of her sincerity, eventually he was won over by her charm and business skills in helping him make more money. She may not come across as someone from high society but at least she doesn't sound like she is from China but like someone who is from NT.
I have been to enough social functions in HK to know that a good percentage of the local women who consider themselves high society are boring as hell as they cannot discuss any topic, besides shopping, eating, and property, deep enough to have a decent discussion. Not much better than the PRC girls. Forget about discussing the whys of a particular current news event that is taking place. It is just over the years, they learned to constantly polish their image to the point that one at first would be intimidated by them feeling one is not as high on the ladder as they are.
But here is the kicker that would make life for the OP tough, though these rich women might themselves know they don't know much, they will fiercely 'protect' their cultivated, polished image and don't want any of the 'unwashed' to join their society as it would draw attention to themselves not being as cultivated as they would like to see themselves as being.
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