Reply #1 maccalim's post
Bro, you need to think on three levels
Head
Heart
Dick
Those three elements function completely independently, and you can't make a decision to serve the needs you have on one level by acting on a different level. Of course, engaging all three levels simultaneously is fun, but by no means necessary with any one person. And yes, there's a neurological basis for the separation, the brain really does have three independent circuits that regulate our relationships.
Your head is clearly disengaged for the time being ... not in itself a problem, but it'll cut back in eventually when the hormones settle, as long as you haven't already made a big commitment that you might find difficult backing out of.
Sounds like you need more than just sex. You're very much into her, and into being wanted by someone playing hard-to-get. Your jealousy issues could get you into big trouble though. Don't worry about her seeing other guys, she'll be comparing you to them and you'll be winning(you already know that: she wouldn't give you the time of day if her other guys were satisfying her, so clearly they're not). One thing we know about women is that they get attached to whoever gives them good sex, so if you start to get intimate she will quickly stop seeing any other guys as anything other than friends. Oxytocin is very powerful, and its effects tend to be underestimated by guys, especially younger guys.
And last (but by no means least) she clearly wants you to fuck her brains out multiple times. But given her history there will probably be a massive sore-spot right about the question of fidelity ... so you'll have to be clear about what it is you want for yourself before dick meets pussy.
Since you asked, here's some advice: don't let her do anything "for you" that involves her doing less work or giving up any income she might otherwise make. If she offers or seems to be thinking about spending time away from real work, push her away (don't worry, she'll respect you for being firm and will be back as fast as a bent penny) and make it clear she doesn't need to make a sacrifice (again that's clearly a pattern in her life: to be self-sacrificing and then become resentful about what she gave away). I'm ready to bet that if you do no more than just stay in touch, meet her from time to time (no more than three times a week) she'll be begging you to service her soon enough. | |
