Originally posted by neoi99 at 4-10-2010 23:50
I think I get some problem of myself.... I loss the libido and motive to having sex recently...
I loss the interest to looking for HG/WG even loss the interest to sex with my wife.
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Are you gay?
Seriously, I'm not calling you names ... just that I've noticed a pattern in the coming out stories I've come across over the years, the guy (or the girl) goes through a period of soul-searching before making the connection.
Heck there was even one on www.fmylife.com recently: a woman who's husband was bugging her for years asking if she's lesbian, and her denying it, then just discovering she gets hotter with a girlfriend than she ever did with a guy.
Give yourself some space, think it over. Your anxiety is hurting you more than the truth ever will.
Having said that, much more likely is one or more of:-
stress
depression
overwork
physically sick (flu is a biggie, can be just enough to make you feel run down and depressed without putting you into bed)
BUT
if your stress is associated with you being picked on (esp by bitchy wife / SO / girlfriend) or you being unlucky and pulling a string of hard-bitten hookers, it would be totally normal for you to withdraw in reaction.
Stuff like that - the 'drip-drip-drip' of persistent criticism - is something that we can ignore for a long time - years even - and then it suddenly catches up on you. Check out the hygiene of your environment, and make sure you've got some (male and female) friends you know you can trust and rely on to care about you. And if you have to hire a trained counsellor just to be sure you can talk to her, do it.
There you go, a couple of ideas to explore. |
