Originally posted by TheButler at 29-4-2010 11:33
... who professes sexual inexperience ... but then she jumps in the sack with me after the briefest encounter ...
I can set your mind at peace there. 
There's a principle in human behavior, which is that it is always in balance. There is an underlying set of needs and tendencies, which is what it is. And then there is the "image", that is superimposed on the actual needs to conform to external pressures and expectations, exaggerating some and suppressing others. This creates an interesting result which is ...
... the more someone denies a quality or a need, the more strongly it jumps out when (inevitably) it does jump out. Archetypes abound: the wimp who shows uncharacteristic courage when cornered, or the tough guy who breaks down and cries when he's confronted with overwhelming odds. Happens all over. The "good girl" who is a complete self-debasing slut when the door is closed is just soooo common ...
You're basically acting as a lightning-rod, discharging all that pent-up instinctive behavior that's been covered up with a superficial veneer of social conformance. She can't risk seeking satisfaction from people she's currently turning to for respectability and approval ... ergo she has to turn to someone who's outside her 'box' to get what she needs but isn't getting. That's the underlying dynamic.
Of course, the STORY she will tell you about why, and why it's OK, and how she rationalizes her actions to make them fit in with her self-image of a good girl, is altogether a different matter - totally unique, idiosyncratic, and largely irrelevant. What matters is that when you show up as in interesting (and interested) nonthreatening male, she invites you into the castle walls for a party. And if you play along making her feel comfortable, it can get very steamy very quickly!
Go fuck them, they really do need you to do it so they can face the social pressures they're under, and don't worry about her history.
Take all the precautions you would take with any girl, and enjoy the experience! |
