Originally posted by AHartford at 25/11/09 19:31
Maybe it doesn't matter. Maybe it's as simple as a man needs sex, doesn't always get it where he wants it so he pays it. But I've almost never mongered while in a relationship, although I haven't been in many long termers (just turned 30). I often wonder if I meet the girl of my dreams and truly fall in love, if the sex drops off a bit (which in every relationship I guess it does) while I go back to my old ways. If I do, how guilty will I feel? Very, I expect and hope it doesn't happen. But it doesn't sound like several brothers are too bovvered
Ok - I've been married for 10 years and have sex with my wife perhaps once a month, twice if I'm lucky. She's just not very interested, and I'm not going to force myself on her. But I still care about her and don't want to do anything that would hurt her. When I'm overseas, I feel a sense of freedom, and regularly pay for sex - on the basis that I enjoy it, and that as long as my wife doesn't know, it really doesn't hurt her. If it doesn't impact her in any way, how can it hurt her?
I actually feel much more guilty about the money I spend, than the sex - because that's taking away from money available to my family - and I have obligations to my kids, as well as my wife. So I try not to spend too much.
So there's a sense of "I don't get it at home, I like it, and it doesn't hurt anyone if I have it". But there's also the fact that I couldn't attract good looking young women when I was young (too nerdy), but now that I'm middle aged and have a little money, I can get a little of what I missed out on when I was younger.
Introspection over... |
