brothers with wives and gfs seemingly happily keep mongering?  

Did you ever stop for a while whe you got together?  What made you start again?  Do you ever feel guilty?  Worry about STIs?  Try to give up?  

I really couldn't do it

If when you say "I really couldn't do it" you are trying to say you really couldn't go visiting WGs, then I'm curious as to why you are here on a forum dedicated to providing information and support for people who DO go visiting WGs... ??

There isn't a Sunday morning that doesn't find me on my knees in church begging the Baby Jesus to forgive me. But no matter how hard I pray, I can't seem to find the strength to end this vile and disgusting habit.

So, on behalf of us all, I'd like to ask the Reverend Hartford for a few words of guidance and inspiration so that we may one day find the strength to raise ourselves out of the filth and bask in the light of his approval. God knows, we need the voice of a Righteous Man here in the forums.

I usually go by the principle that whenever I have done a WG then I owe my wife a ride as well.

After that my conscience is clean

[quote]Originally posted by AHartford at 23-11-2009 01:54
brothers with wives and gfs seemingly happily keep mongering?  

I really couldn't do it

You couldn't do what? You can't stop or you can continue with mongering

Its like an addiction rally. At one stage I thought seeing wg's is just something i would never do. But after the first time when you feel your heart in your mouth because you are so nervous you just do it again and again and again. Now I am at a stage where I can never seeing myself not visit wg's...

Personally i wouldn't classify visiting wgs as an addiction..( I am not in the least bit addicted..)  To me..It is more of a hobby...( An expensive hobby though..)

while it is a valid question...I can't answer you...

I don't have a girl friend.....

BUT...I hope when I do..I won't punt...but hoping and reality is always different

There must be someone who has tickled your fancy bro...  Maybe they are just waiting for you to make the first move...  With your sense of humour and your personality..I know you will have no probs chatting up the ladies...

True GFE is fine but after a while I find the sex can drop off a bit. That's usually my sign that its time to end up and go back to mongering! I have never done both at the same time (girlfriend and monger) but sometimes I wonder if mongering is why I break up with a girl... Probably!

Hartford, you see the problem is this - my GFs are the WGs I visited... so, how to stop???   

Of course, after having these GFs, others pale in comparison (in bed of course).

Can any of you read?

I'm talking about mongering if had a GF / were married

Thx to those bros who understood my post

It's a bit irritating that others clearly hadn't read it

But I don't want to sound abrasive - I know what the internet is like - you read quickly

So I'll assume it has nothing to do with intelligence

One thing this forum lacks is general exploration about why we do this and reflection on how it makes us feel and especially how we manage this pastime with relationships...

There are books on this, like the Oz book Men Who Go to Brothels, where academics (usually female) spend 300++ pages asking these questions. But virtually nowhere on a forum like this do you find any such analysis...

Maybe it doesn't matter.  Maybe it's as simple as a man needs sex, doesn't always get it where he wants it so he pays it.  But I've almost never mongered while in a relationship, although I haven't been in many long termers (just turned 30).  I often wonder if I meet the girl of my dreams and truly fall in love, if the sex drops off a bit (which in every relationship I guess it does) while I go back to my old ways.  If I do, how guilty will I feel?  Very, I expect and hope it doesn't happen.  But it doesn't sound like several brothers are too bovvered

Anyways, I feel a bit miffed at being shot down by several for raising in Q&A evening a vaguely reflective / emotional question.  As some responses demonstrate, the board is up to those standards

Thx Rico for nice - and perceptive - reply

Grumbles, maybe you should pray to the grown up Jesus. I doubt "Baby" Jesus will understand the actual issues / problems we have to deal with.

Baggins

Alright bro..You sounded a bit tense in your last comment..I am happily married but i still see wgs. .Do i feel guilty "NO.."..I visit wgs for my cardinal needs.. Not to pleasure the wgs but to MY needs..( Sounds crude..i know but true..)
If you feel guilty then just don't monger..( We do not have to see wgs..)..What are the alternatives..  Having an affair..One night stands..( If i did either of those..I WOULD FEEL GUILTY..) But seeing wgs..I just consider that i am just paying for her services..And when my cardinal needs are satisfied..I move on..
Another thought for you bro..."Why do we wank and think of other women.." Isn't your other half WOMAN enough for you...".Aquiring the services of a wg is just another more enjoyable form of release bro..

OMG ... this forum is not psyc 101 ...  this forum is about mongering and reporting / trading info on the
WGs we been nailing !!!  Why do you think the Admin of this site let us have this forum ?

If any of us needs to reflect on what we've been enjoying then they should do what ever it takes to get their act
together ... but not on this forum please !

It's an American thing; over here we pray to the Baby Jesus (Baby pronounced 'bebe').

The Reverend, who is obviously a Good Man, doesn't seem to understand that his question implies moral condemnation. He is implicitly stating that we are insensitive and cruel creatures who, just for a bit of pussy, betray our women. He wants to know, how on earth, we can bring ourselves to do such a thing, because he "really couldn't do it." He expects he'd feel guilty and "hopes it doesn't happen to him."

If he didn't think guys in relationships seeing prostitutes was Wrong, why the guilt thing, and why raise the question at all?

And then to add insult to injury, the guy accuses us of being too dumb to understand his post.

Does his unctuous tone not justify a bit of mockery from a humble, if morally inferior, bro?

[ Last edited by  Marsupial at 26-11-2009 11:45 ]

ALMOST? So you have in fact, mongered while in a relationship.


So, even if you fall truly in love, you're still not sure if you'll return to mongering to satisfy your sexual needs.

So much for your statement ... "I really couldn't do it" in your original post. Sounds like that's not completely true.

Leny, please read the post - I said "seemingly happily keep mongering...I really couldn't do it"

Anyway, I accept some of my posts have sounded a bit petulant and I'll just let this one slide.  Some of you have said some interesting and even nice things, some of you have been plain unpleasant, in my view.

Twice sets out the essence of the board and how my post was somewhat outside that....so be it...I'll accept that

Good night....and good luck