Reply #1 xiao38's post
I can't help but chime in on this one. To be sure, I am happy for you and for your success as other bros do and congratulate you on your developing a true love relationship with her despite her being an exWG. As you are pondering the possibility of marrying her and taking her to the US, many bros have already warned you about the potential future confrontations between your two partly because of her profession in the past. Since you are worried about thinking too much or perhaps too little, I would also like to point to you the pitfalls of the American divorce system that may potentially wrack you havoc in the future in case your relationship goes sour (being a divorced man yourself, you probably already know it firsthand if not already having suffered from it). If you bring her to the States, you should know that she can easily become Americanized and find out sooner than later the overwhelming advantage a woman has over man in the US divorce system. What if she elects to utilize that advantage, how can you protect yourself from the tremendous loss both financially and emotionally?
If you want more food for thought or wish to foresee any traps that may lie in the future, I recommend a post on that issue I recently read on the WSG board (http://www.worldsexguide.com/for ... =28151&page=3). I am trying to paste it below if space permits. It is a bit long and the advice a little harsh, hope you can wade it through and find some enlightenment. The point of his thesis, I believe, is that don't get married. It is truly a bad deal for men. If you must, marry a foreign girl, marry her in her own country but don't bring her as a spouse to the States.
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By whoremonger501
Romantics and the women that prey on them make for a dangerous combination. As Shakespeare says, "Know thyself". I can add, be thyself! Do not kid yourself with romantic dreams. There is no magic potion from marrying a foreign woman. Women are the same all over the world. Some are a bit harder than others, some are a bit softer. I've fucked so many I cant remember. I've been to every whoring destination on earth. I've looked for romance. Its 1 in 10,000, and its usually with an ugly girl, or an older gal who has to offer a good heart, its all she has! If you want romance, go for the fuglies, not the 20 year old prom queens. If you want the prom queens, you got to go where the fish are, and stay in your boat. Keep dangling the idea you will return to the states with her, but never do it. It sounds cold, but love is a battlefield, right? You have to accept and be realistic that you're attraction is an economic advantage (a great one for you I might add) and the minute you realize it and accept it for what it is, you will be much happier. And I might add, these women will love and respect you more. I know there will be situations different from what I describe, maybe if you are a 25 year old fit professional, a young chick will "love" you, for real. But chances are, you''ve got plenty of choices in the USA and dont have to be on WSG ha ha lol! Yes, its ironic, but not careing if they love you or not is the solution. If not, you will be thought of as a fool, and they will abuse your trust. Never never never bring them here! Why not?
Well, let me see, my current gf is a Russian mail order bride. Everyone we meet asks me that with a sly grin. I say "she came UPS, but I didnt pay the postage!" Within one month of getting her final green card, she left her husband, cleaned out his checking account and is applying for alimony. She wants to move in with me, fuck NO! He flew her here for $5000 bucks and he's broke. She laughs when I fuck her and says she wants to make a fuck movie together to send to him. She gave me his wedding ring to wear around my neck, that's how fucked up she is. She's selfish and could care less about anyone. She likes me because I fuck her good, grab her hair and spank her. She says I "fuck her rudely". If I'm in the middle of a crisis, it doesnt matter, when she wants something, she wants it NOW. She will interrupt me on the phone, and try to make me stop my call. I have to tell her to fuck off a lot, and she respects me. I've met a circle of mail order brides through her and the one thing they have in common is loser, dependent husbands who dont fuck them. In my opinion, its worse to have a foreign bride who doesnt respect you, than one that doestn love you. I believe a lot of you guys, like me, have been treaded upon so much, you have no self esteem. At least I didnt. 10 years of whoring have cured that. I can now get girls here, just like when I'm whoring. She wants me to marry her, and I say, "so I can get a shitty deal like you're fucking over your husband? " She says "you are too clever for me".
Dont fool yourself with ridiculous romantic dreams. You are dysfunctional and cannot get a very young goodlooking woman here, so you have to travel around the world to a poverty stricken country where a woman will trade her looks for your money and security. I believe I can speak with authority on this, because I've been to numerous MOB tours and seen you guys. Its not "maturity" the girls want, its security and money. When you accept this fact, you will do the right thing, because you will have the realistic attitude. If you live with rose colored glasses, you will have your butt fucked by the US divorce system, which is severely stacked against you. She will get free housing, free lawyer, free college classes, all for saying you hit her. She wont hesitate to accuse you. I've fucked 2 girls who admitted this to me, its REAL! You will be fighting to keep a wife beater rap off your record, and to keep your hard earned bucks from these cunts. Heed the wise man's warnings guys. Go to their country. Like the culture, rent a place and live there low-key. You'll have more gf's than you can handle. You're biggest problem will be juggling them all. I wish I was rich enough for two apartments! So I could stagger them, and leave my gals sleeping.
OK, so you like Vietnamese culture, move your ass over there! She'll treat you like a king! But if you bring her here, maybe 10% of you will have enough game to keep a foreign bride. After having a Russian girlfriend, I will NEVER marry a Russian woman. After several trips to Thailand and Thai girlfriends, I will NEVER marry a Thai woman. I had a Colombian girlfriend too ha ha! She spoke perfect english and was the interpreter at the marriage agency I used. She purposely messed up my appointments and made a pass at me. I said, "what if I married you down here and we lived here?" here response "NEVER!"
So do you understand? I'm not saying the loving romantic faithful woman is not there, but your chances of meeting her on a short trip, where you're only focused on looks is very slim to none. To find one like that, you have to live in the country, have a respectable position or business, and meet her through family contacts etc. If a girl knows english, knows how to use the internet, western union, she's a player. Its ok, if you accept it and know what you're dealing with going in. But if you are one of thes romantic dreamers, (and OMG, when I went to Colombia, you should have seen the timid little rabbits at the first social, scared of the girls) you should wake up quick, because you have to sign a 10 year promise of support for your K-1 wife. She will leave after 2 years, and you will pay for 8 more. And they will accuse you of hitting or pushing them, to get the temporary restraining order and temporary green card. I've personally dated and fucked two women who have done this. They laugh at you fools. So be warned. So you ask, like my dad did, why I stay with this cunt? Because I like the pussy. She is jealous and sees my pictures of trips to Bangkok and Angeles on the fridge, and when I tell her they are prostitutes, she was fascinated. She know's she cant get my money, and I can get fucked when I want, so she doesnt manipulate me like these women will walk all over you romantic dreamers. I hope you're not mad at me, or think I'm insulting you! I want to help you to the truth. There's a reason you cant get a girl here. Me too! We're older and the young ones dont want us here. So we go overseas. But dont think you can bring one back, you're dreaming. If you keep your guard up like you do with whores, your fiance or gf will love you. Just be happy you can at least go overseas. If you're finances are streched, DO NOT bring her here because you cant afford to go whoring enough. You will regret it. My girls husband is on a 20k pension, and she wants $500 bucks of his money, while she's living free with friends. I tell her she will bankrupt him, she is black-hearted and she says "that is his problem". Do you get it? Be careful guys! | |
