After my first experience of a Sauna Girl in China I left, walked down the street and felt kinda empty and guilty - this feeling continued for a day and I vowed never to go to a WG again, but today the feeling is back again and while writing a report for the china section made me really horny. I have a wife and 2small kids and don't wanna lose them, but I love going with WG's now and don't want a mistress to complicate things more. When I first got married I never thought I'd be doing this but 5 yrs later here I am! My wife is Chinese and she'd prob divorce me if she found out. How do other bro's deal withe guilt? Perhaps cause i'm still quite young (under 30), a newbie etc I just need to accept this is the way life is and every guy lusts after other women, or am I an exception? Any advice would be appreciated.

If you want to pursue this career and all it offers you must learn how to lie and plan extremely well. It is addictive, high risk, and rewarding.

Let's not kid ourselves, you do put your marriage at risk. I think it's healthy you feel guilt, I do, yet I still have been mongering for over 20 years, married longer than that, and I have children too. It's your decision, and yours alone.

If you do proceed then I recommend you learn how to compartmentalise parts of your life and the ability to keep such parts separate. It does mean lying to your partner but you can, and should minimise this ...

Care to copy your China post over to the English side?

Cheers for the advice Froddo - Right now i'm not sure if I'll keep mongering, depends how I feel from day to day. I can see how it could become really addictive, so I'll try to limit myself. Living in HK doesn't help! Will be moving to smalltown Aus in a couple of years which should lessen the temptation! BTW I posted  the details in the China Report Forum in English - not the Chinese forum!

[ Last edited by  gooner22 at 29-3-2009 22:58 ]

someone please move this to question and advice

As Froddo says, this is a moral question that we all face.  Some wrestle with the answer and the balance, however it is a personal decision.  I look at it from another angle and say by mongering I'm not forming any emotional attachments to a mistress and therefore there is a vast difference between the two.  One is for physical fulfilment and the other is emotional.  I guess we all need to figure out if the reward is worth the potential consequences.

it's ok to feel guilty, if you don't, it shows you don't care about your wife & family!
for me, i test my love for my wife by visiting WGs....
the more guilty i feel after the deed, the more i know i love my wife...

Guilty b;cos you want to do it again.
But after a few more visits, you manage find.

So, to get rid of the guilt, you either stop now and stay faithful for the rest of your life or continue punting and get use to it .

I'm not sure if guilt is the exact thing you're feeling. If you were truly "guilty" you wouldn't choose this hobby in the first place. Doubly so if you keep coming back for more.

Giving you the benefit of the doubt here, I'm guessing is that you're worried about is hurting your wife's feelings and the damage that could be done if you got caught (or exposed). That's OK, and it's a valid concern. You'll just need to plan carefully to keep your hobby private, and take precautions to preserve your wife's feelings. I really would recommend that you take this to such a level that you don't have to lie to your wife because she'll never ask you about it.

Good luck wrestling with your conscious, my guess is that you'll choose compartmentalization as  Froddo suggests; but asking for an answer here is literally like asking questions about abstinence at a sexaholics convention. You don't really expect us punters to give you good advise about fidelity do you?

-G

Looks like compartmentalising stuff in my life will win the day - have no intention of lying to my spouse, she's away visiting family at the moment so not difficult to get away with stuff, just got to limit myself when she's back!

Gary hit the nail on the head with this.

Just be sure... While you are rationalizing your way through, it is rock-solid enough to not leave any telltale signs.

Dude your wife must be a stunner that you're married young and have 2 kids already!.

Anyway, the temptation of more pussies to taste is too unbearable in life but since it's your first time, I am sure the guilty feeling will go away when you get older or when it's your 100th times.

That's another problem, she is a real stunner even after 2 kids - if you saw her you'd choose her over 100 sauna girls, but me being married to her means i'm too spoilt to appreciate it! Life is way too weird - i've got a Ferrari F40 at home that I can drive anytime I like but i'm always dreaming about driving cheaper, lesser cars and I even find them more exciting to drive!

I often feel guilty, I'm not only worried about losing my gf, I also think that she deserves a partner who is faithful because she really is a great girl.

On the other hand there is too much temptation in Hong Kong. I managed to cut down on my hobby for two reasons:-
1. Fear of giving my gf STD. A bro told me a girl I had visited was rumored to have STD, which scared the crap out of me whilst I did blood tests (all negative).

2. Pouring as much sexual energy as possible into pleasuring my gf

That is classic post G!   Finding good humour is one of the benefits of  the Forum.

Wacko says: "One is for physical fulfilment and the other is emotional"  Which I sort of disagree with, in my instance anyway the two can be blurred .... I still get great sexual/physical fulfilment from my wife, and have done all our time together. Although I accept the "fulfilment" part of it is not as frequent these days, it can just be the "routine" at times, but then again so can a WG.  

My motivation is really down to wanting variety, and fucking 20 year old honeys. Let's face it, you don't live forever, you will get old, and there will be a time when ??  ..... nah let's keep this on a positive beat.

It's a bit like "Fight Club" ...

Welcome to 141:
  The first rule of 141 is:  you do not talk about 141 with your Wife or GF.
  The second rule of 141 is:  you DO NOT talk about 141 with your Wife or GF!
  Third rule of 141: if someone yells "stop!", goes limp, or taps out, the fuck is over.
  Fourth rule:  fuck as many girls as you physically can.
  Fifth rule:  one fuck at a time, fellas, unless you can wrangle a 3P(+).
  Sixth rule:  the fucks are not bare back. No condom, no fuck.
  Seventh rule:  fucks will go on as long as they have to.
  And the Eighth and final rule: if this is your first time at 141, you have to fuck [PS: and report].


[ Last edited by  Froddo at 31-3-2009 21:11 ]

Perfect analogy! It's completely like Fight Club, we're a kind of fraternity of sex addicts that live a secret life of punting!

-G

not really....i live in aus but i still manage to fly back for fun....

ok - i'm a newbie to the HK scene no more, been out every night so far since Saturday! Have done 2 in their early twenties, 2 in their thirties (Chinese) and 1 thai chick! The 2 older chinese gals were really relaxed and both gave me great massages first was with them for 45mins each time - the two younger ones were really rushed and one didn't even crack a smile and I was in and out in about 5 and 10 mins respectively! None of the gals in question are on this site - it seems loads share the same ad in the places I went to (Sham Shui Po and Mong Kok).

Congrats! When you have time don't forget to post a report!

Wow .... when the pendulum swings, it sure swings a long way, huh? ...

Just be careful you don't get complacent.  Watch every trace you leave like a hawk.

Men need just plain old sex,fucking with more than one person.It's just in us to need to fuck as many women as we can.
I dont try and fight it.
Just dont tell your wife or girl friend you need this shit unless she likes to get freaky.
Most women dont understand that men need to just go fuck a hooker now and again.
I think it is perfectly natural.
I really happy that a guy can be almost anyplace in Asia and find a place to get good service.