Subject: Dating a WG?
lazytjai
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Dating a WG?

Just wonderig if you would do it?

Here is the situation I walked up at Lai Chi Kok on of the building with allot of girls and the door opened a very shy girl. She speaks cantonese and she is cute. She said its her first time and from her shy behavior is really her first time working there. She told be her friend normally works here and said she could earn some quick bucks, so she wanted to try it out and I am the very first client. Well as she didn't know what to do we kinda snuggled a bit first before be went and took a shower together. Basic story we did it together and after I unloaded, we dressed up and she asked me to stay longer and snuggle and kissed.

She said she is from HK and live at Sheung Shui. But I had to leave cause I of work. I think probably could had gotten second round for free. We exchanged phone numbers.
We went out of a few dates at Sheung Shui and kissed, she asked me if I go to a hotel with her but I asked rather see where she lives. But she better not go there as she has a shrines in her house and rather keep her house from dirty thing like us doing it there. I asked her if she did anyone else that day she said I was the only one. Have to say I haven't seen her showing up in the database nor at the same place we met.

Only thing bothering me is she is not showing where she lives  as she said she lives alone, but we can do it in a hotel. But have to say Sheung Shui hotels are not pretty and pretty pricey.

Have now kept her at a distance but have to say can call her up anytime just to do it at some hotel. For the moment not want her to go to my place. Also she seem to change jobs quite regularly but seem that she really worked at those places as everytime we went shopping the workers greets her and know her. She is lower class worker mostly work at shops like park and shop or selling clothes in a shop.
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Reply #1 lazytjai's post

Well go ahead and have fun... just keep your wits about you and don't try to change her or think you can.  She's doing WG work because she needs the money.  This wont change if you start dating her unless you plan to "sponsor" her.

What are you hoping to get out of the relationship?  If you are seeking a "real" girlfriend than a WG is not a great choice.  If it is just to have a pretty trophy gal to fun with once in a while than go for it.
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Guess she be nice plaything as I doubt can be anything serious as mostly don't talk much just have strong sexual desires with her.
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Reply #3 lazytjai's post

As wander says, yeah, go for it

but be very clear WITH YOURSELF about where the limits are for
- time together
- money (per meeting / per month / gifts / etc)

I think it's OK for her not to want to bring you home ... that's kinda intimate ... if she likes hotels, go to a hotel.
But I'm also ready to bet that after meeting you regularly for a while, and you treat her respectfully, she may well invite you home one day.  Women are like that, they get hormonal and decide you're The One.  If you want a GF you need to act like a BF.  

You used the word "dating" ... and the truth is the reason we do dating at all is because it works ... girls enjoy the ritual, and as long as you're enjoying yourself, why not?  

Just notice when it's not fun any more, and act accordingly




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She sounds reasonably genuine to me but you will always have in the back of your mind she is a WG.  I feel that you will never trust that she can turn around and do a few 'tricks' to get some extra cash.

Enjoy while it lasts but keep some distance.
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Post at 1-4-2013 09:30  Profile P.M. 
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It sounds a little odd.  I get that you think she is not really a WG, however you said she is "lower class" and working at low level jobs, but she is rom HK and has her own place.  Those things don't really seem to line up.

I don't know your background, but remember that even if you get into a relationship, there are some limits to what she might be able to do compared to you (travel).  And eventually her whole family will come into play.  So I would try to keep it light and casual.  Don't make any promises and don't expect too much.

I'm not surprised she doesn't want to take you home.  Neighbors in China can be a real bitch.  Image is important.  Just ask her for photos for now to show you are interested.

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Dating WG's is tricky.  Personal rule of mine is to pay her even if it is a nominal amount especially if you guys do the deed; otherwise you may be blurring the civi / pro lines...




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Reply #1 lazytjai's post

I've dated a few here or there, but since I'm from out of town, it was easier to keep the appropriate boundaries.  Emotionally, you should not expect her to be monogamous even if that is your agreement.  For me, I found the emotional part easier to manage than the safety part.  It's real easy to convince yourself that BB is safe, but of course if you're also expecting that she will play around when you're not there; well that's the ultimate in mental 'compartmentalization.'

And I've seen plenty of experienced girls who could fake being a newbie.

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matsumoto   3-4-2013 20:17  Acceptance  +4   Good pt, the few WGS w/ whom I spent time outside eventually wanted BBFS




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Originally posted by kaleu at 1-4-2013 09:30

It sounds a little odd.  I get that you think she is not really a WG, however you said she is "lower class" and working at low level jobs, but she is rom HK and has her own place.  Those things don't really seem to line up.

I don't see anything too odd there. You can be from HK and have your own place while being "lower class" and working at low level jobs. For example, many divorcees, especially those from the Mainland, are in similar situations.




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Have to say living in New territories aint that expensive can get a nice decent place for 3000hkd per month and pretty clean and new and lower class job still get something like 6000 per month you can still live on your own.

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Reply #8 TheButler's post

Couldn't agree more.  I was a "super regular" for a while with a WG. We had Real chemistry, she travelled with me a few times, she never asked me for money but I was always quite generous so she wouldn't have to.  After a bit we BBFS'd every time. It was stupid beyond belief. I convinced myself that I was special and therefore it was safe. Stupid.
Ultimately we had a major pregnancy scare. I have three kids that I love dearly. When the pregnancy scare resolved itself (turned out she was simply late with her period), I woke up and vowed never again. I saw my whole life pass before my eyes,and my kids and SO leaving me,etc. it was a damn nightmare.

Anyway, best sex of my life no questions. hands down. But not worth it. Really.  These girls are in this for a reason and no matter how special they make you feel, never forget that you may very well be a means to an end.

All the above being said, the WG I was involved never took advantage of me. Ever. She could have and I left myself vulnerable to that but she was 100 times more honorable than me. I still think about her weekly at least. she was and is a truly good person. An honest person. Rare in this world and rarer still in the WG scene.  

She's still working and I hope she's treated well by all who see her but I can't see her again, I actually feel too strongly for her.

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wander   3-4-2013 22:32  Acceptance  +1   I've been on this bus. Yeah, scary. Glad it worked out for you.
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