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Post at 6-7-2011 21:59 Profile P.M.

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Friend or friend with mutual benefits or hooker?

Hi,
I recently got in touch with girl over the internet. She is a local, speaks very good english, well educated and beautiful.

The way it started was, she asked me for money, I agreed and we had sex and I paid.

But it has been all extremely GFE. We have been meeting after that and it has been more now like friends rather than just sex. Infact she doesn't ask for money anymore but I load her with gifts.

We both don't expect anything out of this relationship just some good quality time.

But the main concern that I have got now is the way it was started. I paid and she asked for money and this is prostitution. But now that is not the case. I believe that she has been seeing other men too.

anyways, just want your opinions or if anyone had similar experience in Hong Kong, then please share it with me.

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Post at 6-7-2011 22:52 Profile P.M.

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Yeah, we do like to categorize life and put it in neat little boxes, don't we.  This gal's a hooker, this one isn't - so nice and clean and easy to think about.

The fact remains that many non-WG relationships have many of the characteristics of prostitution, and many WG hookups have all of the hallmarks of a good boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

Life isn't binary, thank god.  If you have found someone to share quality time with, just enjoy and don't get all hung up about it.

As far as her seeing other men; I presume you have been fucking other women too?  If you want exclusivity - then that's a whole new conversation.

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Post at 7-7-2011 03:55 Profile Blog P.M.

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I think I would have been one of the "other" guys.
I knew she was seeing other guys at the time. While they weren't paying her, she was receiving gifts. I didn't care, I was single, I knew she was clean. The girl was from HK.

Look. like yazoo said, you can't put life into neat little boxes.
Look at the relationship you have with her.
You enjoy f*cking her? Then f*ck her.
If you think you're taking advantage of her situation. Pay her.
If you want something more. Talk to her.

Here's a tip I've found about friends with benefits tho. Someone ALWAYS eventually becomes attached.

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Post at 7-7-2011 10:43 Profile P.M.

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Thanks a lot for sharing your views. I agree to what you both said but I am concerned about one of us getting attached.
If this happens then it be will be a big mess.
But I think doing realty checks from time to time might prevent both of us.
Let's see. At the moment, we both are enjoying the time and feeling much better.
Thanks once again.

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Post at 7-7-2011 12:38 Profile P.M.

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@ Born - I do know how old are you...but from the dound of things (you saying things might get messy if either one is attached) sounds like you are growing feelings.

Better be clear it's just company and good fun .....no misleading false expectations. of you are F*cked BIG time!

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Post at 7-7-2011 14:08 Profile P.M.

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QUOTE:

Originally posted by UncleDad at 7-7-2011 03:55
...Here's a tip I've found about friends with benefits tho. Someone ALWAYS eventually becomes attached.
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well i had the opposite happen to me... i had a girlfriend (so obviously we were attached), then we broke up, then we started seeing each other again just to fuck.

so from GF to friends with benefits. i guess sometimes it turns out better

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Post at 7-7-2011 18:50 Profile P.M.

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Reply #6 DaBestHK's post

Yeah ... and I know someone who divorced her husband ... met got engaged to and then broke up with someone else ... and now is back with her ex-husband on revised terms ... full circle from spouse to friends-without-benefits ... its working fine for them.

Best to avoid preconceptions!!!

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Post at 7-7-2011 21:49 Profile P.M.

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The friends thing is just a crock, as said above, someone always expects more no matter what is agreed. Better to pay to play. Much easier in the long run.
I had a Chinese girlfriend, she knew I was married and I was very clear that I wasn'tabout to leave my wife/kids but she pushed and pushed, drove me nuts. When I broke it off she called my home, etc. Very untidy, lucky to get out of that one.
Mind you, she fucked like it was her last day on earth and her BJ's were out of this world! Great couple of years.

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Post at 7-7-2011 22:03 Profile P.M.

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Reply #1 born's post

One way or another the man always ends up paying for sex. Expect this and enjoy the fucking.

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Post at 7-7-2011 23:45 Profile P.M.

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before you ask anyone else for their opinion, you have to be honest with yourself and ask if you want more?
if you don't, then hit and run, if you have to pay for the ride, then so be it
but be clear that there are no alternative motive, whichever it may be; friends or friends with benefits
but you want more, then its best to discuss with this girl and spell out your intentions
better you find out now its too late
nobody wants to get hurt