Bros, while giving my local MILF her birthday present in one of the Kowloon Tong hotels she turned to me and said she wanted to say something. She then said the words that makes the heart turn cold.... I love you.   I didn't react and gave her another one instead.

We are both married and have been meeting up for mutual pleasure and enjoyment for 14 months. Now she is getting emotional.

Looking for words of advise Bros. Time to move on or how to handle emotional MILFs.

KW, you enjoyed her for 14 months...its time for some fresh new blood.  Get out before she tells her husband or your wife. Millfs are only good for a short time, not a long time. Start the new year off with some fresh new blood. 2007 is now history.  Take care bros.

14 months is not a short time. Women do get emotionally attached as time goes by. I presume you stayed for 14 months because she had certain qualities. Was it clearly discussed in the beginning that this is a physical relationship and that only? (I kind of doubt it, since men are very bad in this type of discussions) You have to decide how YOU want to handle this, since you are the only one who knows all the details. My personal advice is to let her down easy if you plan to end it. (and by posting here, I assume you are already favouring a departure) People don't usually ask for help when they are still trying to save the relationship. Be kind and nice to her and make it like it's your fault that things didn't go well. I think she will be forever grateful.

In all my years I've never had to end a relationship with a girl friend ... and there's been many even after
marrage. Most relationships were 1 - 3 years long and had multiple relationships at the same time.

I can't really explain it, when the time comes and I felt the relationship had ran its course I start doing
subtle things that they dislike, it takes a few months, sometimes up to 6 months and it works, they end up
breaking with me and sometimes feeling sorry for me (I know, I know I sound like a rat, but I've been good to them)
Most of these girls ended up as friends and in still contact with each other. Infact there's 4 girls/women I still
have a sexual relationship with (when they need IT) but not often though ...

Bro Kiltwearer ... all depends on the emotional state of your partner, only you will know.
Has she talked about devorcing her hubby? is so - get out of ther FAST !
If you have a family that you want to keep together, and things are not out of hand - then if you
have the paitience do it my way ... but just remember nothing lasts forever.

IMO, that'll never work. My guess is she'll realise immediately that you're just trying to dump her.

Whatever you do bro - finish it quickly before she does something stupid like tell her husband.
When I was single I had a few affairs [4] with married women and in every case they told their husbands.
Mind you, all mine were western women and I don't really know how Chinese women are with this kind of thing.
But, now that I'm married, I would never have an affair with a married woman - single gals only.

But you gotta start by cooling it right down bro. Stop being nice, stop calling, make excuses why you can't see her
and she'll soon get the message. You gotta be cruel to be kind. Just stop seeing her and don't expect to be
friends afterwards. Trust me bro, she's gonna hate you, no matter what you do.

Jake - 4 married women and they told their husbands ???
Now I know why you're in HK - in exile right ?      

Sorry, don't know why I'm in such a good mood today !

woww four married women... Jake just a question didnt any1 of them see the movie "Fatal Attraction"    

Lucky you.

P.S. no offence to JAke bro...

sigh

never get involved with a married woman who is still married

it's simply not worth it ........................................................

Totally agree, it's a tough road when you are dealing with married women.

Only one pro and many cons ....

the only pro is no commitment but that changes as in Kiltwearer's case ...

Women - can't live with them, can't live without them !!!  thats life

And that is why we are all here trying to figure things out.   It is often hard to get that GFE feeling unless you dated the women a few times. To have a steady sex partner is not an easy undertaking. (especially when you don't want attachment or involvement) The closest I can think of is if the women is also successful and established. Both parties are busy and successful. No time to fish around, just want to get down to the hot dirty sex.  No committments and no obligations. It is usually a rare relationship. (not too many 20s and 30s successful women, and how many of the successful brothers here will go for a 40s successful lady for something long term even if she is well kept physically) For shear pleasure, the competition is too stiff out there.

I thought the 3 words were "I am pregnant"

Have you ever given her the impression that you intended to leave your wife? If not, and you would like to continue the relationship, be candid with her: tell her you would like to continue seeing her, but that you will never leave your wife. Then it's her decision what to do, so that let's you off the hook.

Or.  "I'm a guy"

Mars ... do you mean  gay ???     


ooooops ... sorry - I thought you ment guy talking to girl  

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yes, this one is "scary"

First of all, when all this started did you agree that if things got emotional that it would have to end?  That is my number one rule when it comes to affairs, married, not married, whatever.  Make sure she knows that I am not leaving the wife from the start and do not expect he to leave her husband.  

Like I said in a thread earlier, situations like these NEVER work out.

Best thing to do is cut if fast and end it immediately before the shit hits the fan.

Trust me, this is coming from someone who is experienced at this type of thing.

Doesn't matter what type of woman, east/west all the same, one word: CRAZY.

GET OUT NOW!

Spoken like a true believer!!  (better listen to this one)

okay, i can understand the need to run as fast as you can from this,

but has anyone considered that her "i love you" might not mean strong emotional attachment to the extreme of wanting to divorce and destroy someone elses marriage?

maybe she just felt really good, and wanted to express it in words and it slipped out, without meaning all the extra stuff that may be associated with it.

try to get a better reading of where her emotions are going with this.

smacks heman across the back of his head.


Normally I am not a violent person but I had to do it.