For me, it all started with getting scammed, back in 2007 or so.
I'd recently started travelling regularly to Shanghai for work, and on about my second visit, very much still a China newbie, I found myself walking down Nanjing Road, and chatting to a girl who "wanted to practice her English".
I was/am happily married, and had never strayed, but although this girl wasn't exactly a looker, I was in a strange place, far from home, and I enjoyed the attention. So I agreed to drink coffee with her, and was a little surprised (but hey, things are differnet in China, so who's to know what's normal?) when she called her friend to come join us, and when they started bring stuff I hadn't ordered, like a plate of fruit to the table. While we drank, the girl rubber her hand along my leg, and flirted, and her friend told me how good it would be to have a Chinese wife...
Of course, all they were doing was keeping me there, so that I could get a bill for 800 RMB for the coffee, fruit and ladies drinks
, but it put the idea of female company in China into my head. I'd had a taste, and I wanted more!
So, being a clueless newbie, I searched online, finding escortschina.com. It may have changed since, but at the time that site was very much a scam (yes, I was making a habit of this!). I collected a lot email addresses from "escorts" advertising on the site, and emailed them letting them know I was coming to Shanghai and were they interested in hooking up, would they stay overnight, and how much? Mostly I got no replies, and I got a couple of "fuck off"s (so I assume that this site used real girl's email addresses, without their permission), plus a couple who came back with crazy money like 3000 RMB short time and 6000 overnight - well out of my price range!
But this one girl came back with comments that seemed genuine - she was interested in meeting me, before she decided anything. She called herself Angel.
We agreed to meet in the hotel (I stayed at the Equatorial) lobby and go for a drink in the hotel bar, to get to know each other. We were both awkward. I tried to buy her something alcoholic to loosen her up, but she only wanted water. After I'd had a drink, I guess I must have passed first inspection (not a total raving looney, I suppose), Angel agreed to come up to my room with me.
So - more awkwardness. We sat in chairs facing each other. She explained that she had never done this before, and I said "me neither"! I hadn't expected that I'd end up with someone inexperienced, but she seemed so nervous that I believed her. She said that she was intrigued by my email messages, and wanted to give it a go. By the way, her English was perfect - she worked as a tour guide, and a business assistant (help foreigners do business), and now, potentially, as an escort. Angel was ok looking - nice enough face (3/5), slim, but no boobs (A cup) and very flat bum - but I didn't care. I liked her awkwardness. I asked her how much to spend the night with me, but she wasn't sure. She said that she'd asked a friend who knew the business before coming to see me, and she was told around $200-$300. But she still didn't know if she wanted to do it.
I asked her to come sit with me in the arm chair, telling her she can leave any time she's uncomfortable, and she came over, and we cuddled a bit and she agreed to stay.
Moving to the bed, I slowly undressed her, kissing her in the meantime, taking my own clothes off (didn't even think of showering, and neither did she), we moved into DFK and roaming - very GFE. But becuase I was so nervous myself (kept telling myself I was cheating and shouldn't be doing this), I couldn't get hard. So I just spent a lot of time playing with Angel, going down on her, fingering her - she got unbelievably wet, and seemed to enjoy the time. Eventually I was hard, and capped myself - and lost it again! And then again, and again!
It had been hours of playing, but I was getting nowhere. So, in my frustration, I went to do her bareback, and she didn't object - and that did the trick for me!
It felt wonderful! Also unbelievably stupid!
And, in more stupidity, I told her that I'd just done the most stupid thing in my life. She was really offended. Told me that she wasn't a working girl, this wasn't something she did, and she was clean. And, she was right - I was lucky, and didn't catch anything! Then we slept, and in the morning we did it again, this time with a condom (I was more relaxed with her, so didn't deflate again...). And then I left her in bed, told her she could sleep in and let herself out, left 2000 RMB in her handbag, and went to work.
I was happy - and saw her again many times on my Shanghai visits, not only at night (she always stayed the night), but we'd often sightsee during weekends. And I always paid her, but usually less than that, as time went on.
All in all, a good first experience, after a slow and awkward start!