The big stereotype is that guys cheat on their spouses/girlfriends because they don't love them or that they are not happy in the relationship.

I don't know about you guys, but it's the furthest from the truth for me. I love my wife and I love to have sex with her too. We do it twice a week. One of the perks of having sex with my wife is BB sex into her nice wet pussy. It's hot and I love it.

But think about it. Do you eat the same thing every day? Of course not. You try different things out.

Plus every man, whether they realize it or not, has it in their DNA to fuck as many women as possible.

Anyway when I monger, I'm not having an affair. The last thing I want is an affair. It's just a fun hobby. But my one true girl is at home.

What are your thoughts on this?

you're absolutely right; male DNA dicates that we have sex with as many women as possible. but we've reached a point where our consciousness allows us to override the programming provided by our DNA - this is a fact. as such, I feel that saying "I use WGs because I'm programmed to" is a weak reason.

but don't misunderstand me; I'm not against WGs nor am I against the people who use their services. Im merely pointing out the flaw I see in your argument

I think it's better to say "I use WGs because it's fun. It's fun because I'm programmed to think it's fun. It's not fun to override that programming."

And I'm in a slightly different situation. I'm younger and so I'm not married yet. But I have a wonderful girlfriend who I love dearly and do hope to marry someday. But she's rather traditional and won't have sex before marriage. So I satisfy my urges with WGs because I agree that it's not cheating. I won't even kiss a WG. It's just about satisfying my lust.

[ Last edited by  Deggwin at 6-1-2011 18:48 ]

Sorry to say, not as good as with girls who are not my spouse.

Keep on mongering

I was having a think about this today!! Perhaps it is time for a new main stream model.

Interpretation only

Society defines a simplistic structure which I will call the traditional relationship - you me marry = hubby and wife ... life. much like an organisational structure of a company - boss/employee/team. This guideline allows us to become accustom to each other (like etiquette) and interact in a bearable manner resolving many difficulties.

However, within an organisation, your function and activity is not typically isolated to this relationship. Where you start interacting with other units because of the natural need (evolution of the business needs based on traditional job role definition) or simply things or characteristics are so diverse that the traditional definition can't cover it!

So organic relationships are the natural relationships that eventuate from diverse human nature. While there are definitions of an organic society which discuss points of a correct nature ie. virtue and the absence of decadence - which if not present may lead to violence - in my opinion refers to the intent. So if you have the right intent, you are in the clear

I believe this is a Pro-DNA point - Let the mongering rock on!

Ref: Prof. Plinio Corrêa de Oliveira - organic society

[ Last edited by  out2play at 9-1-2011 21:26 ]

hey bro... i think every guy on this forum knows and feels what you are saying...
but.. try telling it to the spouse..

if she can accept your explanation, pls teach us how you did it.

For me its more about the service. I mean from a paid service with WG you expect to be treated like a king. They are like there just to please you. My wife and i have good sex but she doesn't service me like i would like. Which is unfortunate and thats why i would want to monger.
Also, sex is an enjoyment of life, it should be cherished and enjoyed, if you got the money to pay to sleep with beautiful woman i dont see that as being a problem. Yes i def pro Tiger woods.

With my g/f it is pretty good atm, which is why i've only had maybe one WG in the past 4-5 months or so.

does your wife know or suspect that you monger? Actually, surprisingly some women do not mind it. So understanding of them!

Sex with my wife was the BEST..... in the first six months or so. Now it's getting a little dry. No matter how tasty one thing is you'd get bored after eating it everyday. That's why I keep mongering on the side. But I'm always mindful about saving some for my wife though.

Sex with wife is still great.  Average about twice per week.  Lots of oral and bareback.  We are very comfortable with each other and enjoy.

BUT, this doesn't mean I don't jack off or see WGs on the side.  Actually I only see WGs when I travel..

All are cracking a nut, but all very different.

Che'lu

I am quite young and I have been with my g/f for almost 2 years.

Both our jobs are very demanding which means we only get to see each other once or twice a week. Because she is Chinese she likes to spend time with her family also. We have a fantastic sex life, it is just not often we get to have it. But when we do I can honestly say no WG has a patch on her!

She does not really have a high sex drive, I sometimes think I am a sex addict? If I have it in the morning I want it again at lunch, it seems to increase with my age!

As a fellow bro said, I see punting as a hobby, as way to de-stress! If I am seeing my g/f I do not bother punting but if I know I am not seeing her for a couple of days I will go and have a punt. It is not often I have FS with them anyway, normally just a rub and a tug and I hardly ever kiss them!

Happy Punting!

Im in with Deggwin, and a few others here.- I love my girlfriend and she's a great lay, however I love pizza, and it's a great meal- i could eat it every day, but how many different ways can you eat a pizza before you stop eating it entirely?

I don't kiss WG's (when I do, i feel guilt) and most of the time, I don't have full inter with them, share my real name, or much of my real self.

I think the line of cheating comes in when your intent becomes about creating a relationship with someone that will rival/equal the one you have with your spouse.
a shag is a shag (especially a paid one), and a relationship is something entirely different. If you find yourself looking for a better relationship, then its probably time to leave your first one-    for your sake, if not her's. my partner is a bit of a stunner (i know, everyone thinks so) and i have met girls who were an even better looker, for that night- but never (yet) have i met one that I would replace my missus for, pro or not.
I have had this debate with the opposite sex before, and it seems the consensus (with reasonably mature women at least) is that a "slip" from their spouse is one thing, but running off to   the bahamas with the co-worker...... well that is divorce proceedings and a 50% tax.

Nothing compares to a close relationship. =)  You just mentioned everything good about it.  W/O Protection is probably the 'best' thing about it !

My 'ex' was not a freak, but very accommodating, but it was because she craved it as much as I.  We did pretty much everything.  Nothing can compare the real feeling of penetration, and exploding in her mouth as she swallows and sucks.  

It was like we met up and went to sex immediately. LOL

The best thing was that she allowed me to do as I pleased.  But the only thing was to not penetrate her w/o Condom too long or leakage would make me a dad. LOL

OMG, still cumming her butt and mouth w/o a condom cannot be described !

The way I see it, because guys in general want it more than the girl, there is a supplier/addict relationship if you stick with one person.  If you only have one supplier, you need to bend over backwards and tolerate their shit in order to keep them from saying "fuck yourself" the next time you want some.  

In order for the guy to get some of the power back from this struggle, it is imperative that he has more than one supplier.  The most reliable one may be his partner or it may be a WG.  Who knows...but if you want to stand up straight and nottake shit from the Mrs., then you cannot depend on her as your soul dealer.

That's just me.  I know everyone's different.

So far it's pretty good for me. She takes care of me nice enough and isn't afraid nor shy to try new things. Love her to bits.

She didn't force you to write this did she?  

atm = automatic teller machine (hole in the wall, for dispensing cash)?

or

atm = atmosphere?

    

No, he means atm = at the moment.

Similar to Petay_1283 other than i'm not that young anymore but my wifey is local and and i love her dearly but we don't get too much action atleast not enough for me and i don't want to ruin it by pushing it so i take my extra urges elsewhere...no harm done as its just a pressure relief so peace stays in home and i never do it near home as i live inside China but i work in Hong Kong twice a month so perfect opportunity to monger when needed