Subject: am i asexual or gay? how can i enjoy sex a little bit more
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am i asexual or gay? how can i enjoy sex a little bit more

Its been around 3 month since i lost my virginity to a wg. Since then, i ve been mongering for like 2 times a week, and I find that sex isnt as great as it is advertised? Did the media put too much hype into sex? and its giving a false impression of what it really like? Yes when im aroused I feel like having sex with a girl but after I ejaculated, I felt nothing. Sometimes the girl would want to chat afterwards but I just wanted to leave asap. Also the act of sex itself was fun for the first 5 minutes or after that i get bored and i pound as hard as I could and ejaculate and get over with it. Not only that the girl has a routine, i also have one now, I would kiss her neck, then her nipples, ears, cheeks and then makeout... etc. Its like im too lazy to even think of a new routine that i will do the girls. Its like "freaking hormone, just get lost already and let me go home and study". Right now im just going through the motions. Tues and Thurs , "oh its time, okay" .. *picks up the phone*

I personally find that girls with clothes on are a little more appealing to me and more fun to check out. While waiting for class, checking out the short skirts and the low cut tops seems to be more interesting to me.

do i need a real relationship for me to enjoy sex a little more? Im having sex with a different girl each time I cant imagine having sex with 1 girl for the rest of my life. Should i alter my schedule? I have school mon wed and fri and the only time i can have sex is tues and thurs, is the routine making the sex less enojoyable? Sometimes even when im not horny , and its a tues and a thurs I would still go.

maybe it has to do with the korean girls i exclusivlely do? they have this mechanical routine , maybe that is turning me off?

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Reply #1 uwotextbook's post

how old are you? and where do you find all these korean girls to do?
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Reply #1 uwotextbook's post

How old are you?
If you are under 18 you have broken the forum rules by entering this site!


Clothed sex might be a new thing for you then
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QUOTE:
Originally posted by aaa888 at 9-7-2010 04:37
How old are you?
If you are under 18 you have broken the forum rules by entering this site!


Clothed sex might be a new thing for you then

im 22 right now, turning 23 in a couple of months
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Reply #1 uwotextbook's post

These are questions only you can really answer, though I seriously doubt your gay, I don't see how you couldn't know at 22.

Sounds like your in a rut, change your routine, try different days of the week, have a wank instead, don't have sex for a couple of weeks.

What part of the world do you hail from?

Your a student how much money do you have to spend?

I assume you have access to porn? What sort of thing rings your bell? I'm sure someone here can recommend a provider in whatever part of the world you live.
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Reply #1 uwotextbook's post

Cut and pasted from a web article.  Maybe a google search for these conditions may be helpful for you?

"Sex therapists sometimes use the terms ejaculatory anhedonia or anesthetic ejaculation to describe the experience of ejaculation without orgasm among men. It is less common that erectile problems or premature ejaculation, but still something that one hears about every now and then from a man or his partner.

Some men experience this as a lifelong issue – they may have never experienced much pleasure or orgasm in association with ejaculation. Other men, such as you, have had glimpses of what it’s like to experience more intense orgasms or more pleasurable sensations when ejaculating."
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I'm going to admit, that I felt this is trolling thread and I still have my suspicions.

However, I will assume its legit question regarding a degree of unsatisfaction with your sex life. I believe for some as young as yourself, there should be something said about enjoying the pursuit of getting laid. The chase or journey to bed a woman even if she's not as hot physically as the WG can be very satisfying. Hopefully, attaining the goal will be just as great as the chase. Anything worth getting is worth working for right?

Its too easy for you now, take a bt of cash out, get your quickie and out the door. If you need to clean the pipes, and finding a WG fullfills that need then great. Otherwise, why get a WG just because its part of your routine? Getting a WG usually meets a physical need, and but most want that GFE, some knid of emotion but without any significant attachment. But if you're not enjoying the sex with the WGs, because its all mechanical for you then take a little break from them now.

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Reply #1 uwotextbook's post

You are the most fucked up guy in this forum right now !

1st month you came here you told us pits and pieces of your problems ...
I've told you once and I'm telling you again ... you've got issues in your head and we can't solve them for you !
You live in Canada so you must have medical insurance, I hope for your sake, that includes going to see a shrink !
Good luck !!!

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Reply #5 atomic3d's post

atomic3d, flinger and others,

OP by his own account is a 22-year-old college/uni student
living in Richmond, BC, a suburb of Vancouver. He had the
hots for a girl in his dance class a few months ago but was
too shy to approach her and remained a virgin.

With the help of extensive psychological counselling from
bros here, he finally took the plunge and tried a WG, then many
others in Richmond and Vancouver and has reported on several
of them. How can he afford them on a student budget? He has
said he comes from a well-off Chinese family, and there are many
of them in his part of the world.

OP has provided phone numbers and ratings of local micros as
well as craigslist links to girls he has tried, so I don't think
he is a troll, but as Twice says, he remains severely conflicted
about sex and could do with professional help, perhaps from
a counsellor/psychologist on campus.

I am prepared to take the issues he raises at face value, as
he seems to have gone overboard after losing his virginity
and has failed to attempt to develop a healthier approach
to women and to seek the non-physical pleasures that can come
with a developing relationship with a civi girl that the Korean
WGs he has tried can only be a surrogate for.

I think he would do well to consider the advice of his fellow
Canadian flinger, break out of the rut and, with his newfound
confidence with girls, practise flirting and maybe going out
on dates with some of the campus girls he finds attractive.

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"I find that sex isnt as great as it is advertised? Did the media put too much hype into sex?"

Not exactly sure what you mean here. Which ad were you looking at the said sex was great. I only have sex because my little brother tells me its time - not because of advertisements on the streets saying that sex is good.

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I don't think there is necessarily any problem with you. Some people just need passion in their sex. They enjoy "making love" and not "sex". I enjoy having sex with someone I like more than someone I have no feelings for - I don't see anything wrong with that. Actually the first 5 or 6 times I went punting I'd have troubles getting an erection.

When the WGs give you a "lets just get it over and done with" attitude, the attitude kind of spreads and you just want to get it over and done with too. Thats why GFE is one of the attributes to Wgs.

The society in general doesn't think prostitution is a glorious thing, or perhaps something immoral, and probably deep inside you have that view which is why whenever you cum you feel extra emptiness.

I don't think the way you are feeling now makes you gay. sex and paid sex can be completely different things.

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Reply #1 uwotextbook's post

Sounds like 1... Bro...You need a gf.

Over the years I have understood 1 thing about girls.
They are different to us Bros.
They care about looks, but aren't as shallow as us.

Approach the girl in school make a conversation.
Comment on her dress, comment on her ear rings... don't comment directly on her looks.
Ask her to coffee.. You only live life once.... And there is limited ways you can make a fool of yourself.
I don't want you regretting not approaching the girl in 5 to 10 years time down the road.

Worst case is you find yourself making a new friend instead of a gf.

Back to your question.

The best sex I have is still with my gf. The passion and love behind it can't usually be obtained with a wg.
Fingers locked, possibly biting rough sex... etc

When you have sex with a person you know it is entirely on a different level.

In short.... You don't sound gay.

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Reply #11 Avatar's post

Sorry you're having so many problems, but any way where can I find the Korean girls are you talking about? 141 or other?
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I believe the Brother lives in Korea?
But I can't confirm any of this information.
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Who lives in Korea ?

if you are talking about text ... he lives in Vancouver
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Reply #1 uwotextbook's post

You're looking for advice in the wrong place.

Considering that you've been repeatedly doing so here, against the repeated warning of others, I'm just going to assume that you're just looking for attention.

Get help from professionals and stop preying upon the goodwill of the members of this forum. This just isn't the place to air your teen angst.

If you want to get advice about which WGs and HGs in HKG are currently the providing the best experience, then read the reports  and come to HKG to visit some. Then write some reports the help other members get a better idea if the WG you tried is worth visiting.

Call "loveline" if you want to air your issues in public. We're not a receptive audience , and generally have had enough of it from you and all the other, "Does all my whining make my dick look small" crowd.

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Reply #14 twiceAweek's post

My typo...... Haha
I meant to write Canada.
What was I thinking?
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korean girls ???  
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First, your expecting too much.  Second your not connecting with your body in the right way.  So here's what you can do, take up some yoga, and a little art appreciation, get some viagra.

Get some thing going through your head.

"I am a guy"

"Guy's like to play with things."

"Guy's like to play with woman."

"Woman do feel good."

"I have key to my own sex life."

Focus less on your dick, and your feelings.  
Focus more on the arousal.  

I'm betting your not feeling very much when your fucking the girl.
So before you go in, build yourself up.  Right now you sound a tad stressed out as well.  Before you can really get it on with the girl,
you need to be able to feel a bit at ease.  Get you chi moving
the right way before hand.  If you too uptight,
and too numb before going in, sex will be horrible.  Girl feels
like shit from you, she is going to be shit in bed.  

Gay will not solve your problem because your problems are with
both your senses and your own mind.  

Yoga very good at fixing this.   Your senses are too clogged from western living.  Eat more curry.  

Fix your diet, cut out alcohol, caffine and stuff like that.  Lots of exercise, try run alot in mountains or go hiking until your body feels better.
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My take on this,

Guy has an issue

lack of confidence, lack of success with girls, virginity etc

Gos and lays a WG, rinse and repeat twice a week like clockwork

result a young guy who still has lack of confidence, lack of success with girls but has learnt to rely on an 'alternative'  subconciousy i think you realise that its not a solution, and that the WG experience though great, no way prepares you for the realities of Pursuing a relationship (except for the psysical 'moves').

However it is a trap. example, you try it on with a real girl, but your confidece isnt up to it or ou get rejected, what do you do? go pay to get laid right? it didnt solve the underlying issue

my advice, by all means continue to do what your doing, but mix it up. change the times, and the types. at 22, you're still developing into your sexuality, find out your liks and dislikes. that is first. and most importantly remember its recreation not life, it isnt meant to be instead of a GF, certainly not at 22

secondly, consider improving your skills with real women, there isnt enough time/space on a forum post to explain how, suffice to say, there are many ways. friends, pickup etc but if you're serious about it, im sure you will find a way to learn.

good luck

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Get youself a girl friend, allow the sexual tension to build up over weeks that will make it all much more interesting.  (rather that the WG straight into the action)
A relationship, combined with giving and receiving pleasure is what it is all about. The closest you get with a WG is the GFE (which tries to be as close a possible to the real thing)
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