Originally posted by ymc at 18-5-2010 07:49
A player doesn't like to take unnecessary risk. Going at a girl with a companion next to her can be quite dangerous ...
Totally agree about risk.
I'm making a very important distinction that managing risk is NOT AT ALL the same as "giving up".
If she's noticing you I don't care what conversation you have in your mind about them being in love - if she's noticing you, whatever she has going is neither love nor is it committed.
Ok she could be trying to pique his jealousy
She could be trying to get back at him for something
But most likely she's wanting make up for some deficiency in the way he makes her feel. She wants more than he's giving.
Yes of course you want to avoid getting a black eye or worse, and if she's dumb enough to show up next to other more desirable hotties with ball-and-chain attached it's her loss. You go after the more desirable alternatives, but if she's noticing you she's giving you the invitation. You slowing down and reading the situation is still about being target to follow up and close.