Great bro. That is a wise decision u hv taken. All the best

Wow!  You are so easily swayed by the "love bug"! LOL...  How old are you again?  I feel that you have a very young demeanor.  Sounds like me when I was 15, constantly flip flopping.

Amen on that!! At least i dont have to lie to family who she is.... it's the worst one can do! No way!

Well, I'm 34 and i do think sometimes kinda easy to get swayed away. I simply thought what am i gonna do if i have a wg as a gf in HK regardless of what she said to me? maybe not all WGs tell lie, but i just dont want to roll the dice.
If I do visit HK, I could have tons of choices if I just want to have fun. In the meantime here in US, the girl I am dating look pretty damn hot, toned body, nice racks, and click in conversations. I am just patiently waiting the opportunity to find out the package that are perfectly wrapped by her sexy clothes. Hmmm, just thinking about it make me drool......  

A few rounds of martinis please!! That's what i am talking about.

Sometimes I wished I had your innocence.  I am way too cynical at such an early age to have the "sinking ship" experience with a WG but I have had come very close to "sinking ship" with 2 mistresses.  It is always fun to "let go" but it can be dangerous if you are married. LOL

well said........

triangle or rectangular relationship......fckin incovenient and make us become a big liar and give us unnecessary headache........

Once you are married... you have to take extra steps of cautious when you fool around. Bro sexpert, 2 mistresses in the same city?? Man, you must be a ninja when you go out visiting them!

Triangle relationships will fuck you up big time.  It is very easy to handle the first few months but after that it takes a toll on your heart, brain and body.  I remember living like a zombie after a year making time for my beloved mistress and my family at the same time.  I did not know what was what and did not have enough time to concentrate on anything, so I ended up being a half assed person, doing everything half assed, from the family, to the mistress to work.  After a full month of thinking, I got rid of the mistress and my life was back to normal.  The straw that broke the camel's back was one night when I was sleeping next to my wife, I talked in my sleep.  I said "do you know I miss you very much baby?"  Thank god I call everyone baby... my wife asked me who I missed in the morning and I said I dreamed that I was at work and called her on the phone.  After that situation, I am colder than ever but at least I can give my family a good father and husband.  I feel sorry for my next victim though.

U have another victim on its way??? Geez, your samurai really sharp dude!!

I think physically you are older than me, but mentally I am way mature simply because I married early and have played the field longer and more than you.  I envy you in a way because you are still letting go and having fun. Good for you bro!  For me, it is about getting my needs met in mind, spirit and body.  Plus I'm greedy.

....he is a fcukin ninja and now promoted to master samurai....

sexpert, thanks for sharing.....u are in worse situation cos u had family at stake.

Even, when I had GFs in different countries and different time zone....I felt like a Zombie and always need to be 100% alert with my action and things I do and said.......fcukin exciting but fuckin brutal.......just kill my brain cells.....

u seriously younger than me?? i divorced 4 years ago...so i was married kinda young with no kids. At first, I was thinking I will not date again, thinking it is a lot of headaches... so no dating and been solo since my divorce till couple weeks ago I met this gweimui who is stunning not just her look but her personality as well. Feel great around her and I am kinda revved up.

Yes, I am younger but you definitely have a younger outlook than I do.  As for mistresses, I just love the chase and the new sex.  WGs are fine for what they are but mistresses are much more fun.

Spoken like a true ninja.

Bro, I frequently have mistresses or ex-mistresses in the same room with my wife. Recently, I had 2 ex-mistresses
in the same room as the wife. None of them knows anything at all about the others and my wife trusts me 110%.
And everything I say and do around her is geared to maintaining that trust. It's now second-nature.

But I think I've now given up on mistresses. I've been lucky and I just don't want to tempt fate anymore. Plus,
they're just too much trouble and, anyway, the simple act of sex with WGs is better.  

I admired how you and other bros can pull this thing!! I know myself well and will crumble and will never ever succeed in pulling this kinda stunt if I am married!

you are no ninja or samurai......u are the cold blooded Emperor !!!!!!

i would tend to agree with those who feel that you fall in love and fall out of love once you leave the room of a WG. I don't want the hassle. having a wife and a girlfriend is a tough thinto handle so I'd never do that either. Maybe it is for the best that men keep their secrets and women keep theirs.

So the point is 'A WG how can you trust her etc?' Well what about you? How does she know you don't go on exsersions of your own??! Then you coveniently say you f**k married men for a living so I'm OK to do it!! Coz come on they will lose that initial attraction and you will get tempted with other girls. its just a question of time. Does anyone stop paying for sex once they've done it! I genuinely want to know.

Hmmm, nice thread...

I guess this question keeps coming up in the forum because there is no right answer.

I like this scene from Kung Fu Panda and it's relevant to how I see this dilemma.

Oogway: Look at this tree, Shifu. (Indicates the Peach Tree of Heavenly Wisdom) I cannot make it blossom when it suits me, nor make it bear fruit before its time.
Shifu: But there are things we can control! (Slams a fist into the tree, making several peaches fall around them) I can control where the fruit will fall! (Catches a peach, cuts it in half, takes the pit and slams it into the ground) And I can control where to plant the seed! That is no illusion, Master!
Oogway: Ah, yes. But no matter what you do, that seed will grow to be a peach tree. You may wish for an apple or an orange, but you will get a peach.
Shifu: But a peach cannot defeat Tai Lung!
Oogway: Maybe it can - if you are willing to guide it, to nurture it, to believe in it.

Ultimately, I think you have to decide whether you trust her or not. Because if you don't believe her, then the relationship just won't flourish and will eventually rot from the inside out.

In the words of Andy Dufrain this relationship has to "Get busy living, or get busy dying."

Or maybe you would prefer more Kung Fu Panda:

"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present. "