This thread has been up for 3 weeks now....and everybody's just been skating around that Great Big Elephant standing silently in the room - why the old previously good contributing members have stopped writing up reports.
Now I am NOT wanting to re-open old wounds, and neither do I think it worthwhile to revisit ALL of the wrongs, the bile, the name calling etc. So please bear with me and please try to restrain yourselves from re-visiting the hurt.
Instead, I want ya'll to consider this simple statement of fact - "The more you cared, the more you hate" - in that I see exactly this happening here.
Consider that the most bitterly fought battles
had been between divorcing couples - 2 individuals who had loved each other deeply - but a love that turned to hate in equal amounts when one or the other was slighted.
I postulate that our previously great contributing members had really
LOVED
our forum - and thus the hurt they feel had been magnified in equal amount to their hate now.
BUT>>>> I also know that their "heart" remains with our forum....and am quite confident that sooner or later, they WILL come back. In fact, you will notice these missives from them which had become increasingly frequent of late; perhaps them testing the waters a bit, perhaps trying to slowly redeem themselves - whatever - just that they ARE dipping their toes in our waters again.
And I say to you all - please make it easier for them to come back. You see an offensive post/rating or another from them ....JUST IGNORE IT. You see tentative approaches...ENCOURAGE THEM. You see them really making an effort - WELCOME THEM!
Forget about what had transpired; let bygones be bygones - and be the mature individual you ARE by not dwelling on past hurts.
Just a suggestion - and PUHLLLEEESE - Please ALSO do not come down too hard on my superior intellect which has been able to uncover this mystical elephant!
All tongue in cheek fellas - all tongue in cheek
- but with a hopeful heart!
Thanks
SEAJ
