Originally posted by Marsupial at 11-12-2008 02:18
first-time sex for a girl is always painful to some extent ...
and I have to say that's the odd one. In my experience many of the girls who gave me their flower actually showed no pain at the time. Why? Beats me, since I've also had it drummed into me that first time hurts for a girl. But as you say, real world experience trumps theory every time. Some did of course (so we stopped / slowed down / restarted later) but some didn't. Certainly there was blood all over the place, so maybe they were just very aroused. Yup, I've no plans to research the question further! Just not worth the hassle ...
Totally agree with you that pain is a complete turn off - unless it's consensual and with a safeword of course, but then it doesn't look like pain - nonconsensual sadism is
BTW the question was about having had sex with a virgin, not about paying for sex with a virgin ... that would be a whole different fantasy, and not one I've put any thought to myself ...
I actually think guys attraction to virgins is quite simply the forbidden-fruit syndrome in another guise. Anything that is in limited supply will be more attractive, at least to some people - have you read Cialdini btw? Great book on persuasion and influence. Girls use unavailability instinctively as a courting tactic, so it's a bit harsh to blame guys for responding! We're just animals underneath ...