Originally posted by lowdrider at 31-12-2007 10:55
my ex gfs never orgasm.
what am i doing wrong?
Without quizzing you for details
my guess is you should try more fore-play to build her up before going for the main course:
Notice in the video the very first thing he says is "massaging on all her pressure-points, spending some time together... "
You need to know a woman with a high sex drive who has had many orgasms before will be able to get there sooner, but especially
young girls,
inexperienced girls, or
nervous girls who want to make a good impression on you,
take much longer to orgasm. The problem is us guys, well, we are wired to do the job much faster.
Just another way guys and gals are opposite: first time for a guy is usually over lightning fast, but many girls take years before they have an orgasm, and there are even women who never have one ever.
That's why it's only after warming her up that he says "now we're ready to make her squirt."
Useful things to do that will speed her up and make sure you're still in the game when she cums:
massage her, especially erogenous zones
DATY
fingering her
Other thing you can do is to make a point of pulling out occasionally, e.g. to change position. This way you get to conserve your own energy, but push her higher when you restart.
When you pull out, you will be 'cooling off' much faster than she will - she takes longer to get aroused but will also stay aroused much longer after stimulation stops. So you can let yourself come off the high for a bit, and then enjoy starting again - she just goes higher each time, and with practice you can bounce along not-quite-finishing for a heck of a long time ... like, an hour or more ...
Good news is if you get her to cum, she'll still be flying high and still very ready for more even after the time it takes you to reload and rearm your weapon!
Good luck, and report back!!
