Yes plan everything!

One of my biggest worries was my sex life would be different with my SO - but IMHO nothing has changed (Thank God) - Although I only see my SO once or twice a week, I have not had any problems in that area. (Touch Wood) - Always use protection! I have only ever had a BBBJ once and I was shitting myself incase I caught anything.

I had one WG in Thailand wanting to go bareback and I was pissed as a rat! I still somehow managed to say no. It is just not worth the risk.

It's like a massage with an explosive ending. Purely physical.

you've got a lot of good answers already

truth is soooo much depends on you, your wife, and the relationship you currently have.  Making a prediction is about as accurate as rolling dice ...

Yes there's the possibility you may feel guilty.  

But let me just throw in another possibility that's not been mentioned yet:
there's even the possibility you may feel a lot better about your wife afterwards - having lived out a fantasy, learned a new skill maybe, had an experience that you can't have with her, or maybe just got plain satisfied, etc.  Defo a possibility.  You might just end up knowing what you need for yourself that little bit more clearly, so you can direct her a little more assertively, being a manly man in a way that she likes by surprising her.  Maybe you close your eyes and relive the experience you bought, acting the best bits out with her ...

Just don't tell her where your enthusiasm came from

Bottom line is: This is the wrong place to ask for relationship advice.  But it's a great place to get encouragement!!!

If you wanna uphold your moral obligation, you should not even smell other pussies. Stay faithful to 1 hole.

Hell!!! You should not even be looking at this forum!!!!!!!

You are asking bunch of full time punters and WGs hobbyist here for advice on how to cheat on your wife while trying to maintain your concience and morality. I say WTF!!!!!!!!!?????
This is no difference from asking advice from a poor beggar on how to get rich!!

Kudos to you on that you have given her permission to see other girls/guys .... I am such a jealous type that i would hate having that arrangement .... Heck, i even expect (no let me say 'demand') total loyalty from my girls on the side.  
She may only be interested in girls at this stage (according to what she says to you hehehe). But, IMO, girls generally have a stronger emotional attachment to guys who they screw, than vice versa. More chance for something unforeseen to go wrong if that physical becomes something else. Anyway, good luck.

Just had a re-read of your post and the above caught my eye.

From what I read, you've been totally honest to your wife - but how are you sure that she s equally honest?

That statement "..I will know about it, very sure..."  MAN.... that's such a loaded statement!  And on top of it all, you're stating (errrr..... hoping?) that she'd want to get it on with another gal in the distant future

As it is, you are VERY SURE that she hasn't done anything - how about when she actually does go out and do "IT?"  What's your reaction gonna be then?  Remember, what's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander!  

What if "It" is gonna be with some good looking, debonair, rich AND athletic GUY years younger than you.  Not a gal!  And what if "it" is already a Fait Accompli?

Apologize if I'm being a bit blunt here - but I sure hope you've really thought things over.

Regards
SEAJ
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I'm a happily married man. I've punted a few times and enjoyed the experience. Guilt does come into effect sometimes, but i think to myself.."you only live once". Do the things you enjoy and do it now. You don't know what tomorrow will bring. You could walk out to the street tomorrow and get hit by a car and die. Then that would be it, life over. Sex is a very enjoyable part of life, enjoy it, embrace it.

But having said that, don't hurt your wife in anyway. Don't ever let her find out, dont bring home STDs. Letting her find out would be the worst if she is the jealous type. She probably feel so inadequate. That she hasn't pleased her man. Also the hurt of the betrayal... i wouldn't dare think what would happen if my wife found out.

If you are worried about addiction, set yourself a budget. But if you are addicted, like you would care about keeping to the budget ... lol

Believe me, we had a lot of discussion, also on this topic. Actually she was a little pissed, when i told her, i saw again the one thai girl the last day and got a fuck for free. From her point of view this already was too much personal, since this was not a "deal" anymore and rather like a friendship. And maybe she was right. We both agreed this should not happen again. Fuck for money is okay. But anything going above like "see again next day" or whatever is out of our arrangement. So i will not do so in future.

She also knows about the point, that girls rather get emotional attached when doint with a guy. Yes it is a risk. We both are aware of it. And we gonna face that. Actually this is not on the agenda. If I would not trust her... well. I just can ask you to believe me. We share everything. And it's good as it is. When she is about to plan this or do this, i gonna know about it ;)

Actually im glad if she is getting a real stunner. I expect her to get at least a more beutiful guy than me (even more when she is spending money for this). The more beutiful he is, the more beutiful i am in her eyes. If she is doing this with a shitty ugly guy i must expect she is seeing me even more ugly. Would i like this? No.

Of course the girls i met were in some aspects more beutiful than here (not in all ;) ). Everything else would be stupid...

You mean you and your wife agreed to ONLY PAID encounters?

So what happens if a civvie approaches either one of you?
Or if one of you gets involved with another person who is a civvie/not a pro?

Or are you and/or your wife definitely gonna turn down civvie approaches?
Is this do-able in real life?

Thanks
SEAJ

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i will say don't do it, cos it will break your marriage... honesty is the most important thing in marriage, so respect her and think in her shoes before you do something.

Bro mickeyblue - This is one issue that I've thought about a fair bit. Basically, there are many "models" to a marriage with regard to exclusivity. I've known some ladies in Mexico who basically brag amongst each other about how many girlfriends their hubbies have on their side. To them, they like their men to have "machismo" and be associated with that, knowing that they are the queen. Of course, this can't be generalized to all ladies in Mexico or Latin America.

Whatever the case is, kudos to you for being open with your wife about it and seeking her permission before proceeding. Perhaps you guys can arrange for 3-some (whether MMF or MFF) and partake in such pleasures together.

That being said though, I don't think if I have a wife, I'll be able to work out such an arrangement. Who knows...

This is right. Civvie is a strict no-no.  ONLY PAID sex is allowed. Everything else extremely rises the chance of emotional envolvement. Of course you also can be emotionally attracted by a working girl. The idea here is that a working girl in general is NOT getting emotionally attracted to me. She wants my money and nothing more. I know here in asia this might be somehow different. Actually we did not consider that. Honestly said,  those who look for a man for life will not pick me. I'm neighter rich nor famous. Also i dont want this. All girls i met in HK were far not mcot in terms of any longer talks, behaviour and mentality. For me they were chicks which i wanted to fuck. I loved her hot body. Thats it. Thats what my desire is about. Im not by far looking for someone else to live with. Say: does one of you guys think i would get another wife giving me this oppertunities and ranges of freedom? After all i've read here i dont think so. Also the sex with my wife is pretty good. But she cannot give me by nature a certain sort of change / promiscuity. She is one single women. And also she cannot give me the experience to fuck an asian girl. She simply is not an asian girl ;-). We figured out this and she was understanding. I gave her the chance to say "No, dont do this", and i would have resprected this. But she said we should also respect my sexual desires. Our merriage is about to make happy both of us. And when i return all the time and go safer, she does not care.

My desire for punting here in europe is very low. I tried once in czech republic (my second punting ever after singapore) but where much disappointed. So i will stick on asia trips.

I can say I am very happy in both my married lif and my sex life.  I would probably not be happy in either if it was not for my hobby.  I do not feel guilty.   but I know there would be hell to pay if my wife ever found out.   Touch wood!

that's the way I do it as well. Well said!

This is pretty hard to decide even you mind told you that this is not good your little bro is curious and want to try some other girls.
I have tried several times to ask myself what is so good in this? I did not find the answer yet but one thing is sure when you try it one it is difficult to end it.

If you just want to try and don't want to feel too guilty I suggest you to start by a blowjob because there is sentence in French "blowjob is not cheating", you can try the 37D because most of the girl allowed the CIM until the last drop and you really feel empty. If you want more you can continue and if you feel you are not willing to go further wait and another blowjob.

But if you are not ready just go for a massage with happy ending.
It is a hand but not your hand, think you pay yourself to masturbate but you can have a naked petite asian in front of you.