The problem here is bounded in your definition of good husband or attribuatable to ignorance, from the point of view of a woman, to the perceived image of a good husband. By good husband, most women in the world coherently want a faithfull husband. By that, it means not to stray from the relationship by cheating or visiting prostitutes. Thereby, our subject - the husband, would be threatening the desires of his wife that he legally obliged to when he signed the wedding papers.

gooner, it seems as though you need to get help. I admit I am no expert in the following inductive judgement but you may be displaying signs of a sexual addiction. Perhaps you are dissatisfied with some sexual aspects in your relationship? Not to get too personal at all but mate, do you even find your wife attractive? As you admittedly quote you are getting worse by the day - maybe its now time to get on top of it before it gets on top of you.

Bro, they whole point of visiting WG's is to get your rocks off without the emotional commitment that comes with a freebie. You have been advised by several Bros to stay away from civilian girls while you also have a SO. That is seriously good advice.

If you do road test Hari's, you'll have no problems feeling comfortable. Sit down at the bar, relax, smile and have a drink while you enjoy the music. Let the evening unfold... Be friendly and chatty and the girls will find you.

Of course if you want a more "in your face" type of experience where girls will grab your dick and rub your ass... dont stuff around, just go straight to Neptune 2.

I spend way to much time in most of the bars I have mentioned in the "Bar Guide Sticky", however deep down inside I'm a Hari's Bar kinda guy. I'll be back in a couple weeks time so if you see a Bro getting a little too friendly with the lead singer of the band there, and paying way too much attention to the Mongolians... keep in mind my real name is NOT Tony LOL!

[ Last edited by  TonyToro at 27-6-2010 14:39 ]

yes, it's crazy.
many people want to get in and many people wants to get out.

monogamy (one husband one wife) has kind of problem that against the natural. so of course there are many side effects.

Fifa - Yes I find my wife attractive, but the excitement has indeed faded and it's difficult with kids of course, but don't think i'm getting addicted to WG just yet. It's possible that I do need to find a less distructive hobby though that's for sure, but in HK it's too easy to find action!

Tony - As for Neptune - i've heard about that place from a mate, all the DH's from where I live go there on Sundays - a def no-no! Might try Hari's though on wed next week before the holiday - will it be busy mid-week? Tempted to do overnight but the doormen/women at my place are the nosy type  - they'd notice if I didn't come back at night and gossip about it as they know my wife is away damn them!

The grass is always greener because things get boring, so why not have your cake and eat it too? WGs allow you to do this with the lowest risk possible.

Congrsts Leyxia for making it to Carnal Conqueror status but there's no need to be repetitive in every thread for the sake of gaining K's and repeating what other bros have been saying. Please stop this.

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I usually find that when a bro is very close to attaining their CC status they usually make
a final push to get there ... sometimes flooding the forum with posts in the grey area ...
they usually come back down to earth once they start looking at the pics !  

[ Last edited by  twiceAweek at 28-6-2010 01:41 ]

Now, even as a musky member, to set a good example by sticking to the thread topic....
gooner - its good that you still find your wife attractive. There are marriage therapy sessions that deal with the sort of fading you describe. If you dont want to get into all that - you can simply talk to you wife and try to spice things up. Maybe she feels the same way also? If sex is so rountine for you with your wife (i assume so as this is usually what causes fading), then try somethin different. Go on a holiday, book a hotel, put flowers on the bed and make romance.

Yes fifa we do all of the above (well not the flowers!) and we still enjoy sex occasionally. btw My wife looks like one of the high end HG's on here and would NOT require the use of photoshop! She has kept her figure well after kids - when she goes out wearing a skirt or dress other guys drool over her - but for some crazy reason the spark is fading!

I think nowadays, marriage is more of a faux pas.

Its human nature to want more, especially something that others have and you don't. Being successful and having an ambition pretty much means you're always striving for more and at your age this is very prevelant. I'm sure if you weren't married and were getting laid left, right and center you'd might think I wish I could meet a wonderful woman to fall in love with. I could be making a bad assumption, but going to your first post about being less confident before, I simply think you haven't had the opportunities in your younger days and with this experience/confidence you're like a kid in a candy store.

Regardless, if you're in a loving relationship, that beats all else. If your SO chooses to turn a blind eye or doesn't know, then as people have said whatever you do, be discreet and make absolutely sure you do not cause her to lose face. While a woman scorned is truly a dangerous woman, having lost face for a Chinese woman is the worst insult, considering this is the mother of your children.