I THINK GO ASK HER YOURSELF.....

I am happily married bro.. Do i feel guilty...  Then you have to ask yourself bro.." WHY THE FUCK IS RICO DOING ON THIS FORUM"...

No intention of offending anybody and I certainly don't want to lay a guilt trip on anybody. I guess I am just suggesting that of course it is cheating if you are involved in an intimate relationship with another, but the real question is whether you can live comfortably with the consequence of your decision. If you have to confess to your girlfriend as soon as you see her and cause her an endless amount of emotional turmoil, then maybe this isn't the scene for you.

Point taken bro.. Well if this is the case...Then the ball rest in your corner bro dreamerg..

A bit of advice from someone who has a lot of experience with this kind of thing: Never, under any circumstances, admit to having cheated.   Women see this kind of thing differently from men - it strikes at the very heart of their self-worth. This is one instance where honesty is definitely not the best policy.

If you're overcome with guilt, then just stop fucking around. If you tell the SO you've been with someone else it'll cause her much more pain than it will bring you relief. Believe me, there is no redemption, no absolution in owning up to infidelity. It will irreparably harm the relationship and you will never hear the end of it. Things might appear to be going well but it will always be there in her mind eating away at her, and it will come to the surface at the first sign of discord. It will poison the relationship in many ways, some subtle, some not. At the very least, the woman will never trust you again, and that causes problems in itself.

that's good advice .... I've been subject to severe and long grilling and held my ground and it just blows over.

If I had made any admissions

I just reread your post and saw that you already said that it was experience...

I concur, there is no forgiveness, not really.

When I met my gf we spoke about our previous relationships, and I have been regretting it ever since.  She, to this day, has never forgotten a single word that I said about other girls when I first met her.  Women have somehow evolved with involuntary selective memories...

If I ever ever EVER admitted to having cheated, I know it would come back to bite me on the ass whenever we have a disagreement.  I bet OPs other half has a good memory too.  There's no such thing as "forgive and forget" for some women.

To me cheating is having an affair, end of discussion.  Sex for money is all business, just like having a massage.  If my SO ever asks if I have ever cheated, I will say no, and pass any lie detector test.  I don't kiss and I don't DATY, to me that's intimate.  That being said there are millions of relationships held together because the man can go to a prostitute for an hour for a set amount of money and do something different with someone different.  And the urge to roam is satisfied for a time, until the next time.

But I have to agree with the rest, you don't EVER admit it, or ever acknowledge the concept, because things will never be the same.

Truer words were never spoken. Extremely good advice for anyone feelings pangs of guilt about a bit of indiscretion. If you can't live with the guilt, be assured your partner certainly can't live with the truth.