Yeah I wouldn't want to spray something on my dick too. And then there is this new spray on condom that apparently works like the spray on plaster. I used spray on plaster before and I must say that it takes practice to master the art of spraying just the right amount to cover the area...and with that, it's quite an expensive way to learn as these stuff usually don't come cheap...

Anyone tried the spray on condoms yet?



@ happyfeet #2859
  I guess your SO at that time must be really happy cause she had a great fuck! Anyway, I will check it out and tryto find the Durex Performa condoms...gotta try it out! Thanks for the info bro...


Btw, then there is the booze way of prolonging or slow down the ability to ejaculate. I noticed and realized that after drinking "quite enough" (to the point that I am pretty tipsy but not drunk enough to be useless), I can last much longer before orgasms. And usually after the first round, the second round lasts even longer. I enjoy this cause when I do this, I am high on alcohol and at the same time on endorphins from the sex that I am having at that point of time...

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I thought that they were still working on the spray on condom? It's not like plaster necessarily. It's latex but you're supposed to be able to peel it off afterwards. Let's hope it doesn't stick to the hairs.

I don't think that we need to desensitize our lb. Personally it's the sensation that makes it all worthwhile. Kind of how I like sports, I like to be in the action not sitting back and watching.  Think 3-D people!!!  

An alternative for those quick cummers is to practice edging. First with your hand and maybe some candles, mood music and good porn, get close to the point of no return then stop. Wait for it to subside and continue as many times  as you want before

wow, it could be a painful practice...
I did it several times but alway fail to stop....

it is really hard for me to stop right before I cum...

I know what you mean. Most of the time you feel like you just gotta go all the way.
Painful to practice yes but not in the way of causing physical pain.
Worth it?  The girl might think so because that means better service for her.

Following all the posts about lasting longer, I have decided to try edging and controlling the PC muscles. My new year resolutions is to be able to continuously pump for at least an hour. Wish me luck, guys!

Don't forget, wimmin don't necessary want you to be banging away for hours on end. Lengthy doesn't always equal good. Loads of my exes have told me that it can get sore if it goes on too long. Quality not quantity

Serious response ahead.

I admit that I used to have a problem with premature ejaculation.  It took me a few years to figure out why and how to solve it.

First, I tried controlling my pubococcygeus (PC) muscle.  This is the muscle which control your flow of urine -- not to be confused with the muscle that prevents you from farting or shitting.  The point of this control is that when you feel yourself at the urge of cumming, you hold back on this muscle so that you don't cum.  You can practice this by masturbating or fucking (oral/vaginal/anal whatever) until you're getting close and then exercise control on the PC muscle.

Second, I tried the "stop and start" method.  This is where you bring yourself to near orgasm (however method you prefer), then stop and let yourself cool down.  The point is to be aware of your own body and senses to be able to know when you're approaching the point of no return.

Third, I tried the desensitizing method.  You can masturbate and orgasm before actual sex or you can use desensitizing creams/sprays/jels.  I would not recommend using any desensitizing creams/sprays/jels because you won't ever learn self control this way and also you may accidentally get the cream on your hands or on the girl.  More importantly, sex is not fun if you're not getting any pleasure.  Banging away for 30 minutes will just tired out and annoy the girl.  Seriously, it's better to have 1 minute of pure pleasure than 30 minutes where you feel nothing.  I've read that the optimal duration for intercourse is 6-12 minutes before any woman gets tired and bored.  Nobody will care if you can bang away for 15, 20 or 30 minutes.  It's not a long distance race.  I even get bored after I've been banging away for more than 15 minutes.  I would prefer two "short time" orgasms than one "long time" banging session in the same duration of time.  Masturbating before sex is similar but it depends on your own refractory period.  If you can get hard again soon after then no problem, but remember that ultimately your goal is to know your own body and sensations.

Fourth, I tried to stop masturbating.  This actually proved to be the second best method and actually a massage girl recommended this to me.  She said I cum too fast from a woman's touch because I always masturbate and it was true.  Too much wanking causes your body and brain to become maladjusted to the sensation of your own hand.  Either you won't be able to cum without using your own hand or you'll cum too quickly when someone touches you.  Either way is bad.  I still download porn online but pulling out my dick for a wank is rare.  My desire for long term self control was stronger than my desire for immediate masturbation.  You may also want to cut down on your porn watching as well because it creates an unrealistic image of women in your head that can't be met by someone in real life.  Porn is acting and real life sex won't reflect that.  Watch it for personal enjoyment but don't become dependent on it.

Fifth, I began having more sex.  I got myself a girlfriend and she happened to enjoy sex as well.  We were fucking almost every single day.  Over the weeks and months, because sex was a regular thing and not a special reward for myself when I would see WGs, I had time to feel every sensation and become used to it.  Now I almost can cum whenever I want whether it be after 2 minutes or after 10 minutes.  I just think it and BAM!! Jizz comes flying out!

Sixth, and this relates to all of the notes above, premature ejaculation is all mental.  If you go in worrying that you'll cum in 20 seconds then that's exactly what will happen.  Don't think about it at all.  Just enjoy the time spent.  Remember, it's not a competition because no one cares how long you can last.

desensitizing your lb can cause Masturbation Death Grip Syndrome it does not only make you unable to cum but also many times make you lose your erection.

http://curedeathgrip.com/about.html

I personality experienced this problem before and was not able to keep/maintain an erection with a few WG which were smoking hot waste my time and money not to mention a huge hit to my ego  

I think after that the fear of not being able to get an erection caused a mental block and caused me more failure since then i have cut down on my masturbaiting and picked up some levitra. Going to see my first WG since the incident; so here's to hoping all goes well

Aww yes the death grip. Definitely don't want to be squeezing too hard. Good reference to share with everyone.

Sorry to hear about the hits to your ego that just plain sucks, Good luck with them and have fun with it. If you're not in the mood that also adds to the negatives on your ego too. What I would do is find a girl who will turn into a tiger in bed. She'll pounce you and play with you. Sometimes being a little submissive is fun.

We'll have a cold on after your deed

Are you serious about spray on condoms?????? I must be out of fashion because I've never heard of it before
If there is such a thing wouldn't it take some time for it to dry like spray on plaster?

Yeh haha never heard of such a thing before. Watching someone "put one on" must be quite the funny sight .

Cant imagine what happens when someone blasts, the pressure just push the end out like a little water balloon

Thanks for all your advice, and in fact everyone's experiences have enriched this conversation. We should have another thread with sex tips from our sex gurus don't you think?

It's real Ice... Google it and you will find loads of info on it. It's even on Wikipedia! Below are a few links to the old news about spray on condoms...

http://www.time.com/time/business/article/0,8599,1832445,00.html

http://condomunity.com/discover- ... condoms/2007/12/08/

http://www.gizmag.com/go/6534/

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Here's my top sex tip. Orgasm central every time. Start with daty, plenty if spit (obviously don't gob on it!). Then two fingers, with tongue on the clit. Slow in and out with the fingers and write the alphabet with you're tongue on and around the clit...not too hard. Sounds mechanical, I know. But I've beenwith a bunch of women and if I'm being too lazy to get in tune with then properly, this is my fall back routine. It has never failed me. 9 times out of ten they either come like a steam train. Or get close and start begging for penetration to finish ... In my experience anyway ... And I ain't no looker

http://www.youporn.com/watch/200 ... id=131379&pos=8

http://www.xvideos.com/video2601 ... n_squirting_orgasms

haha i am sure these videos can explain it way better then i can

Sorry to deviate, because I want to draw attention to the thread on weekly gatherings to CP (in the mainland section). It's falling into disuse over there, and I placed a posting and I can see cobwebs on it now. If anyone is going to CP from the 21-30 and wants to form a group please reply over there so we can get it going..

From most indications, such "Gathering Threads" on our board have had limited success in its aims - for whatever reasons. This being so, I always counsel those who ask to instead just contact a CP agent who usually pairs up guys with others who happens to be in CP. BS Dave has been reported to be particuarly good at doing so and giving a very much more personal and efficient service. Post #335 http://www.internationalsexguide ... wfull=1#post1096883

I would also like to CP a post I wrote on the thread you refer to:
http://forum.sex141.com/eforum/v ... age%3D1&page=13


SEAJ

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Yep, I'm from Surabaya. You too?

I'm not really into fisting and stuff. But anal is definitely something I want to try, but with Condom. I doubt I want to try thrusting an asshole which could be full of shit with my bare dick.

every body here is giving me advise
i am grateful of those advise

btw, i don't look at girl's tit most of the time.
if the girl is beautiful. i'll always be looking at their face all the time. stealing a glance probably the most of the time.
that can make the situasin awkward if we are in a group. and she find out i have been staring at her all day long

Reply #2878 mrpekz 's post

nope. i am in jakarta.

Gonuts, it's good to know that you don't usually stare at the girls' chest and always looking at their face...this is good as girls dig this, they appreciate a guy who actually look at them instead of "them"   But don't stare, look at them with sincerity, don't look at them like you wanna eat them up or something like that...I mean don't show your perverted side ...just joking. However, if the girl digs you and knows you have been staring at her, she may find that flattering...that can even be a nice line you can use like; "you are so beautiful that I can't take my eyes of you..." or "I never knew I can concentrate until I saw you", corny it may sound but if she likes you, it will work like a charm.

Actually it's better in a group because this way you can actually observe and take time to decide who could be a good catch and most probably your type of gal. As all of us keep telling you, just relax, be natural...enjoy the fun of interacting with real people and learn from your mistakes...


Btw, since you seemed to know...where will be a good place to find nice WG in Jakarta? I may be traveling there in the next month or so... Thanks.



Reply #2878 Mrpekz

You should try anal...but you should wear a condom too. It could get messy alright. If possible, do it after your girl has done the potty thing and cleared everything. The Japanese would even do the enema thing: inserting liquid into the arse and purge everything out before really enjoying anal intercourse. Yeah that sounds pretty perverted and too much like a fetish...but if you are one of those who are a complete neat freak, it's not a bad idea.

My partner told me anal feels different, but definitely most enjoyable and she have had some pretty intense orgasm doing it. But be careful if the girl is an anal virgin,take it slow and don't force it. Get it done the right way, she may just ask you for it next time! (Hopefully she enjoys it too)

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