Well, first of all, if both you and her are fine with it, then go bang the night away! LOL!

I hope I'm in the same situation as you right now. I broke up and lost contact after that. Maybe she hated me for breaking up with her

That said, my point is that I don't think having a good time is limited. As long as you feel good about it, and she feels good about it, let it be a secret only the two of you know. No matter who you have sex with, as long as you still fulfill your responsibilities, that's fine.

Just my 2 cents.

When a man talks dirty to a woman, it's sexual harassment.  When a woman talks dirty to a man, it's $3.95 a minute.

Well... at the risk of sounding like an old fuddy-duddy (Hey - are 29 YO's allowed/qualified to be an old fuddy-duudy? LOL!) I'd say - DON'T DO IT!!

Look-it - WG's are there for a reason! And its a lot simpler, better in most cases of just wanton sex - and ALWAYS comes out cheaper in the long run.

There were reasons for you to have chosen your SO over your ex - and those reasons still stands today...strengthened by the vows of marriage you had swore to her. And unless you are now 100% sure that your ex is a heckuva better choice than your SO, then I say don't do it.

All of this may look to youat present as just a simple, innocent, uncomplicated tryst - just for whilst your SO is away; well, let me GUARANTEE you that this is NOT going to be the way it will eventually turn out.

Re-living an old flame is a fantabulous experience - so much so that its gonna make your head spin.....and IT will make you either careless in covering your tracks or will completely turn you on to your ex to the point whereby you would be tempted to abandon your SO.

And about being careless - chatting on Facebook?? You gotta be kidding??!! I hope you've covered your tracks there 100% - as well as others which WILL be there if you do go ahead and still see your ex.  All it takes is a stray strand of hair, a slight smear on the bedsheet, a different scent in the house - and you're in deep shit ( if you ARE still gonna do it - ForCrissakes - at least don't do it back home!!).  

Look-it MKK, you've got a bad record of falling for the wrong gal, at the wrong place and the wrong situation (at least from your past postings) and this is another one that's gonna be a mistake unless you snap out of it pronto.

Just go get a WG and be done with it!!

Err.... just my li'l POV!

SEAJ

[ Last edited by  SEAJ at 25-11-2011 18:46 ]

Ok ok ok....

Thanks for the opinions ppl.

LOL @SEAJ, I love you man. You so serious SEAJ

But on a serious note, I totally understand what you are saying SEAJ. My ex is also dating now, and we both know that there is 0 chance we
will ever get back together. She is a nice girl and all, but her mom hates me, for dumping her and moving on so fast with my current SO.
(btw, I never know what SO stands for, but I think it's your wife or something )

Now on a more light view, we totally just want to relax one night with no strings attached.

I will write a mini report here after it goes down

When it comes to sex - why is it that us guys gets drawn to it like Moths to fire?

We've got you who KNOWS that the whole thing is a bad idea and then we have Wander in his thread:
New maid next-door -- oh oh!
http://forum.sex141.com/eforum/v ... 5237&highlight=
(this is a rip roaring GREAT thread - you guys gotta go to it).

So MKK - when are you gonna be going down in flames?
Please do report back to us...before your wife finds out and cut off your.....!

Divorce lawyers love us all!
Sigh....!
SEAJ

Ok dude...

I thought you were my friend   why do you hope for my wife to cut off my....

But for real though, and real real though. I don't think it is such a big thing.
This is of course, you have never met my ex or my wife. So it's impossible for me to convince you that this has close
to 0% of leaking out.

I think it's just 2 adults ( one married, the other one dating ) that wanna have fun for a night.
I'm not saying it won't happen again, but I'm saying that it's harmless fun.

At the end of the day, all of us here are punters. We punt because of sex. We just want to have a good session.
I'm aiming for that now, since the WG's are so damn expensive here, and I don't have time to go anywhere else.

Anyways, I will post a report later   

Hi MKK, I am a newbie here (you can see that anyway)... But as far as your dilemma (if I may use that word) is concerned, my advice is don't do it if you are serious with SO. You won't want to know how bad it could get if your ex-gf decides to get you backfor whatever reasons and starts blowing the whistle and decides to let the whole worldknow about what went down between you and her.

However, if what you are having with SO is on the lighter side and banging an ex is worth it, even at the expense of losing SO, then go for it. Speaking from experience, I know how good the sex is with an ex-gf. Especially with one whom you connect well and had great sex before. Now, without any feeling of commitments and all those crap, she will probably give you the best you can get.

I did it once and I have to say that I was torn between feeling happy for the great sex and regretful for doing it as I almost lost the love of my life and was made to suffer for a few years.

hi gonuts. here's the deal. you are PERFECTLY NORMAL. okay? look at yrself in the mirror and say "i'm a sexually normal guy."

jerking off: u control the physical motions, u can make the stimulation soft and gentle OR frantic as you please. u get instant feedback. u know what feels good and can make instant adjustments.

there's no hassles with the libido either, no body issues, no nothing. you're completely comfortable. u can even watch porn and pretend yr the guy fucking this hot bod in Chatsworth California because that's where all that USA porn is made. threesome with Asian co-eds in plaid skirts? anything u want, as long as it's not REAL.

gonuts, ALL of us were nervous when we first visited a working gal. i almost threw up. i was used to civvies cuz when yr a teenager, yr gonna get after it...that's what teenagers DO. but sexual services with a stranger can play havoc with yr mind, esp the parts of the subconscious that u aren't aware of.

then there's the physical stuff. sex with someone who KNOWS what u like (and vice versa) is simpler than with someone who u just met. oral and vaginal sex provide less intense stimulation than handjobs. all of this means that while u may be a master-masturbator, in a strange environment with a stranger and a running-clock, those hand-jive skills just don't count. relax. yr not alone in this. yr a GUY.

so, if u do want to experience orgasm during yr WG sessions, yes--leave the dick alone. stop jerking off. if yr used to jerking off every time u watch porn, likely best to leave the porn OFF. wait a few days, then try it in the saddle.

remember that porn isn't sex, it's the advertisement for sex. it isn't real. those sweaty meat-studs aren't making much money but they have to spend long hours on cold sets hoping the Viagra doesn't wear off. even the phoniest WG is more real than those blonde-haired silicon-titted starlets, who make more money than the guys but rarely last more than a few years in the biz. real women are a lot more interesting.

if u approach the WG-situation with a sense of play, you'll have more fun (assuming the gal isn't exhausted or just not into it or into you, it happens). bring 'em fruit. smile. sex is fun. it will NOT be the same as jerking off to porn. wait until you're ready, and if u do adopt it as A Hobby, u will find yr comfort-zone.

some guys like HGs, they're great if u find a good one, but sometimes it's good to start with service-oriented places like 37D, K-P or a good Chinese sauna. a good technician will help u with the technical issues. it's a matter of finding out what works for you in the REAL world, not the fake world of porno.

makes sense? if u had no interest in exploring the hobby, u wdn't be posting here. yr concerned about inability to cum with a WG, but it really is in your mind: yr body has gotten used to tailor-made, intense stimulation and sex with a woman isn't that. it's a mutual pact, but one with great interest and variations. it's worth the journey. but that starts with getting off the porn-hamster-wheel and letting yr natural instincts take over. the next steps are up to you.

good luck, bro, and if u want erotic tales, there are many on this forum. read, and let your mind wander.

JtB

JosefK's thread "Tantric Massage" http://forum.sex141.com/eforum/v ... 5108&highlight=
touched on the subject of the sex activities of the more senior members of our forum.
Also on jgaw 88's Sex Marathon: 5 chicks (well almost) in a 5 hour Thai Buffet
http://forum.sex141.com/eforum/v ... &extra=page%3D1

Quite an interesting discourse on their druthers, practices etc.

I wonder if there is scope for one of these more senior members to "host" A SEPARATE thread for them to discuss topics of their own interest as well as for the rest of the younger members to ask questions about aging and sex, our own prospects as we all get older etc?

It should also serve as a platform for the more senior amongst us to discuss their specific needs without appearing as the stereotypical D.O.M. (Dirty Old Man) carricature in popular culture.

SEAJ

[ Last edited by  SEAJ at 27-11-2011 12:17 ]

I 100% agree with Seaj, MKK. This all sounds like a lot of trouble and if your ex suddenly decides that she wants to hurt you, she can. Yeah I hear you, she's different and all but at the end of the day its a married man vs a single chick and you are in the weak position, no doubt. Thats why wgs are great, they are here for the cash and will not be interested in your background and personnal life and thus you are out of reach. Being vulnerabld, even through common friends, implies taking huge risks with your marriage imho. But, we're alldriven by hormones, so I guess this feeling may be hard to fight!

Back from long family vacation and ready to pick up where I left off, but is it just me or has the talent gone down??

All the gals I wanted to hit up on my return are gone!  

Looks like I am gonna have to start all over again as The so called regular I was planning to keep seems to not interest my appetite anymore as on my last visit with her I noticed a little armpit hair.

J

Nah....probably just you.

Things seems out of whack every time I come back to HOng KOng from a long trip - but they settle back in place within quite a short period of time.

But this is a good opportunity to do some "fresh nookie" shopping; after all, Man's natural proclivities IS to spread his seeds amongst as many maidens as he can muster up!

Welcome home!

SEAJ

Thanks bro!

I am sure that I had myself built up too much to have a go at a couple of gals on my return and them having disappeared from the DB must have affected my views.

Been looking for the last 7 hrs while wife and kid are recovering from their jet lag and yet to find one that can accommodate to my time.

Oh well back to the DB and smsing

J

Just a thought for you to keep in mind:

Regardless of what you decide on, I just know that most SO get really pissed if guy meets/shags ex-gf more so than shagging a strange girl on a ons or a wg. I guess there is a real emotional fear on the SO's part that you will get back together with the ex because of the history that both you have had.

Alright ppl...

So yesterday my ex came over to my house. God damn I was thinking of what you guys said, though I've made up my mind that I want some that night. Especially after thinking about it for a week or so.

After I got off work (yes I need to work saturdays too), I went and picked my ex up.
As soon as got in my car, I was thinking: "damn, she doesn't look like what she used to and she has aged"
A turn off definitely.

Few minutes later end up at my place. At this time, I really didn't feel like I wanted to have sex any more. I don't know
if it's because what I read, or she didn't look that good any more. So we chilled, smoke a couple of blunts.

In about an hour, we were both pretty high. We sat side by side, and listened to music.
By this time, if I wanted to, I should've made my move. But I didn't have that feel. (usually everytime after I smoke, I have sex with my SO, and it's amazing) I don't know what it was.

But still, I had to give it a small shot just for nothing. So I asked: "have you thought, what it would feel like if we had sex?" She just smiled in an agreeing way. And by then, I couldn't go further. I decided not to do anything. It just felt weird and wrong.

So that night ended up doing nothing!!! Drove her home after we chilled for 3 hours.

So there you go.... MKK missed some pussy.... You guys brain-washed me so much!!!

Good for you MKK! You won't live to regret this. At least you can bury this ghost of the past and move on feeling good about yourself!

If you didn't feel like it that means you have moved on and SO is better. At least you know you have another friend to count on then having another problem to worry about.

Jacking off isn't half a bad idea!

As from my actual experience, it's better to jack off then to suffer later and since SEAJhas requested me to tell more about what happened to me, I may as well share.

Similar event took place for me about 6 years ago. By then I was already married with the love of my life. The ex-gf who did the damage was not exactly wife material...and that's one of the main reasons why the relationship ended. Even though she was the greatest in the sack for me comparing with all the girls I've had (gf, flings and wg included), she is simply not right as a wife for me.

I have to say she gave great bj, loves sex, adventurous and is willing to try just aboutanything. We had toys, she wore sexy clothes and willing to go for it anywhere, any time. But then I decide to end it when I had to decide between her and my wife...I chose my wife over great sex, one of the few times that I actually think with my head, not my dick

Anyway, what happened was one day the ex-gf contacted me as she was feeling frustrated with her bf at that time and needed someone to talk to. My wife was away at that time and I thought no harm done...

But if you keep jacking off, you may end up like gonuts


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Two eggs boiling in a pan, one egg says to the other i have a huge crack, the other says stop teasing me I'm not hard yet.....

Well done mkk! Am sure when you asked the question on a mongerer forum you thought we'd all tell you to fuck her brains off! But, even though our main brain is lb, we still think a little!
Now tuffbod, what the hell is this? You want to frustrate us or what? Tell us the end ofthe story bro!

Sorry Bro, I was writing the story on my iPad and accidentally tapped submit and then was disconnected from internet..and somehow the server was down right after that...

Anyway continuing from the cliff-hanger...

When my ex-gf called and said she needed someone to talk to, I gladly lent my ears. Thinking no harm done since we parted amicably, was still friends and wife is away. We decided to meet in a restaurant for a dinner. With some wine and good food, the conversation went on and on...she was complaining that her current bf then was not "feeding" her enough and was always too busy with work and too tired every time he get home... When I say feed, I think most of you Bro knows what I am talking about..she has a big appetite for sex! When I was with her, she'd want to fuck every single day! Even when I am not up to it, she will be more than happy to just give head...she says she enjoys seeing a man blow his load and likes the taste of cum in her mouth.

One thing lead to another and the restaurant happens to be located in a hotel and next thing we know, we ended up in one of the rooms for some action. Needless to say, with all those pent up energy and frustrations she had in her, we went on for the whole night with 4 climaxes for me, 2 in her pussy, one in her backdoor and one in her mouth    (I am not sure how many for her though) and capped with a "sausage" breakfast (more like brunch as by then it was almost 11am) for her! So that makes 2 in the mouth. Good thing is my wife was away for almost 2 weeks and I have a lot of "savings" in me..which I was saving for my wife. Btw, that was the only time that I managed 5 climaxes...never did it before and never been able to do that again since...and didn't know that was even possible until that night!

Well, that was the good part.

It was supposed to be a secret and no one was supposed to know, she will not tell and all that were said. Then her ugly side came out, I blame myself for being too trusting and think with my dick instead of my head. Don't know why (until today) she decided to harass me with messages and calls to my phone and I think she was hoping that my wife will find out about what happened. My wife eventually did because my ex finally told her what happened when one of her calls we picked up by my wife.

Deep down I knew I was asking for trouble the moment she asked to meet up, but just like MKK's case, the temptation of finding out how's it like to have a go with an ex was too great to ignore. Besides, she was indeed a great shag through and through. The sex was amazing, but the aftermath was much worst! I had a really bad 3 years following that but still consider myself lucky that my wife was willing to forgive me. Needless to say the event made my punting life very difficult after that and much of my freedom has been diminished. I bear the brunt of it because for one, I love my wife and I couldn't bear to lose my daughter. But brothers, trust me..."hell really has no fury for a woman scorned", I never knew my wife was capable of that kind of anger.

It would've been much better to find a WG to release any pent up energy or jack-off as that leaves no trace (at least much easier to cover your tracks). But with someone you know like an ex...I'd say it's really not advisable.

Hope this could serve as a good advice to all those bro out there who might be thinking of having a pop with an ex..do it only if you are single and do not have a SO.

[ Last edited by  Tuffbod at 28-11-2011 10:06 ]