What’s everyone’s thoughts on this? I’m 23 and it seems like everyone my age probably has some sort of sexual experience but I’ve got none, which makes me feel like I’m missing out on what’s supposed to be my best years.

Also, any recommendations on who would be nice for a first time? I’m an expat so English speaking would be a must

Short answer: Just do it

Long answer: Do it. You will learn some things about yourself. What you like and don't like. Most likely you consumed porn videos before. You will find out that not everything shown in porn is fun or feels good, and vice versa, what feels good doesn't always look good. Go in open minded and try out things. Maybe you like getting rimmed, maybe you like a woman sitting on your face, maybe you like Anal, maybe you like getting dominated with a strap-on. Find out what you like, this will make you a better partner in the future. Knowing what you like yourself and accommodating another person is important in a relationship.

For the first time i would recommend someone that is "fun" and sees their services as a job. If they provide too much GFE, then your head might get confused. If it is too much PSE, you might be overwhelmed. It depends on you.

We can only recommend someone if we know where you are. If you are in Thailand, I think Ja from Bamboo Massage is up to the job.

In general, it might be helpful to let the provider know what you are there for. I forgot where i read it, but someone reported online that he had "multiple" first times with WG. Because he stated why he was there, they were more "caring" and took things slow. He seemed to enjoy that a lot and repeated his first time with many different WG. Just for your consideration.

Laszlo's advice is excellent. Http://forum.141-hk.com/eforum/viewthread.php?tid=91537 would have been a perfect address to visit.

[ Last edited by  Hobbier at 13-2-2024 19:28 ]

No shame in having your first time with a WG. Just be smart about it and remember that you are there to have sex, not an emotional connection. That said, if having an actual girlfriend is your goal, you should invest in that too (physical appearance, social skills etc). If not, enjoy the sex and be careful not to spend too much

I lost my V-card to a WG at 22, and I don't regret it. It was liberating, because it significantly reduced the pressure to get laid. One less thing to think of when approaching/dating girls.

Having said that, I got complacent with cheap sex and didn't invest in dating as much. Don't date for sex, date for relationships, and develop your ways of dealing with relationships, problems, personality mismatches, etc.

Oh, and don't mention to any girl that you were seeing WGs. Some women might tolerate a history of such, but the girls I told saw me as "broken goods" and certainly contributed to the demise of those relationships.

While I didn't lose my V card with a WG, the best and most experience I have gotten was with WGs right afterwards. There is a fascination about losing it and who to lose it with but in reality it doesn't matter in the long run. Just do it and make sure you don't catch feelings.

Do it bro! Learn about yourself and what you prefer in sex. You can even treat as like a training course, preparing you for when you eventually get your own girl.

Get good at punting, you'll be good in hole-in-ones

I feel like all the stress of dating is made worse by you wanting to get laid. Makes you put up with shit that you normally wouldn’t.

Fuck with a few wg 10’s and realize that sex is great but not the end all.  So if a girl isn’t meeting your standard or isn’t who you’d typicallly like you don’t have to feel like you need to fuck with her because you’ve definitely had better.

Then when you meet a girl you actually have a real connection with you’ll be readyand be prepared because even with your best sex game you’ll be surprised how my a connection increases pleasure.

Also, don't feel pressured to perform.

Everything was so new for me when I tried a wg for my virginity that I was really confused and couldn't finish. Just keep at it and after a while your LB will get used to it.

Afterwards you'll be able to date much better as well since I think being a virgin in your mid-late 20s as a guy makes you feel insecure when you're dating girls you really like.

Thanks guys. I think I’ll do it in the coming weeks.

currently looking around for a nice provider who is fluent in English. I don’t care much about the race as long as it’s a good experience. Any suggestions?

I'm going to go against the grain a bit here.

If you're a reasonable looking young man, I'd hold tight and try to lose it with a girlfriend or at least a girl who's into you and wants to see you naked. However, if women simply aren't attracted to you and you think it'll never happen, then just go for it.

I had a couple of girlfriends when I was young but I've been firmly in the undatable camp for many years now. If you like or want any kind of emotional attachment (I prefer it that way), then you'll enjoy it much more with a girlfriend.

Just my two cents.

Best of luck whatever you do, young Sir.

[ Last edited by  JasonWu at 3-3-2024 16:21 ]

I’m in Hong Kong, forgot to mention that sorry

Bro, too many choices in HK. Since you are already here, just do it.

Nothing wrong with being a virgin but also nothing wrong with losing your v-card to a WG. At the end of the day, sex is just a thing of nature and only the old-fashioned are obsessed with the sanctity of it.

I didn't lose mine to a WG but honestly, having a no-stakes go at it with a WG might make you more confident when the time comes to have sex with a girl you like. Upside of the WG is they have that inherent customer service so whenever you feel embarrassed (which happens, don't worry), they'll coax you in the right direction. Hell, you could probably tell her you're a virgin and she'll know how to handle it like the pro she is.

As for who to go for, you got nothing but options in HK. Even the language barrier isn't really a barrier, but you can also search up which WGs speak English if that's an important element for you. Just treat the girl politely and enjoy yourself, mate.

I wonder if he's taken the plunge? or got himself a girlfriend yet?  at 23 go to Wanchai if your in hongkong  and have fun in the bars.  the girls there will be on you like a rash (maybe wrong term for this forum :-)

\anyway you can chat have a drink etc and see what you like. don't let the first one in latch on to you. take a good look around first

if you did you should update us on how it went.

WGs are the safest. 99% use condoms. All the young Chinese 141 walkups I've come across use condoms. Also, 99% of 141 walkups use sanitary single use disposable towels & liquid soap. The only ones who don't take sane health precautions are the SWs, granny WGs & the non-Chinese women working in non-141 formats like saunas or those who work for an agent. I have never known any monger to get any disease from a WG because they take precautions. The only guy friends that I have who got a STI, got it from a GF. The GF cheated and they were having unprotected sex because it was his freaking GF and you're supposed to trust a LTR.

Read the 1st 3 pages of reviews in the 141 walkup section and read the 1st 3 pages of reviews in the newbie section.  Follow our advice & start having fun! I recommend that you start out with the 141 walkups because the Hotel appointments girls' pics have ALL been photoshopped. Also, the sauna girl pics online have... you guessed it, ALL been photoshopped. The 141 walkups' pics have been photoshopped but you don't have to commit if you just walk up and ring a doorbell without an appointment. WYSIWYG! For the inexperienced, the 141 walkup offers that easiest experiences IMHO, for a newbie. The menu is usually on the wall so they can't rip you off. Use google translate. You don't really need them to speak English. I bring 3x5 index cards with stick figures depicting what I want. This avoids any miscommunications. Lol.

Anyways, good luck and have fun!

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[ Last edited by  drjoker6969 at 21-5-2024 18:44 ]

Update since this post got revived again haha

I haven't yet done it due to a combination of fear, guilt, etc. Lately however my urges have been getting stronger and I've been reading up reviews on here. Jasmine and Dreamy seem to be highly rated and popular WGs on this forum so I was thinking maybe one of them would be nice as a first timer. Thoughts?

I lost mine to a SW at 23!

Wouldn’t have considered her a WG but I did pay for my first time and i genuinely have no regrets.

It had opened my eyes as to what i genuinely am looking for and what i want(sexually). It has definitely helped with the pressures put on you for being a virgin (at least the pressure i felt) and helped me to focus more on myself and becoming a little more financially stable. I don’t partake in this hobby very often but i am thankful for the experience it has given me and the confidence it has given me to not only schedule with other girls and orgs, but to talk to women in general. I dunno i feel like i’m starting to go off on a tangent here but in all, i’d say go for it, just remember to keep in mind that these are working women! Do not fall in love or catch feelings as it’ll only hurt you and prevent you from becoming a regular with some of these very fine and very nice women

Lost mine to a WG at 19. Treated it somewhat like a themepark ride, did plenty of research beforehand, made sure I understood what I was getting myself into. Communicated my case to the provider, they understood but didn't change much of the session. Went for it, enjoyed it, had problems finishing which is whatever.

Emotionally had/have no problems with it, 90% of the reasons I did it for involve curiosity, being horny, and too much time, can't deny that there was some desire for intimacy. Definitely everyone is in a different boat though, I'm not even that unattractive I was just really impatient.

If you're losing sleep at night over it, just do it.

However, I do advise to keep your composure and yourself in check if you do intend on keeping a connection with a WG after your session. I've personally been with a working girl that suddenly decided to move into findom and tried to convert her old clients into being donators. Unsurprisingly, the only ones that donated were from what I'm assuming are the ones that she took their virginities from, as their tweets seem to match the profile.