I've known a working girl for about one or two years she is sometimes in my city, and sometimes overseas. I'm tired of P2P, so don't use them much, but this girl came back to my city recently, and sent me a message she wanted to see me again. I told her I'm not interested in P2P at the moment, but I'd take her to dinner or show her around if she wanted.

She accepted my offer, so I took her around town and out to dinner. My idea was to just take her out as a friend, but she specifically told me she wanted to fuck me, so I took her to a hotel. I took her out three times like this before she left my city. I don't care she is in P2P, and we mostly have just gone out or drinking without any mention of P2P. Have you ever dated a working girl? What do you think is important when seeing a working girl like this?

i always believe in not having too much emotional attachment to working girls...kinda like a FWB.

I've had 1 who asked me for a holiday to Japan or Bali, some others who suggested I should visit them in their hometowns in China. I have never followed through on this but I'll be curious to hear what other bros may share.

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basically, no I would not

So you wouldn't go for a meal with one?

I can understand suggesting to travel together, but why to their hometowns? Is that suggesting they want to get serious, and maybe get married in future?

i feel like all working girls are human too..they are flesh and blood so I treat them with the same respect i would a friend.  Not knowing them well and going to their hometown...feels like a trap.  Traveling with them might be ok because if things go south you can just dig out.

Why ask me to travel to their hometown:
1. Possibly to test whether I'm open to the idea of dating them or even marrying them.
2. Possibly to earn quick buck without leaving their hometown. I know a lot of them pay for their own travel expenses to come HK.
3. Could be a teaser to try to retain me as a regular customer.

To be honest I wouldn't try to visit their hometown - I'm a foreigner (in their hometown) and I don't want any sorts of trouble.

But yes, these WGs are humans and they have feelings - it does make me happy if they do have genuine interest in me.

Great advice! Just curious, why don't you ask the WG out or offer to visit her hometown?

From what I notice, WGs won't usually engage you in their off-time, we might need to take the initiative.

know what you're getting into before and make sure you're both on the same page. @tonkachi is spot on, it's more like a FWB situation for me. I don't see myself marrying them (even dating them: would you be willing to introduce her to your friends? can you trust that she's not still working on the side?). I tend to see a few WGs more frequently, rather than seeing many WGs, so it does end up like a FWB situation after a while. but a real relationship is a line I wouldn't cross

I feel the same way....I like finding a few that I'm pretty comfortable with and tend to visit them more often.  i enjoy building up the rapport with them and it makes the sessions more fun and entertaining and the occasional gift here and there...nothing expensive at all.  @simhyi when you build the rapport with the girl then you can try...but you just don't want a WG to think your mr money bags willing to take her out to eat fancy food and what not.

More like if she is working a late get her a midnight snack or if she likes fried chicken bring it to her.  I've even bought the entire house starbucks one time just cuz we were talking and she wanted sb.  The definitely got me some points with the mama and brought me into a different class of "clients".

Danger zone son.  

That aside, you can try to play this game, but don't end being a sucker. This kinda thing rarely works out for the better.

Goodluck

I went to Thailand with a friend and came back to find out my girlfriend I been dating for 2 and a half year cheated on me a few times so, I broke things off with her and went to see a working girl who happened to be touring in my city. When I went to see her, she was really friendly through out the service and she asked me to stay for longer I obliged since I didn't see any problem with it(she even cancelled her next client for me to stay didn't ask me for more money), we just chill and talked about each other life experiences and thats when things kicked off i asked her if we go for a drink or dinner(normally I never really thought about doing this with working girls but since I was single, I thought why not). She said maybe, message me after I left about how she had a nice time with me and she really wants to take me up on that offer we been talking to each other for a few days, eventually found a night to meet up and actually had a good time(at the end of the day all of us are human) went back to her place to stay for a night she didn't charge me or anything, the next day she actually asked if she could see me again, I didn't know if she meant as a client or what so I accept it. After few weeks of message and meeting up we both started dating each other ever since, we even went on a holiday together and introduced to each other families and friends actually talked about settling down. Dating a working girl is definitely not easy since I know what she does as a job and she always has clients ask her if she wants to go out with them or if she wants them to be her boyfriend etc but she ignores it, we had a few arguments about the relationship because of these things but she assured me that her feelings for me are real, now we are still dating and keep going strong(pretty much trust each other at this point)


Sorry for such a long post, I actually want to talk about this kind of things and see how others if they have these kind of experience as well. (only 1 or 2 of my close friends know about this as they have done it before but didn't last long)

Great for finding this post..
In fact I had a similar history with a working girl. We did message each other from time to time, sometimes I thought the feelings are genuine but at times I felt like I was being exploited to get gifts here or there (not expensive)

There are also a few that did the same u mention, eg inviting me to their country or going travel together, but this one seems a bit different.

I know I have to stop. The thought of her having intricate interactions with other men are just not acceptable for me.  I guess it’s better to stay at Friends.

Yeh I definitely can get what you mean. I did have tinder when I was in Thailand or Hong Kong for holidays and I do start talking to some of them and they start asking can you buy me this or that etc? One even asked me to buy her a plane ticket to UK. Is like wtf hardly know you and why would I do that? You do get some are genuine and some aren't. Is like walking in a minefield never know when you get blowing up.

Is up to you whether to take a shot, traveling to another country or just anything at all. That definitely was in my mind at one point, the thought of what she does with other clients it was hard for me to take it. I think you either have to accept it or don't I even had a conversation about that with her.

rule #1 never ever go beyond your financial means
rule #2 Know when to stop

the problem i see know adays with all of the sugar daddies and compensated dating...the WG thing of us as their honey pot to dig into and get something that they want.

@eddnub great story and it goes to show that working girls are really just humans too and they all the same things we are looking for when we visit a working girl.  I don't understand how people can act they way they do and treat them like lesser human beings just because they are giving them cash

That I do agree if shes only interested in you getting them stuff or whatever. Alot of these working girls are just looking out for themselves by finding a sugar daddy or someone willing to spending money on them while working so they don't have work as hard as they need to. At the end of the day people will always look out for themselves first.

@tonkachi thanks man, I been wanting to talk to some people about it because I really want to see their POV to these kind of situation. I think the ones treats working girls like that are the ones wants to feel superior or watching too much hardcore porn thinking WG wants to be treated like that.

@daytimefun to be honest I can accept it, at least she's more honest than my ex who been cheating behind my back for a year and a half at the same time she told me she genuinely has feeling for me and if she has a choice she definitely would quit what she doing right now and be with me

Going on holiday with a WG can be fun,, treat her like a GF and once holiday is over, back to normal life without strings attached. Once you get to know them, they have issues like keeping their work a secret from their own families and friends.
Just know when to cut and run

Ok, could be good to get this out of my system. Interesting subject.

I've been seeing this Chinese girl in London and, since we first met 4 months, we've have a strong bond. Hard to describe, but sex is far more intense than with other girls (I've seen other girls whilst seeing her and it just wasn't the same). We've 'broken up' many times because of the way I felt about what she was doing (paying off medical bills for her sick father), the way I felt (using her young body), me asking for too much (her precious time to get to know her more) her being intense with me (saying 'i love you' and 'my husband' during sex), basically so many reasons. Sometimes, when she has time, we'll go out later, go for a meal, etc. She gives me some of her time when she has it but she works like crazy.

There's absolutely no way this will work out. She goes back to China soon, 'massage' is all she knows, shes nearly half my age, she's not the brightest candle in the room (but she's young). Hardly any english. So many reasons. Basically, she has sacrificed herself for her family. She says to me that I make her happy while she does this. She breaks my heart and at the same time makes my heart jump because she's such a special person.

But fuck, I'm crazy about her because she's gorgeous (seriously, I walk down the street with her on my arm and guys are looking at us and white girls stare daggers at me), kind, brave and million other things not related to sex. And, I think, she likes me too.

I have a close friend who I share this with and he thinks I'm crazy (but he's young and never been in love). I think I'm crazy sometimes because I spend all my monthly budget on her. I don't know if I am being manipulated. I don't care about the money but if if it all turns out to be a massive con then I will be very depressed.

As I say, she is going back soon and I will miss her a lot.

My thinking now is that, she will go, enjoy her while I can (because she's fucking good and she gives me extras for free) and then...   ...what?

I really don't know. In a recent conversation, she said she missed me (after a week) and I said that I think about her every day, and she said she's feels the same. So, I joke (because I had a stern talking to the last time I said this) 'so we should get married' and then she says 'really? really? you my family', etc.

I've also noticed she's a bit schizophrenic. I think she see's so many men that our conversation get lost as she doesn't remember some things we talked about. She's available 24 hours and sleeps when she can. Nuts. It makes me feel crazy jealous, worried, anxious, etc, etc.

At the moment, we've kind of broken up because I am going to HK and she's from Shenzhen so she knows what I'm going to be doing. Yes, she gets jealous when I see other girls (even girls she introduced me too). But, we are not married, I can do whatever I want. It's how I deal with what she does becuase I need to stop thinking about it.

Anyway, I feel like I'm rambling.

Maybe some other guys can relate, not sure. My point is that these girls are human, and have the biggest hearts, they shouldn't be punished for what they do with loneliness/distrust/shame, etc.

But it's very, very, very difficult to cope with, almost impossible I would say.