I agree with you. When you're single you have the time and the money. When you're married it's hard to find the time, and the money sort of dries up a little. Also you've got to make sure you don't get caught by the wife. All in all better to find the WG, spend the money and go home.

5-htp - Great call on the book! It sounds very interesting and i'll be reading it soon!!

simplytheguest - i totally understand what you mean by the courting process!! I've been in a relationship for over 4 years now and I find that what i miss, is the challenge of picking up the girls!! I suppose it adds excitement to whole thing

dude, i feel for u man, deprived for 5 yrs! wtf dude, GO GET SOME!!!

life is all about the "GAME"

i'm cbc (chinese born canadian) parents from HK though

most girls who are liberated are open to most things, as long as they arent right wing conservative, should be fairly easy to hook up (hint: they shouldnt be four eyes geeks, head always in a book!) i'd say the people they hang out with, the places they hang out with, and what they wear are the biggest clues, goodluck bro  and remember GO GET SOME!!!

MYSTERY also has his own reality tv show on VH1 called "the pick up artist"

season 1 is complete, season 2 is almost done, down to 3 guys! watch it, it will change your perspective on courting

i downloaded the Ebook off Bittorrent last night, and read it until 6.30am

if you want it for free i can send it to your email bro

to 5-HTP, yea i don't know what is wrong with me. i guess it's partly due to the uni i go to. most of the girls here are study freaks and the ones that are interesting and beautiful think too highly of themselves. i would not consider myself bad-looking. i'm 6'3'', have a decent dress-sense (smart casual, jeans, sports jacket, nice shirts etc), would rank myself 6-7/10 and had a few girls who liked me but i never really got interested in them.

i think the thing i need next is to get some practice. maybe hit the clubbing scene in london sometime? or is starbucks, bookshops, museums etc also good game? and do you seriously just walk up to random girls and chat them up? i'm also mainly on the lookout for hot asian girls

pooner, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you. just because your not getting chicks doesnt mean theres something wrong!!!

study freaks...   they prolly dont know what sex is!

sounds like u have a pretty good avatar already! i'd love to be 6'3"

the one thing u must learn in life is that "human beings want things they can't have" - i am exactly like you!!! yes thats right, when girls are interested in me, i totally play hard to get, and give them no time of day... so effing strange!!!

practice makes perfect... clubbing is good, i used to club alone for about 6months, just meet ppl there and hang out...starbucks is cool, lotta hot asian chicks work as baristas

bookshops NOT so hot, ppl are there for quiet time, they dont want to be disturbed or be noisy! museums... hmm... never thought about it. a new one is the grocery store!!! thas a good game!!! the HOTTEST game in vancouver would be the local casinos. all the dealers are young asian chicks (19-23)... and once in a blue moon, you'll even see hot asian chicks playing $5 blackjack... they also deal in the poker room, so would be good idea to learn holdem or omaha!

i talk to random girls about 30% of the time... the other 70% they talk to me... all depends on the vibe, u get better over time.

looking for HOT asian poon??? fuck, YELLOW FEVER is contagious!!! maybe try going to bubble tea places, asian clubs, asian malls, any sort of asian hang out.... we are lucky in vancouver, 50% of population is asian... 90% of my white friends have korean, chinese, or vietnamese wives or g/fs...

[ Last edited by  5-htp at 2-12-2008 06:18 ]

the library is also a good place to pull!

during exam time, shit loads of students are there revising!

sat side by side! you couldnt ask for a better opportunity!

thats where i met my gf and i wasnt even s student

Was it the children's library?
So you are a stalking gold fish man!

wow 5-htp once again thanks for all the detailed posts and advice u've given!! they'll come in very useful int he future

and for the record, i am CBC too, but moved to HK when i was 4 years old. i'm chinese, that's why i dig asian chicks

you got me thinking!
for those outside asia and want to meet asian chicks! just become their english teacher

i was looking for korean books at the time, when my korean gf was looking for english books!

i wasnt too sure if she was korean, but i said something to her in korean anyway

she was impressed!

the rest is history

how did you pull  your wife bro

[ Last edited by  simplytheguest at 2-12-2008 09:15 ]

I think that's probably your #1 issue: you think there are girls who do and girls who don't.  You gotta stop that, or you'll give mankind a bad rep!   

Of course, it's true at one level, some girls have a higher sex drive than others, but you have to let that go.  Even a girl who's got a low sex drive gets revved up, and when she's in the mood she'll be as willing as any of her sisters.  

So it really helps to stop guessing, and to realise that underneath it all there isn't a single girl alive who wakes up in the morning, looks in the mirror, and tells herself "Today is a day that I do NOT want to get swept off my feet!".  All girls are the same, and they are all looking for the same as we (the y-chromosomed) are looking for: to have all their buttons pushed and end up with a passionate night in the sack.  Tonight.  

From that perspective it becomes much easier

So stop looking for which girl would accept you.  That doesn't work.

Instead start looking for which of all that sea of choice you want to start with, and focus your attention on her.  It completely changes the chemistry, and you'll find girls responding to you in ways you never expected.  

And you'll also stop wasting time on girls who you really wouldn't want to spend much time with (unless they were naked with their butt in the air , but then only for 15 minutes) because they irritate you, waste your time, want your money, want you to Commit before they take the slightest action themselves, blame you for the way they're feeling, want you to make them happy, etc. etc.

OK this is turning into a rant, must have touched a sore point!!  

But you get the picture!  Go get 'em tiger!!

The old ones are the best ones: language or "cultural" exchange is still the #1 euphemism for getting hooked up ... just ask her for advice on how to chat up a girl ... she'll tell you! ... best of all she tells you the version that SHE likes to hear!!!

you know koreans absolutely love it when they see non koreans speak their launguage

koreans are very very patriotic! and are always trying to tell how great their country is

when people think of asia, they only think japan or china!

koreans dont like that!

so when they meet a foreigner that speaks their language

they get excited!

Haha good points made, Dartagnan. Thanks for imparting your words of wisdom to me

I've also slowly realized over the past year that girls are JUST as horny as us men, if not more so. I just never realized that girls like to put on a show and pretend to be 'innocent' and not want to have a good time in bed.

I learnt this from an important 'lesson' this summer. During my summer job there was a girl I was interested in. She also gave some signals, like holding my arm, making an effort to talk to me even though we were on different floors and gave me these occasional mysterious glances. Anyways, we went out to a clubbing event in LKF. She 'pretended' to be drunk, and was all over me and pushing her body over me.  It felt like being 'reverse molested,' and I even managed to get a feel of her breasts. Anyways, I naively thought she was just drunk and out of it and didn't think much of it. There were two other guys trying to hit on her, interesting thing was she didn't respond to them, but was all over me, pretending to be drunk, and fall over in front of me into my chest and open arms. One managed to take her to a nearby bar, and I followed just to make sure nothing happened.When they came out of the bar I took them both back to the hotel we were staying at and saw them off to their own rooms. Anyways, I found out about a week later that she ended up sleeping with the the other guy that didn't bring her to the bar, after I saw her off to her own room. Later, I also found out she slept with 3 other guys in one summer Funny thing was I thought she was the last person that would sleep around so casually...

I really wanted to shoot myself because I let my misconceptions about girls prevent me from losing my virginity to a girl that I liked and had a model body!!! It was a painful lesson and failure that I will definitely learn not to repeat again.

On a sidenote, is it common to see a PRC girl from a 'conservative' family to sleep with so many guys in such a short span of time?!!

[ Last edited by  pooner at 2-12-2008 11:42 ]

just because her parents are conservative, doesnt mean she is bro!

since she had slept with other guys so easily, dont be too sad! you're just another number to her!

had she slept with you first, then the others later! you may feel used

you sound so young

funny thing is, the other guy that slept with her that night had no idea either that she slept around.

he thought she was interested in a serious relationship with him.... in the end he got burned badly when she ignored him after he tried to take the 'fling' to a different level

haha i am 23... not very young. there are plenty of 23 year old guys out there pulling plenty of girls...

to be honest bro! if she wanted a serious relationship, she wouldnt throw herself around so cheaply!

my first gf was also quite cheap! fucked her after a week dating!

shes the type that loves every decent guy she meets!

she suggested we get a tattoo with our names on each others back

i didnt of course

if you ever meet a girl you like bro, but dont have courage to ask her out!

write her a letter

girls love this!

done it myself before

if theres any girl you like, and she knows of you! give her a letter one day to express your feelings!

if she isnt touched after that, fucking let me know ASAP!

ill slap this bitch

yourwelcome pooner! hope u become a MPUA!!!

asian girls... yummyyyyy do u even notice white girls around? cuz they are pretty much invisble to me!!!

not sure why, but always thought u were non-asian! i guess its when u say u love asian chicks!!!  if ur cbc also, i guess ur canto and english is pretty good! i cant read for shits when i comes to chinese characters, so sad


sounds like my kinda girl... she gotta be in to 3p and 4p fucks!!!

[ Last edited by  5-htp at 2-12-2008 11:58 ]

haha i want to know what these girls think... if she doesn't want a serious relationship then what does she want?! just sleep around forever? does she not enjoy the kind of sex a couple have when they are in love? maybe she just wanted to to release some of her pent-up horniness?

what should i do the next time i see her? should i even bother trying to get her to go out with me in a 'relationship'? if she does agree to go out with me, i am mentally prepared that it isn't going to be a serious one. prepare for the worst, hope for the best

wow our tastes are exactly the same!!! i don't have the slightest desire for 'hot' white chicks, they are virtually invisible to me. (maybe that has to do with the fact that we will never in a million years get one of those? )

yep, i can speak canto and english well, but can't read jackshit chinese characters. i went to an international school in HK.