LOL!  I have a GF in Guangzhou...  When we were first dating, I told her all about my WG (and general poon-hunting) habits.  She said that she understood how men are and could accept a little playing around -- so long as (1) I didn't play in Guangzhou; and (2) I was honest with her.  I accepted her conditions, but reminded her not to ask questions if she didn't want to hear the answers.  I lied my way through the last half of a 30-year marriage, and life is too short to do that again!

Well, now we've been dating for several months.  But the last couple of weeks she's been busy with work and family and unable to meet.  So on Friday I went out for dinner with a woman (civilian) I met online who's been emailing me for about six weeks.  We hit it off, and dinner turned into a weekend-long sex marathon.  My GF texted me on Sunday evening asking me when I would be home, because she wanted to IM.  I told her that I was in Macau and would be back on Monday morning.

To make a long story short, we had a three-hour IM interrogation tonight.  I answered every question honestly (smart girl, she didn't ask how the sex was!).  now she tells me that she thinks I have a sex "problem"...  and have I ever seen a doctor?  I told her I did counseling and group therapy for three years...  made it much easier for me to see a women's point of view and therefore easier to relate to the WGs and break through the "routine"...  So what happened to the "acceptance"?

So what do you think guys?  Other than my pathological need to tell the truth, am I a sick fuck???

In America you would be referered to an expensive psychologist or therapist , in England you are just a normal randy guy...

Actually being sold as meat by my dad (my dad is obessed with attempting to get me married off as he thinks it will calm me down from my general insanity), it appears as if Mainland women are much more accepting of their men playing about as long as they look after the proper wife properly...


You can always flip it around and say but darling if I don't shag all these other women I'll wear your pussy out or you'll have to satisfy my desires of 5-10 times a night.

Are you asking us for opinion or help?

Women will agree to anything until they've got you, then they try to change you.
I remember when my fiends and I were single and going out with our GFs [now wives] we used to meet every Weekend [either Friday or Saturday night].
When we got engaged the fiancees changed it to every month. After marriage it was changed to every 3 months. Now we meet every 6 months, even though the wives would like to cut it out completely.
So I guess you need to be aware that pressure will be applied to change your habits.

other than your "pathological need to tell the truth", there's nothing wrong with u...

men need to fuck.. it's normal.
and there are sicker fucks on this forum... like hunter, paka, etc...  

I would tell her to take it or leave it.  If she's unhappy, then tell her not to let the door hit her in the arse.  I'm serious.  You can always find another one, and it looks like you have already.  There are literally millions of chicks in China who'd be fine with having a boyfriend who punts on the side.  I have done some research into this - asked some gals if they'd be willing to have a bf who doesn't come home 2 nights out of the month, etc.  These two free nights are exclusive of business meetings, etc.  

The one thing they don't like is a girlfriend or mistress, because emotions are involved.  KTV gals, SN gals, that's ok.  Yes, weird, but it makes sense once you think about it.

DITCH HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
bro Cali, nothing wrong with you!!! I am actually sicker fuck than you and I feel perfectly  normal.......what a beautiful life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Damn, then again, Cali, you don't want to get to Sir Hunter's level.  Beg for her forgiveness before you turn over completely to the Dark Side.

After reading what you wrote, doesn't sound too bad tbh.

Definately not a sick fuck...just a guy who likes to play around a bit which every guy has done one stage or another.

I think we're missing the main point.

How much do you like your gf?

Would you be willing to lose her to maintain your lifestyle?

It seems like you already get a lot of freedom from her... Mine would never accept any playing around, meaning that I need to either be super careful or give up my hobbying if I want to stay with her

His first mistake was telling the GF about his punting activities/habits....a big No No......
Point of no return.

I would say tell her to deal with it or move on.

It has been mentioned elsewhere that PRC girls will tolerate a man (bf or husband) having a boy's night out once in a while provided no emotional attachment comes from it. I do NOT have this privilege in my gig.

Oh, I was just trolling for opinion...  If in fact I need help, i'm beyond hope anyway...


No, I disagree...  I actually thought this one through (which doesn't mean that my thoughts were sensible).  My reasoning was that if she could not handle this, then I would leave her.  As BPB said, there are many fish in the China Sea.  If she can handle it, then we have established a useful precedent.  Besides, I would rather have no relationship than one in which I had to hide what I am resigned to believe are very deep-seated proclivities...

Have fun, CGP

Telling the GF is a huge mistake.

Girl sound all accepting and loving when you first meet them, but anything you tell them is potential future ammunition.

You didn't tell your new girl about your activities, did you?

remember that ALL men are snakes, tell your gf you are a decent good snake

don't get married after two tries, no point

Let me check the calender...  

Oh wait is it July 4 ?!? and IMO unless you want fireworks then do NOT proceed down this road.  

'nuff said

When did I become sick???

No one is sicker than 5-htp thou....but he's stuck in LA with no cuties right now hahahaa...


Caligynephiliac....dude I don't think your sick... on the other hand, since when did men start telling women the truth???  No women would understand a man's punting activities!!!

Did you really go to counseling and group therapy for three years?

Sounds like you might be ripe for an Open Marriage ...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open_marriage

Take a risk.  Tell the GF you like her, but you felt uncomfortable about the way she interrogated you.  See where she goes from there.  You know where it leads if you have to start pretending and covering up, just so as to please her and make her feel safe.  

Now there's a question: was the interrogation accusatory and insecure? Or was she getting off on hearing about your hot weekend ..?  

My GF and I broke up over the weekend.  But now she is having second thoughts...  It is all getting very interesting.  She is expressing remorse via IM as I type this...