are you suffering like i am?
your SO just aint into bbbj , dayt or basically multiple postions anymore as the years slipped by?

i remember the wild horny sex and endless 69 we used to have but 1 fine day i found i just cant get my fix from home anymore?
is it me or do most guys face the same scenario?

i'm not saying she drove me to punt but how can i find our lost sparkle?

haha i think this is the wrong forum to ask, i think if our SO were all sex crazed nymphs there would be alot less bros on this forum

I remember with my SO, how when we first met she would bathe me, seduce me many many BJs etc.
Then as soon as you're married boom, it's like there is some kind of force field comes into place, a bit like those on the USS Enterprise that is near on impossible to penetrate.
So I then try to go down the Borg route by stating "resistance is futile" only for her to switch to a modulating frequency!
Hence I go to find my pleasures elsewhere by going boldly where no man has gone before. Only to find out many of you guys have been there already.

Sigh

If you want to boldly go where no man has gone b4 you could check old that auntie offering Greek for 250.

More like "to go boldly where 10 or so dudes go a day and leave their spunk". I think they never aired that episode of startrek.

Actually sex with my SO is getting better and more adventurous as we age, the problems are:

1. Me who wanting variety (yes, I am being a bastard)
2. My SO lacks certain skills and aggressiveness (she is good, it's just me being demanding)
3. I am hornier than my SO

So you see, I am the problem not her...So punting is the only option for me to keep my sanity and appetite...

Though this forum is obviously going to be a little biased toward certain responses, I believe that the saying variety is the spice of life is especially true amongst people who frequent this forum.  With my SO it's a very similar scenario to Tuffbod.  I know she wants to please me, but we just don't have the same sex drives, and I crave variety.  So punting is an outlet for me as well.  In your situation, I would try to assess whether it's complacency, lack of desire, or something else that's gotten in the way of amazing sex.  Until you figure that out, enjoying punting as a possible outlet!

Dude I was there many years ago.  I don't think I could get a decent BBBJ from my beotch if I paid her.  I turned to punting because of that reason alone.  I love BBBJ and she has no interest in doing it.  I stay for my house, car and kids and that is it.  I love meeting women all over the world and stopped feeling guilty about it a long time ago.  I never knew just what was out there and how many women are willing to fulfill your needs for very little in return.  I just wish I was living in Thailand or Vietnam with a rotating stable of LBFM's.

I have watched countless shows on tv with girls describing the reason they have a job is because S.O's are horrible at sex or show no interest in their men.  It has been this way for thousands of years and it will continue for that long.  Have fun, be safe and enjoy your life because you only get one.

I'm telling you guys, being married is the best female sex suppressant known to man!

I genuinely think that if I did not punt from time to time, it would be detrimental to my relationship with my SO. So in a way, whether she realises it or not. Me banging WGs is beneficial to our relationship.
However if she found out would she appreciate it? Noooooo would be the answer to the question.
Basically it is really stacked against you being a guy in a long term relationship! You do the right thing by your partner, by going out and hammering as many chicks as you can. You can ask the WG for CIM, anal, or to stick objects up your bum (if that's your thing!). And you do all this to keep things nice and cosy at home.
We make the sacrifices, by having to go out and spend time and money finding the ladies to perform these acts upon us, purely to ease the pressure on the SO. And despite all these selfless acts, if we get found out we are the bad guys!

It's a messed up world bros, a really messed up world!

Though I laugh as I read your rationalization for punting I gotta admit it IS true.

Quite some time ago my SO and I used to fight a fair bit - but only about one thing:  sex.  Everything else was/is great with us.  A damn good life together.  But I wanted sex a lot, she wanted it much less.  A common story, Bro.

Finallly, I said "fuck it" and went elsewhere....  She can fuck me whenever she feels in the mood..., but likewise I am going to fuck as often as I wish too...  with her or without her.

If (when?) that bad day comes that I get caught I will say "you're kidding right?  I offered myself to you daily, and you declined....  what did you expect to happen?"

I am not counting on that excuse to work, though.  If I ever get busted, I think the "I was doing it all for you, dear" defense is going to fall on very deaf ears.

I guess I am lucky that my SO actually do CIM, anal (at least she's willing to try) and actually wants to stick something up my bum (but it's not MCOT)...in fact we tried quite few things and I bought her toys that she enjoys too!

But I am still a bastard who just wants variety...and more of it...

[ Last edited by  Tuffbod at 25-2-2012 19:23 ]

I too am in a fairly lucky position where my SO is pretty giving, does CIM and other stuff, and wants it on a regular basis. Which is why I don't punt at all around home, or much when I travel with her.

But there's something about tight asian girls with hard bodies ... and the bargains you find in asia are just too good to ignore!

I don't know bro. Maybe a relationship counselor. I don't know where you are from but that kind of thing is common in the west. Or if you can handle the expense just keep punting.  

I'm lucky. My SO is hot and great in bed. I do what I want to her and she does what I want to me. And vice versa of course.   This is why I'm very picky with how the WGs look.

So even if your relationship and sexual relationship is good, you might still want to punt. After all, I just really really really really love having sex with strangers!!!!  It's even 10x better when they are not WG and I don't know if I'm going to score or not. Not so easy when getting older, but it still happens occasionally. Too occasionally for my liking ha ha.

WGs are really marriage counsellors of a sort, seems a few of you chaps are like me. Without the opportunity to punt and get rid of the sexual tension, our relationships would surely suffer.
Like Wander states, it's not a matter of not loving or caring about your SO, it's about your needs, and if these are unfulfilled tension follows.
I have had relationships pre marriage to some real nymphs who were into pretty much anything, and while the sex was fab, couldn't see me wanting to settle down with them, as not on the same wavelength in other areas.
Should be grateful that my SO doesn't have the same sex drive I guess, or I would be all out of excuses

I must say there are a good variety of answers here to this predicament.
I think it's tough for many SO: kids, job (for some), house stuff, etc. I know not all are like this but it must count for something for many. I think a lot of guys don't try hard enough with their SO's and go elsewhere because it's a soft option - me included.
My SO will get into most of the things I am looking for but not that often and it's hardwork to align the planets (mood, kids, business, all get in the way).
Punting gets the job done for me and I do love the variety, it doesn't help that Asian chicks drive me wild.

Halfclover is exactly right.  Damn aligning the planets is a pain in the ass.  I have done an insane amount of work trying to line things up with the house, kids, whatever and get some damn excuse after all of that work.  I learned to volunteer for nice international trips and just enjoy myself as much as I possibly could because home life was just too much fucking work.  I personally have also realized that for me, marriage is not really that important.  I LOVE my kids, my house and my car and that is pretty much where it ends for me.  I stay for them and my happiness is provided by the many women I meet all over the world.

As I have grown older, I have learned that so many women are available and really they wont ask for much if you play your cards right.  I have never been the afair type because of the time and effort that is involved.  I really enjoy a WG from time to time because I look at it as an experience and THERAPY. LOL!!

I need some LTR to...........

Absolutely the same here. I told myself "I'm going to have a sex life. With or without you that's your choice..." However, so far I have not been brave enough to tell her that :-)

Good thinking, the affairs are often more work than the marriage thing a demands, demands, demands & lots of pressure.
A few options here:
1. Punt, relatively cheap & no emotional baggage - preferred option 1.
2. Affair (single girl), initially cheap & lots of emotional baggage over time - found outthe hard way this is not for the faint hearted - non-preferred option.
3. Affair (married girl living in different city to you), very cheap & you've both got something to loose if it comes out so the odds are on your side & excellent GFE - preferred (occasional) option 2.
4. Affair (any girl you work with), crazy stuff, "fatal attraction" awaits you.