Please, disclaimer, I PRACTICE SAFE SEX WITH WG so please don't get me for using the word "bareback" which seem to carry significant stigma on this forum.


Now, you would BB your own GF/wife of course, would you not? I do.
Question/dilemma I came up recently is with a DH. Now, would you BB her?


I'm new to this entire DH game, but I want to be mentally prepared for what lies ahead. I'm not trying to establish a serious relationship, rather I want to just "play" just as they wanna have "fun" on their day off Sunday. Assuming she's not looking for baby nor other purposes, but as a natural flow from foreplay to sex, and if she just try to insert it, is this a risky/bad thing?
From reading of others it seems they treat you like bf, friend with benefits - in my own case, I enjoyed BB sex with such counterparties. (again I am always protected with WG). What I don't know is where lies distinction between these DH and a WG.

Answer is simple if DH is a semi-pro who charges you $1-1.5k for the standard session (no BB).
But if this is sort of like mutual benefit friends where she likes you (to some extent) and have sex with you (thus you need to be 'selected'), is that a WG or DH?
I respect DH as a person, but I would give the '$500 donation' just because I don't want the serious attachment, this is my safeguard against complication.

Any ideas pls. My rational is if they are seeing you, once a week (perhaps she might have other 'bf' away also) the risk of her having STD is probably lower than a one night stand you get from Dragon-I

Never pay a DH semi pro that much. Ever. On a Sunday it is usually unspoken as they are often embarrassed to ask and usually expect $500 (for taxi fare or something) for 2 hours in my experience although I've paid as much as 700 or as low as free.

If you get to know her and she's a bit of a regular she may be happy to just stick with you only. In that case go get yourselves tests and BB away as long as every where else you go is thoroughly protected.

Only answer is no.  No offense, but you ain't special, she does it with all the boys, it ain't her first rodeo, she doesn't only do it on special occasions.

Odds are always the same, 50/50.  It either happens or it don't.

Yeah, I have to agree with Jake.

You all know I am the worst and taking my own advice and have slipped up more than once...  But it is ALWAYS stupid.  A lot of the DHs are very willinging to go BB -- which means you AINT THE FIRST!

Agreed. If she puts out so easily with you (i.e. someone she has no real relationship with), then she'll easily do anyone else too.

I am certainly not the pot calling the kettle black.  I have made many mistakes over the years, but the operative word is mistakes.  For the most part I have luckily manage to come out unscathed.

If you really have to ask the question, then you already know the answer.  If your not in a committed relationship, your rolling the dice.

In just sayin.......

Che'lu

No way on the BB. I would never recommend this to anyone. If she's not your SO or wife then wrap that sucker. She may have no diseases but might be interested in trapping you with the "baby I'm pregnant routine".

Good luck

No way on the BB. I would never recommend this to anyone. If she's not your SO or wife then wrap that sucker. She may have no diseases but might be interested in trapping you with the "baby I'm pregnant routine".

Good luck

Agreed with Slimshanks.

sometimes the strategy here is to come to HK to earn money to support their family,  but also if possible to leave married to a rich gwailo, their ticket to a better future . I don't knock them for trying to improve their fortune this way but  have heard many anecdotes about guys knocking up the DH and then having to make a hard choice .

this is statistically as likely to happen as getting STD from one of them.

my 2 cents

Keep on mongering

thanks for all the feedback. I guess 2 things are clear from reading other posts and anecdotal evidences:
1) non WG DH (in particular Indonesians) are very open to a BB even with someone they just met.
2) for reason #1 above, "risk" of STD is just as equally high, perhaps.

Well I think it comes down to how tolerant you are to idea of BB with 'partner'. I'd be keen to go BB if the girlfriend even if I've known for very little if she said she's on pills. She could be a player exposed to other guys but hey if you worry about her entire sex history you mind as well just not have easy gf either. Do you get paranoia? I don't.

DH is tricky. Even they aren't WG for reason #1 and #2 above I guess they may be exposed to bare dicks more easily, but to me that doesn't mean they are WG engaged in risky behavior...

As per babies, that's different story.


I guess it comes down to if she's a trusted DH whom u believe you are the only steady partner, BB could be ok. But if you met her once/twice at 109/Makati, she's not really your gf DH so u better watch out.

Only if you trust her.  You can't trust her until you have a few meetings (f#$k fests) under your belt.

after your first few times follow your intuition as it is usually right.  If you spend extended time with her and she is always whatapping and won't let you in on it then suspect something.  If she is willing to drop all things to be with you then it's a good sign.

Also if you want that next step, go with her for a blood test and wait for the results before doing BB. Make sure you physically see the results. It's not a guarantee, but it's better then nothing.

After that stage you can move onto the final stage allowed in Wanchai and that is trust but ALWAYS VERIFY!!!!  I can't stress that last step enough. I have met at least a hundred girls (not sex) over the last year and several are very good friends that have allowed me into their world. You would not believe the stories they tell me about their lives, their customers and some of the scams that girls will pull just for extra money.

Have fun but be very careful and always a little guarded.

Yeah I would add on to here that even if you can discount the std factor ( which is hard to do in any case) the pregnancy problem is big.

I know a lot of dh in wan chai and a lot if them are at that age where they are getting broody - i have had 2 ask me to give them a baby no strings!! I unsurprisingly said no and ran away.

Moral I guess there are lot of things to consider in wan chai and std is just one of them ...

No. No, no, and no. Don't matter what she says, you ain't the only one. I have banged enough girls who told me about the boyfriend they have that doesn't know to know... They all lie. Period. Nobody honest goes to wanchai. Not us, not them.assume anyone you meet there lies. Including the DH.

Yes - in wan chai there is 2 life mentality.

A lot of us have so's

A lot of the wg have so's

A lot of the DH have so's

And we all fuck around. Stay wrapped up in wan chai too many lies around.

For example I dating a dh I couple of years ago, proper bf/gf relationship no cash exchange although I did pay for everything. Then one week tells she cant meet got something to do - ok I says thinking she was having a girls weekend

Following week i asked what they got up to - oh I meet my fiancé we take lots of photos to put the our visa when we apply for me to go USA and marry.

3 months I had known her ... I was a little surprised to say the least. Ok I had no room to talk I was doing stuff behind her back.