Assuming Mulder isn't just pulling our leg, of course, here's my guess:

The punter who's been found out is a friend of Mulder's.  A close enough friend that the wifey is a confidant too.  Wifey finds the browser open to one of Goose's graphic reviews (I'm embellishing here ) and wifey in shock tells Mulder first, partly because she's unsure of her next move, and partly because she thinks Mulder might flinch and reveal something.  Mulder stays mum, HOWEVER, Mulder's pal doesn't know that Mulder is a punter, hence Mulder's inability to give him a heads up without revealing his own familiarity with Sex141.

Alternatively, the same scenario, BUT the Wifey is actually the friend of Mulder, hence her willingness to confide in him.  Mulder stays true to "Bros before Hos" and says nothing, however still can't reveal his punting familiarity to our Bro and Under-Surveillance-Hubby.

I have a third theory, but it involves two monkeys, a dog and the Communist Party so it's too long to post here.

Let's not bring up anything about anything communist.                 

My wife lets me surf 141!  It is on the agreement that I can look but I cannot touch.  If I ever touched, she makes a big cutting action and yells "Cut it off"!

so that means you're a eunuch now ?

OMG!
If your third theory also includes a dildo, a pair of chopsticks and exactly 5 peanuts, we're thinking the same scary theory!  

I remember when my previous SO found out about my browsing. She didn't say anything at all. UNTIL we were out in the public. Then she started to go ballistic and shouting out website names. Good times.

Bros, sorry to have caused such confusion.  I don't even know the bro's name let alone his username to PM him.  Girls confided in eachother and mine told me in the "i'm gald you'd never do that" tone.  I can't say much to avoid possible identification of the bro's wife but she is not a saint herself and therefore believes in a second chance especially since there is a child involved.  Its best if we all take the precaution and LOG OUT after use and CLEAR HISTORY.  That way she can stop reading your reports unless she creates an ID for herself.  If you think it was you I recommend changing your user name in case she tracks what your up to.

I'm not pulling a prank but sharing what I know in the hope we don't cause a family to break up.  No need for that to happen.

Thank you for the clarification !  

a second thought ... have you ever thought your girl deliberately said that to you in hope to draw a reaction out of you ?

Oh yeah,   Man the chopsticks and peanuts part was particularly nasty!   I can't believe some people find that pleasurable . . . and to think they were all communist party censors!  Apparently their dogs were in heaven though . . .

Seriously thou...

LOG OFF Brothers!...also I suggest you all to use the 'porn mode'...Firefox and IE has them now..they are separate windows where no history/cache/ or anything else will be saved!

Thanks for the clarification, Mulder

Since the SO involved was called a "wife" then I'm guessing that the guy involved isn't me

But I'm sure there's a percentage of bros out there who are asking themselves if they are the ones.  Do you think you could give just a little more info from what you know?  

District of residence?
First letter of wife's name?
Gender of child?

I mean, just saying if the kid is a boy or girl will allow 50% of the married guys here to breathe a sigh of relief

(On the other hand the other 50% will become even more scared )

Just find a way to delete the account.  Or have one of the moderators delete the account for you.  I wonder though, when someone is banned/deleted from the forum, do their posts disappear?

As the saying goes, "The truth is out there"....

have you been caught of something?

1st thing for me was to make like an account that i would never use

agree Inprivate browsing on IE works great!

Twice, girls always do that.

My cousin moved into my place here in HK tgether with his girl since I'll be in Jakarta most of the time now. And just yesterday, she walked in just when I was about to log into the site. She went away, and I quickly shut down.. couple of minutes later, she asked me - what is that website you went to? The pink colour one.

I just said - huh? no idea. it just popped up when i was surfing the net. (lame)
And she replied - oh. I was curious coz your cousin seem to visit that site often. i remember the colour.
Me - Really? Must be him then. No wonder it popped up... So, what are we having for dinner........... (change of topics)

Hey guys im not yet married! Shes only my gf but if she wants to break up its fine... Hehehe better be back to single! Sothat guy must still take much care since we still dont know among the bros here were caught!

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I am not sure what part of the "clarification" post on Feb 16, couldn't be shared in the "be careful" post on Feb 14... Looking at the 2 posts side by side, that makes no sense.


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Assuming this is true (a big if) and assuming the poor bugger hasn't written a report, just tell the SO that you come on mainly to visit the jokes section and to chat with bros about non-sex related things (e.g. being whacked in the coconuts by 1,000 pounds of pressure ) - it could work ... maybe.  Also, some of the girls in DB offer massages only (e.g. the girls under "sauna"), so it's not technically a sex only website.  I hope this helps.
On a side-note, I hope to hell it's not me!!!! I've already been caught once.  

Rule No. 1. deny, deny, deny... LOL. Rule No. 2. if you cant remember it, it NEVER happened.

You could add downloading porn from the AV section as something she wont like but wont kill you about either.

BTW, a HUGE "if".

[ Last edited by  TonyToro at 21-2-2010 19:36 ]