People used to believe that gay men try to "recruit" straight men. It's a pernicious lie that was used to justify a lot of discrimination and so on. I've spent a lot of time around gay men, and can confidently say that never has anyone tried to "recruit" me. At least not until yesterday.

Went to a veggie massage shop. It was at 10 AM, right after they opened. I said I need a one hour massage. They sent me to the massage room, and I started undressing, expecting my massage lady to come in soon. It was my first time at that shop.

In prances my masseur, not masseuse. Flamingly gay. Even though my pants are on the way off, he tells me to take off my pants, and dims the lights (huh?). The subsequent "massage" was centered about 90% on my inner thighs, with him desperately brushing my balls once in a while... after the first few times, it became not so credible that it was "accidental." He did all kinds of strokes on my thighs, my butt, and my pelvis. Sometimes asked, "Ohh, does that feel good?" His finger making circles on my asshole and etc.

It was pretty funny experiencing him trying to "recruit" me (or at least arouse me). It was my first time experiencing that kind of attention from a man. And it confirmed that I am 100% heterosexual, because his one hour of oiled-up stroking of my inner thighs did absolutely nothing for me sexually (though it did tickle a bit sometimes), and no semblance of an erection. The massage sucked, but that's ok. It's the experience. And it really is a veggie massage shop, with no explicitly gay theme. But like 90% of the customers are women, which is why I guess this dude was so happy to finally have some cock to view.

When I was leaving, he asked me for my phone number. I pretended not to hear, but Tarte, I'm sorry that I didn't think to instead give him your number.

Where did you go??? Can I go too?

Anyway, did the receptionist think you wanted special service AND you were gay guy, so sent this one instead of the lady?

I am sorry he did that without even noticing you didn't get a hard on, and continued. That is out of orders, i think as a masseur in a veggie place you can propose a sexual massage to anyoneor slowly go into that direction, but at least wait until the guy is hard. Otherwise you are seriously in danger of puting him in an embarrassing situation or even anger him.

One thing to note: if he fancied you, you must be handsome or sexy, or both... Nice to know, even if it was noticed by the wrong type of person!

New massage shop, very disorganized, and it was early in the day. I think the gay dude just heard a male customer at the front and rushed in to be the one to service me. I don't think they were so organized and planned as to set me up with him.

Anyway, what I was thinking that the masseur could get himself into trouble doing stuff like that with an aggressively homophobic guy (unless the aggressively homophobic guy either secretly enjoys it, or doesn't even realize what's going on).

Handsome/sexy: I attract a lot of gay guys, for whatever reason, and my girlfriends always get a kick out of seeing gay guys check me out. I would guess that in this case, with the mostly female clientele at this massage shop, anything was better for him than another vagina on legs.

Denizens of this thread might be interested in this article in today's New York Times (and the columnist's unfortunate name):

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/05/opinion/05blow.html

Professor Savin-Williams says that his current research reveals that the fastest-growing group along the sexuality continuum are men who self-identify as “mostly straight” as opposed to labels like “straight,” “gay” or “bisexual.” They acknowledge some level of attraction to other men even as they say that they probably wouldn’t act on it, but ... the right guy, the right day, a few beers and who knows. As the professor points out, you would never have heard that in years past.

Actually I'll think you'll find Kinsey established this in his research back in the 1950's. But like anything that people don't want to hear was conveniently forgotten and has to be done over again and again in the vain hope by conservatives that they will get a different outcome this time. Bit like natural selection v religion.

Big difference. Kinsey studied behavior, not self-identification. Men who like an occasional cock have always been around. But what's new is that now they will openly admit to it. Not so in Kinsey's time, ofcourse.

I am surprised that some people on this forum know who Kinsey was, what he was doing, and when...i thought only gay activists knew that.



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So have you got around to this asiagstar guy yet?

Really? In the US, anyone who has listened to any kind of mildly informed public debate about anything gay-related (gays in the military, gay marriage, gay adoption, etc) has heard of Kinsey. I imagine I heard of Kinsey in junior high school or something. The "10%" figure gets brought upa lot. In my opinion, Kinsey was important for opening the conversation, but his actual research methods sucked and his results don't hold much water by today's academic standards (but yes, he did the best he could do at the time).

I actually watched the movie before.
But I never knew it Kinsey so well-known in the western country.

Mate not at all, I think most people who consider themselves as having academic interests will be pretty familiar with what he did. Even outside of the controversial side of his work that a lot of people know him for, it's hard to read about it and not be intruiged.

Nope, boyfriend still here.

This is an awesome thread. Though most of us on this site are straight, this thread provides us with an understanding of another world! And very well written as well. Thanks Tarte!

Maybe this thread should be made a sticky, and given RA of 20. Just my 2 cents

Hi Aiadafan, thanks a lot for the compliments, but why RA20?

Worried that irresponible people might see that there are alternative sexual behaviors?

RA20 because non serious members can troll here very easily and post unruly anti-gay comments. This way we keep it open to the actual members of 141 who appreciate good reports.

Fuck me, there is a market for this???

http://00069.com/SzDragonAsia/PhotoDetail-hk_2.php?ID=1974

You have to be crazy to pay for this, you can get it for free in any gay bar!

Speaking of, are there any official or unofficial gay bars in HK?

Sure, here is a couple of lists:

http://www.utopia-asia.com/hkbars.htm

http://gohongkong.about.com/od/hongkongbarsandclubs/tp/gaybarsandclubs.htm

lol at that link. Well you never know, just as it is with some straight men having weird preferences of women, perhaps gay men have the same and like some meat on their man!

But still, many of this type of guys would give their arse to anyone for free! As you can imagine the gay guys who look like this can't be choosy! So why not get it for free?

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