Interesting read.  Thanks for sharing.  Lots of interesting questions to ask around it.  Here's one...

Curious to know how you would react if someone on the board asked you for her contact so that they could arrange a session with her.  It's obviously nowhere near the same request as if your gf was a hairdresser, for example, and someone requested her info to schedule a session.  In the case of her being a hairdresser, it's obvious ok, but I'm not so sure about your current situation.  Would that trigger jealousy?  Would you get pissed at the person for asking?  Or... are you able to compartmentalize, say to yourself "it's her job, and having customers is good", and pass on the contact info?

BTW, I would never ask that, as I have personal boundaries that I wouldn't cross, but that doesn't mean that you wouldn't be ok with it.  So long as it works for you, that's fine.  I'm just curious if you would be able to just let it go under those circumstances and pass the contact info, or if you felt that it was crossing a line.

Not seriously dated, just as a temporary "relationship":
I was in Sabang/Puerto Galera for the first time and went to one of the Lady Bars there. A cute young little lady was introduced by her friends to me, she seemed pretty shy. We talked for a while, turns out that this is her first time working in a bar like that and she is not really experienced.
I was not really planning to take anyone out, but this felt more like a non-business-thing... so i asked, if she wants to go to the hotel with me. She wanted. According to her, first customer.

While I did not believe any of this in the beginning, it was really like being with a girlfriend. The next few days, she did not return to the bar and was just staying with me for the whole week. I gave her some money for the trouble.

A few weeks later I came back to the Philippines, she picked me up at the airport and we went traveling together for 2 weeks. Of course I paid all the expenses and gave her a little bit in the end, but still it was pretty clear that she was not after the money.

For around a year, I had a really cute temporary girlfriend there, that I gave some little financial support.

Now, the downside: She was not really smart. And whenever i asked her, what she wants, she answered "up to you". I think I could not stand this for more than like 2 weeks...Not seriously dated, just as a temporary "relationship":
I was in Sabang/Puerto Galera for the first time and went to one of the Lady Bars there. A cute young little lady was introduced by her friends to me, she seemed pretty shy. We talked for a while, turns out that this is her first time working in a bar like that and she is not really experienced.
I was not really planning to take anyone out, but this felt more like a non-business-thing... so i asked, if she wants to go to the hotel with me. She wanted. According to her, first customer.

While I did not believe any of this in the beginning, it was really like being with a girlfriend. The next few days, she did not return to the bar and was just staying with me for the whole week. I gave her some money for the trouble.



A few weeks later I came back to the Philippines, she picked me up at the airport and we went traveling together for 2 weeks. Of course I paid all the expenses and gave her a little bit in the end, but still it was pretty clear that she was not after the money.

For around a year, I had a really cute temporary girlfriend there, that I gave some little financial support.

Now, the downside: She was not really smart. And whenever i asked her, what she wants, she answered "up to you". I think I could not stand this for more than like 2 weeks...

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So yes. Since I've posted on this board about her, maybe people are curious. No doubt she would get customers from here. I plan to see many girls so I will review them all so you guys will never know who she is.

In the past I have helped her find 'guests' as she calls them. This was when we first met and feelings hadn't grown. My thinking was purely selfish, if I help her she would give me freebies. Didn't happen LOL well, not totally free anyway, I got extras

And then we got closer and I started to have conflicts. I told her it was hard for me to 'sell' her. So we broke up for a month. I missed her so I asked to see her again. Then she started to share more of her life with me and I had a long think about it. Research 'filial piety'. All these girls are paying some kind of debt that their parents have given them (well, most anyway, some are just materialistic).

She can't do anything else right now, her family are important, that's it. If she had to choose then I would lose. If you have ever been in love you know that it's hard to let go.

At this point I think she had regulars so she asked less of me and asked if I could help her friends. She was grateful for that as she is kind hearted and wanted to help them. All with different stories (but all debt/future debt). They are friends of mine now too. I'm thankful to have met such interesting girls.

So she will come back and need to set up again. She uses intermediary's for Asian men. But she likes being independent so uses some of the most popular escort sites in the UK. I would have no option but to help her but she knows how I feel about it. But I would also hate it of someone else helped her. Dilemma right?

She does GFE stuff, not PSE stuff ( but we tried a few things ) so she's not getting pumelled every day. Asian guys are mostly small dicks and young so last about 5 minutes and then it's all cuddling and play (been told this by multiple different WGs). So I'd prefer her to see Asian guys.

I'm past that thought of a 'used woman' though. Aren't all women used by the time they are 30/40?. Men are used too and women still accept us.

Hope that answered your question? Basically, I will share her details at some point next year, but you won't know who she is.

I bet the experience will stay with you for the rest of your life right?

I think it's worth whatever money you spend more fantastic, happy memories.

How did it end?

Physically, girls like yours won't be affected too much I think. Pussy's don't get 'wider'. Breasts sag with age anyway. So it doesn't matter.

However, I would worry about the mental/spiritual part of her being 'used'. mental part, regarding both you and her.

Mentally, you would have to accept the fact that sex isn't something special for her:

I could go to scientific way; when she has sex and she has an orgasm, oxytocin is released in her brain which is supposed to make her feel like she is connected to the person she's making love with.

Or I just could go the romantic way; the idea of her having sex and having the ultimate physical pleasure, being given to her, *by another guy*, is that right? It's one thing to just give a blowjob, or satisfy an 'asian' guy for 5 minutes. But eventually, she will meet a handsome foreign guy; nice dick; knows how to push her buttons; gives her (multiple) orgasms. Even worse; no doubt there are going to be guys, bigger, stronger, better than you.

She might postpone or cancel dates with you, because *that* customer just came into town. And he pays gooooood. She might have multiple customers per day; or on your birthday even.

Where will she draw the line? Can she intimately kiss a guy, like they are lovers? A lot of working girls refuse to kiss, because they're married/in love.

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And then there's her; she's having sex with strangers. Sooner or later I think it will affect her as well. She will no longer relate sex to romance or love. For her it becomes just an exercise, repeated over and over and over. It's not something she can 'give' to someone she loves anymore; as it was given many many times. When you touch her, she just feels the pressure, but not the electricity anymore. When you eat her out, she just feels the wet cold tongue, scraping over her genitals. Not the tinkling sensation that her lover is actually invading her most intimate place.

All her physical intimate places, have been raided hundreds of times. So mentally, it has lost it's excitement a long time ago ...

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There's many people with many different idea's... The above is just a personal dilemma, that I would worry with .. when dating an escort girl, currently active on duty. Some people can handle it easily. I couldn't ... my lizard brain would hate the living daylight out of me ...

You are making an assumption a western guy is superior. Until the black comes along with a 12” knob

These are all maybes. I could meet someone else too. Anything can happen so I'm not going to think about the maybes.

But, if she does meet someone else that's better for her then I'd be happy for her (eventually). She's already a sweet memory that I will always remember, so more than that is a plus. If it ends, it ends. That's life. I think a broken heart hurts less if you are prepared for it.

I know that sex is nothing special for her. But I do think that there is a difference when you make love to someone you care about/like/ are attracted to. That's why you get good punts and bad punts.

The sex we had initially was great and it got even better the more we knew each other. For example, and this is something I didn't think about, most of the time when you see a girl you have sex on top of the sheets. If it's her place then it makes sense because she doesn't want to smell her punters when she sleeps (if she's lazy and doesn't want to change the sheets every day). We would have sex under the sheets as she wanted to be warm, warmer girls = better sex IMO.

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I hate to be the asshole with the cold bucket of reality, but it has to be said that while every good romance requires good sex, no good romance can survive alone on good sex.

If you don't have chemistry, and I mean real chemistry, then you're not going to last past a year or two.
The litmus test is this: if your SO were a man, or a lesbian, would you still enjoy spending time with them?
Answer that question honestly, think about the other platonic relationships in your life and see if any of them resemble your SO. If none do, then you have your answer.

I lived for a while in Tokyo and got to meet a lot of expats. Most were married to Japanese women, and to a man, none were in a happy marriage. They all complained about the same things: their wives have a completely different set of values, they care about different things, and they're basically strangers living under the same roof tied together because neither have anywhere else to go at their age. Fortunately, Chinese culture isn't quite as alien (relative to Western culture) as Japanese culture is, but there's still a HUGE gap.

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I met a WG and we got along and started dating. 23yo from Bangkok, bangin' body, great sexual compatibility and a good heart too although she has her psycho bouts from time to time.  She knows that we cannot be together but she wants to be my "second wife", someone I can see a few times a year. Sometimes she gets clingy and wants to have more of a future with me but I am up-front with her that we can never have an exclusive relationship. She pouts and gets mad for a bit but we always seem to get back together again for our week-long romps where we bone three to four times a day. She doesn't ask for money but I give money to her anyway, if only to make the relationship more transactional than she might want it to be.