Dear members,

I wanna share my experiences regarding my views on one night wonders vs sugarbabies and hear your thoughts.

For the last 3 years I have been meeting my sugarbabe, I will call here Jade, regularly. I got into contact with her through a very popular website here in the Netherlands. In the past my personal preference was more for the one hit wonders. No hassle, no commitment and on to the next fresh pussy. That has been my way of walking for many years.

Enter Jade.

We got into contact with each other through mail contact and the first thing was exchanging pictures. In advance she described herself as a half Russian / half Dutch girl born in the Netherlands. Smarts and beauty, a legal aid and a model... yeah right... When I saw her pictures I immediately though that she was a faker. She was too perfect. My kind of girl.... really skinny (not a gram of fat), a little on the short side, perky perfect boobs.... too perfect. I like to thing that I can have some commonsense and can spot when someone is a faker. But although my mind was telling me NOOO!, my body, my bodyyyyy, was telling me YESSSS!!!! Thinking back, it could have been a horrible experience. There were a couple more red flags. She was not open to meeting in advance just somewhere public. No video-calling in advance. This is not an advertisement for good mongering.

Anyways, my body won. The reason I went through with it was that are contact through mail was very real. Just talking about random stuff, she hit all my buttons, on a personal level and on a sexual level. So in the end I booked the hotel we both knew (I will get to this later) and I was actually kind of nervous. Mainly because of the red flags. So then she entered... and she was perfect. Just like the pictures, almost to perfect. She was nervous too. She told me that she had done this once and had a bad experience. But now she wanted to try again if the feeling was right. We hit it off immediately, had some drinks, great sex and just all-round good fun.

Turns out she really is a model. She is 38 (at the time), did more modelling in the past, but now mostly does lingerie modelling. Not something that pays the bills but still enough for a decent pay on the side. She works as a legal aid IRL. She's not an escort, and was looking for the experience as a "callgirl" because she though the idea of being paid for her body was a turn-on. Till this day she says she only meets with me, I don't know if that's true and I don't really care if she did.

It has been quite special, the whole initial experience and very thing after that. It feels like the perfect blend of escort meets friends with benefits. The lines blur sometimes, not gonna lie, because everything is very natural and it feels like we are "buddies". I know what you are thinking, maybe she is just a good actor, but it doesn't feel like that. She doesn't ask much, we started with 350 euro per night (which is like 2 hour out-call price normally around that time). As of last year I have been giving her 500 euro because of "inflation" and she really deserves it (she didn't ask, was my idea). And with "night" I mean the whole night and, after the first couple of dates, she started to sleep over. We spend 2 new-years evenings together, just us in a big hotel room with a view in bed. She has been coming over to my place for our dates after I got my new place (2 years in hotels because my house was being build) and just like before she sleeps over and its just good vibes. We meet every month but there have been periods that we don't meet for a couple of months because we are busy or traveling.

She was my first true sugarbabe experience and I know I have been lucky with Jade. She is not pushy at all, never really pushing for dates. Just normal non-clingy contact outside of dates, like one conversation in 2 of 3 weeks, with is perfect for me. She can meet 90% of my demands in bed (the last 10% is the more exotic stuff). She even tried to arrange a threesome with a random girl with me (which didn't work out in the end).

My experiences with Jade made me view mongering in a different way. I still like to have fresh pussy, I will not explicitly tell her but she knows that I love traveling and that I still have sex with other girls, but I do feel like I find it a little bit more annoying if the date is really transactional. It's not that I can't enjoy it, but I guess I like to have that little bit of a connection with the girl now. Which has resulted in less enjoyable meetings after having met Jade. In the past it was just the enjoyment of sex and a fresh new face. I see it as a different experience all together.

Both have there pro's and con's. The sugar variant can feel more special but, in most cases, she will get depended on you. If you can find the right one, that can fulfill most of your wishes and wants, then that perfect but it's not a given. I had a similiar experience with a Thai honey and that was not fun after the first couple of dates. Money was always main motivator with her and it was really apparent. The lines may blur between fucking or loving, if your not careful and let those feeling creep up. Girls that are trying to claim you can be a handful. But I would not wanna give up my random encounters with other girls. Something unique, something new, maybe even that once in a lifetime opportunity to do that special kink is very worth while.

I was wondering if others have any thoughts, insights or stories regarding this kind of topic. Questions about my situation are of course also fine.

MrMojo