Hi guys,

i got caught by my girlfriend going to massage parlours. i had been to the same massage parlour twice and had asked for certain services. she saw my telegram messages and read what i did.

she confronted me and she said we are over now. i must leave the flat aswell. has anyone else been in this situation?

i really love her still but i know what i do is unforgivable

Hard to say mate, it depends on the lady. You live with the choices you make. I got a gf and she's an escort aswell I done 1 punt when I was in Hong Kong for some family stuff and realised I love her alot during the punt so I stop punting after that even tho knowing what she does

You can always try to beg for her back but at the end of the day it's all down to her if she want to give you another chance.

Sorry to hear that bro. Not much advice I can give you, but just want to share my own experience. Back when I first learned of this site, I thought it was the best thing ever, and used my phone to take pictures of some walkup ads that I thought were appealing.

I thought I'd deleted the pics, but apparently not. Months later, my fiance at the time needed to use a spare phone for a trip to the mainland, and I'd just gotten a new phone myself, so you can probably guess where this is going.

When she WhatsApped me late at night to ask about why there were these pictures of scantily clad women with censored faces and prices next to them, I literally passed out for a few min.

When I came to, I had to admit how I was just curious about fucking them, and that I'd never actually go through with it. It was a necessary lie, and it saved my engagement, but boy did it damage our relationship. We've been married for 8 years now, but she still occasionally brings up the incident against me.

So a question that you probably need to ask yourself and there's no need to respond here.
1. Do you love your girlfriend enough to stop punting or getting HJ massages?
If the answer is yes, then I would recommend that this isn't the place to seek advice. Guy here are for the most part, interested in paid sex, so they probably won't have the best advice for you in that respect.

If you want to try to continue to walk the tightrope, then you'll have to be prepared for the consequences and learn to be more discreet.

Have you thought about telling her the truth ?

You love her but you still require something else that she is maybe not providing. I gather that is the reason you are punting ?

If it’s me I would beg her back (if you love her)but be prepare she will bring it up every time you fight for the rest of your life (assuming marry and live together forever).  BUT I know myself better, I will still punt after the “fire cool down” but will be more careful.

Your gf is an escort? How serious a gf is she? Doesn't her profession bother you?

You need to figure out what you lack in your relationship with her and that's why you go to the massage parlor.

Plenty of fishes out there, dime a dozen

I was dating a massage girl. I really like her a lot & became obsessed with her. I still am tbh. She was able to make me smile, feel happy and give me what I wasn’t getting at home.
Been going on for a while over cov which was great cos I didn’t fancy going out punting during that time and she was off work for the majority..
I know what she does and I know what she doesn’t do (only HJ’s). Still not the ideal but in the situation and “our” circumstances, I’m in no position to say/dictate anything.
We recently called it quits (she wants more and I’m unable to bring married) but we remain friends.  

Back to the original topic, men will be men.  If you punt, be careful, no /videos and if you do take them, drop them in a foto vault only you have access to.
If you get caught.  Ask yourself why you went punting and think long and hard about what you come up with.
Then decide if you should beg or move on.
Good luck fella’s and enjoy the fish in the sea.
Just don’t entangled yourselves in the net you’ve cast.

I would end that relationship if I was in the same situation as you. She can catch you once, she can catch you a second time. And you're like me, it's hard for us men to have sex with just one person.

Forget it la. Trying to reason with a Hong Kong girl and making them understand YOUR point of view and YOUR sexual needs? Good luck. Most of them are like nuns. They don't want to have sex after the honeymoon period & think that's normal. It's engrained into the society because there is hardly any mention of sex or even kissing on the lips from parents to media.

Notice the OP have not been back here since he asked his question ?

Wonder if its due to living in the streets without wifi connectons

I think your girlfriend is justified in being as angry and felt cheated as she is. Only thing i’d suggest is to communicate but do not expect a certain kind of answer, live with her and your own decision. But All people have their own faults and curiosities of course so don’t take it too harshly on yourself.

lol my girlfriend caught me when I was watching porn

What services did you ask for?  If only HJ / BJ then you might be able to salvage relatioship.