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Post at 14-12-2010 18:46  Profile P.M. 
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Turning down free sex

Ok, this may sound strange, but I'm regularly turning down sex now.  Free sex.  I don't know why, but I'm to the point where I would rather get a WG than a freebie.  Is it the rush?  If I have had sex with a girl in the past, I don't want it agian.  I keep wanting a new partner and I prefer to pay for it.  Is this normal?  Anybody have a similar problem?
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Depends on the standard of the girl offering the free sex and whats her angle. If it is for ONS, I will gladly go ahead if the girl is of acceptable standard. If the girl is looking for love, rebound and other forms of emotional attachment and I am not ready to provide, I will reject it.
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Post at 14-12-2010 20:41  Profile P.M. 
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Paid sex is always better than a freebie if sex is all you want. You come away from the deal with all you wanted, some brief intimacy, an relief.

With freebe there is always the chance they want something more, like companionship, sympathy, attention, being pursued, financial support, revenge for her cheating boyfriend, prestige and approval from their friends, valuation for the ego that they can get a man, etc etc etc ... the list can go on forever.
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Post at 15-12-2010 03:07  Profile P.M. 
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holy shit... i know exactly what you mean. I think its all goes back to the risk and reward system every person have and free sex.... no such thing you have to pay for it somehow at the end.
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Freebie sex is never as free as you think....... since there are many many women who have weaponised sex and will withold it and or use it to get what they want.

In the UK NEVER EVER EVER take up a free shag especially from the younger ones. The economy here is so badly fucked that they have your baby to get government money and housing and to rape you for the next 16 years for maintenance.

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No such thing as free sex. You always pay one way or another, only difference being that the civvie girls are invariably more expensive.

I put this list up 7 months ago on why WG's are better, still holds true.
http://forum.sex141.com/eforum/viewthread.php?tid=20510
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I run my own bar and I am regularly hit on by woman,and believe me I am no oil painting, usually the fat, pissed, slapper type,but no matter what they look like I politely decline because I just cant be bothered with the drama of what is sure to follow.Like a lot of guys here I prefer to pay them to leave.plus I can get really good sex which is certainlynot the case with your average western slapper
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QUOTE:
Originally posted by mugatu at 14-12-2010 18:46
Is this normal?  ...

on the one hand 'yes' - lots of guys want the convenience of sex on-demand with a stranger they don't have to get involved with.

on the other hand 'no' - the majority of guys form lasting relationships with women and enjoy the intimacy of long-term repeat sex with the same partner.  

You know what, maybe we should do a poll about it?  What do the forum readers like, freedom or intimacy?  Can create one if you want.  

A bigger question - which you almost state - is: "Is it a problem?" ...
but only you can answer that question.  It's only a problem if you feel you're suffering as a result.  For example, it really doesn't sound to me like petermac is suffering, he's making a positive choice to turn down lust-at-first-sight offers.

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Reply #8 DArtagnan's post

agree with your comments Dart, however I like the "best of both worlds". I find WGs I like and I see them semi regularly. I have a preference for certain types of girls, I find a few that turn me on and see them when they are available and I am in HK. I like this because I get "some" intimacy and understanding combined with the fact the WG knows at the end of the week I'm going home and will be back in a couple of months. Works for me!

WARNING: only danger with this is the potential for the sinking ship. I've come close a few times. When it happens, quickly change WGs for a while... it reminds you it's more about fun than romance.

[ Last edited by  TonyToro at 15-12-2010 10:37 ]
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if its free sex in another country that be fine - take it! enjoy it! live it up!

...but free sex in your own city, i can see how all the problems a number of you have indicated.
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Only turn down free sex if she is below your acceptable standard, ie fat ugly chick need not apply!  =P

P4P always better since they are generally hotter, dressed like a stripper so it fills the average guy's fantasy that's embedded in their heads after much exposure to porn and strip clubs I'm sure...just a couple of reason I can think of at the moment.
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I agree WG are a better experience I think cause of the rush.  You are there for an experience and generally the girl will try to give you the best experience possible.  They are getting a financial gain out of it so want your gain (your pleasure) to equal that financial payment.  Its also the thrill of the hunt as well, you want something so you take it.  If its offered to you then its not as meaningful.  

Heres one for you, if you went to a WG and they liked you and wanted to see you again and not charge you would that make a difference?
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Reply #12 iosys's post

Oooo, I'm not sure.  I think if a WG wanted to give me a freebie, I'd take it.  Maybe I just feel naughtier or something knowing they are WGs.
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comes down to the possible commitment. And also when you pay you can expect a certain level of service that you may not get with free sex?
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Reply #5 Kennichi's post

"weaponised sex", what a great term. More like monetised it. Think of buying a WG for an hour like renting a hotel room for a night. In the morning your time is up and the bill is paid. With other more involved arrangements it is like buying a house with 30 years of payments.
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There is one big difference though many of you have forgotten all of you which is pretty damned important a civvie girl is going to be a lot more open about sex.

I mean would you ever BB a WG? Unless it was one of the super high class ones which have regular tests? Though tbh sometimes being in England WG's are probably cleaner. AND then you have the pregnancy issue as well.




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its really come down to getting tired of relationships

i had that experience in philippines, i had this gorgeous mixed girl

but, i still went to angels for girls, first i was thinking why am i paying for

girls who are much uglier than girl i was dating... but it was fun
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Reply #16 Kennichi's post

If BB is important to you then you can try and develop a relationship with sauna and ktv managers and pay extra to get the girls fresh off the bus.

I've read somewhere that you're actually more likely to contract a STD from a civvie girl.

In any case the high emotional and financial cost of civvie girls seems exhorbitant for the chance of BB sex.
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ill take a freebie anyday

i think i can work the system...but if i just want some relief and release for a few hours...yeah i got a few girls on speedial.

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Now this one is easy to answer!
Just have both. After or before the free sex, you can always grab a WG. I would think your little head would be more satisfied this way. Unless ofcourse the girl is so hard to get a hardon to, then I can see why you turn it down.
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