Yes there are plenty - in fact my wife will probably end up meeting this girl at an end of year get together or something - that would be too strange! Btw Krm422 I notice you are in California - please do the world a favour and vote yes on prop 19!

If your wife has a chance to meet ur colleague, then I strongly advise you drop all non-business interactions with ur colleague from now.  Because as you should already know, you should never under-estimate a woman's sixth sense.  If there was even an inkling of too much friendliness between your colleague and you, ur wife will sense it.  

Have some time for a quick walkup next week but really need a good unhurried GFE to get her off my mind - perhaps book a nice hotel room and get an overnighter from Haris bar?

Can any bro's recommend the best WG's to go for at Haris for a good GFE? I can speak Mandarin and a little Cantonese - I likeThai's with big kahunas of course! Never had a Mongolian, but could be interesting! Always worried a phil might be also be a  helper in HK! Have never tried Vietnamese or Russian. Is it best to go for older or younger ones? Maybe I should start another thread!

[ Last edited by  gooner22 at 22-10-2010 21:39 ]

The scariest photo that I own is of my girlfriend and a one-night-stand of mine, taken together at an annual dinner.

I would spare you this torment... stay away from that girl (at least until she quits)

ur gonna get caught and ruin ur life lol, goodluck jk

are you kidding me? you have known your wife will meet her at end of year and still thinking together with her???

you are either too brave or your are really da man.....

Gooner22,

it's not easy to resist 'daily temptation'.... i mean if you have the chance of a trip, things probably will be gone to a different level.

for me i have a similar situation, as a boss, girls know you have a girlfriend, but they still try to tempt you, try to lure you, try to get you. to them it is more satisfying to steal one man from another woman.. do you know what i mean?

as a boss, you have to have guidelines of which lines to cross, which lines not to cross, i hired a full time employee, more than two weeks now. i have a girlfriend, we went on a trip me and the full time to see a client, first night we were in two rooms, she tired to tempt me, literally bringing her stuff onto my bed and layed down right next to me.. with her pajamas, and only bra inside,

constantly touching me want me to fuck the shit out of her.  
constantly tempting me, during the day, lunch, dinner, how can you handle that?

so i put my arm around her and then things started to progress.. first night we didn't have any sex, but i was literally on top of her just about to fuck her, you know what i mean? it's called thinking with my dick.. which is not good...

second night of the trip, had drinks with the client, and guess what happened?
well... we got it on like 4 times in one night..... it was like nuts having sex with her because the fact is we have better sex then i have with my girlfriend... u know what i mean? this drives you crazy. who do you love? how do you handle the work relationship?

but this girl is not simple, 21 years old, aggressive, want to steal me away from her bf, what if she is with me now, then what happens? i ditch my girlfriend...? and what if she has me now, what if she finds someone better, she will do the same to me?

how about work? how is the relationship going to be? do you know after an even like this girls change, because they can't control themselves, and other people 'can see'

how do you make something like this right?  

you have a wife, not a girlfriend, a wife is committed to being with you for life, after marriage, after putting out the effort to be with you.

one word the girl says to your wife, i had sex with your husband, what will you do?ya, right in the year end gathering, what willl you do?

if i have a wife, i would not fuck a girl that can be in relationship in your life circle of friends... means u can punt, fuck and lick somewhere outside of that circle... safe, sound and no need to say sorry.. for guys, sometimes it's good to have sex.. we are different from girls.. in a way.. sex reliefs stress...

but as i have to deal with my situation with work now. other co workers know for a fact this girl likes me and wants me to be her boyfriend, she is constantly macking on me in work. how do i handle that, and the fact is the co workers didn't know i already had sex with her. do you know what i mean?

How do i make that right? how do i handle the problem? you see.. 'problem'  you married your wife because you love her...

if you proceed with having sex with her, you have to be ready to take on the full responsibilities.. like losing a job, or losing a wife.. or just don't blame yourself when this happens.. sounds scary, i know, but isn't that what life is, the more scary the more fun it is.. especially when the sex can be amazing, if you are good in handling women, give it a shot, but just be ready for the worst.

cheers bro

The classic phrase of "never shit at the place you eat at" will apply.
No matter how attractive it may be, the appeal will be lost once you get caught.

Hi.,
no worry about that... i used to bang few of my colleagues at work, my past jobs...
one of them was in same team., she seat just next to me. everyday was normal., but when chance come, we would go into empty conference room and occupy it for an hour.
even had one or two who are married. so what... as long both know what we doing and would not interfeer or cause anything to the other personal life...
as long you and her are clear... it's just fun... nothing more.

i know someone who is banging his young pretty assistant. thing is, he has a live-in gf and the assistant has a bf in another country. he is bored of sex life at home. she is lonely. things are fine so far. but his gf and the assistant must never meet cos i agree with doghead that woman's six sense is strong. for it to work, the following are key:
1) gal/assistant know that it is just sex and nothing more. best to test by subtely asking about her relationship with bf. if she says the bf is committed, then you know she just wants you as a fling.
2) gal/assistant agrees that no one, not even her close female colleagues, would know.
3) close colleagues you can trust so they will assist in ensuring that your wife/gf and the gal/assistant will not meet.
4) need to have an exit strategy (eg. agree it is short-term and part ways as friends or find a new job at another office)

so far it is still working well for my friend. but cracks are appearing. fellow colleagues are noticing the assistant being unusually close and caring towards my friend. i've warned him about it and he has told the assistant to maintain a more cordial distance in public. of cos, assistant is not tat pleased with it. eventually, i suspect he will call it off before things get too serious.

the lessons learned are:
1) the cost of maintaining the affair seems to far outweigh the benefits in the LONG RUN, is it worth it?
2) gal or even the guy, might eventually fall in love with each other for REAL, thereby complicating the relationship, and how?
3) fear that office might eventually find out, can you live with the gossip?

I got a solution for you, f her on her last month or last week of work. Then she can't clung on nor cause any trouble

I echo some of what the others have said and get some girl off the 141db to take your mind off things. You're thinking with your penis and walking into work with a loaded gun every day waiting for an 'accident' to happen. Others have already sounded off on the number of red flags in this situation.

alot of good advice given around for you gooner. and alot is at stake, your image at work, your wife etc. a moment of fun in this case can mean a lifetime of unhappiness.

Another phrase applies: "You aren't paying a WG for sex, you are paying for her to go away and keep quiet"

Getting tangled in an intimate relationship will stir up emotions, gossip, drama and possible problems if they are not mature enough to understand your intentions.

This is a very scary situation, one opportunity for potentially embarrassing experience equivalent (though not close) to Edison Chen or Gillian Chung. There's a lot of risk involved so unless your colleague or you are planning to resign from work, you are free as a bird, just drop the plan for now.

I once flirted with a female Chinese colleague. We stayed late at work together, we had dinners and once Ifell asleep in my desk, I did not notice she was also laying her head next to me. Though I wanted to, I didn't try to touch her at any way because I was afraid there might be security cams secretly hidden. She left our company not long after that and I still get to meet her. Then one day, we did it. There was no inhibition, as she works for another company and we seldom meet at all. When the company's employees have 'reunions' we can just stare at each other and smile in a naughty way..

I had a similar experience with her replacement. We were in the same team so it was hard to really flirt anyway. But we also did multiple dine outs, movies, visit attractions and all. Then we decided towatch a rented movie in her apartment. She wore a very provocative dress, and we were alone. I really wanted to do it but realized I could be in trouble if I push the wrong buttons. I was able to restrain myself.

The moral of the story, while there are relationships borne out of the workplace, they have bestpotential to grow when you're not in the same institution, to avoid conflicts at work, and remain professional as a colleague.

simple advice: don't shit where you eat.

The only thing you can be sure on if you do the deed is that:

NOTHING WILL EVER BE THE SAME.

You may get lucky and what?

1 Get laid
2 Keep your job
3 Stay married

Che'lu

兔子不吃窝边草 = A rabbit doesn't eat the grass by its own burrow.

Nuff said.

interesting thread... any updates gooner? did u do it or did u back off?

I'm surprised nobody has said it yet but... This thread is useless without pics! (or is it a no-no on this forum? sorry i'm a newbie)

Don't underestimate what a girl can do though, when they think they are in love they are ruthless and inconsiderate. They never think that by going crazy and ruining your life you will end up hating them. They think that after all the aggravation u 2 will live happily ever after on an island or sth... like the other bros say, what u need is a nice bbbj... only $700, not even a meal at the Peninsula!

Netfreak is totally right man.  I dont think I have the guts to try anything at work.  Biggest thing is the chances of jeopardizing my job.  Really not interested in going out looking for a new job and having to make up an excuse as to why I dont work for my previous employer.  If it goes sour with the co-worker and word gets out, you will lose a lot of credibility at work.  Just not worth it.  Your better to play elsewhere.

Is she really that hot?  Whew, just do what I did to my former colleague... Whenever I have a chance, I'll screw her till kingdom come and enjoy the excitement and extreme game of living dangerously behind the back of our other colleagues and my wife.  I enjoyed each and every encounter I had with her! It's totally mind blowing.  Unfortunately, she has left for greener pasture 8 months ago.

Follow my advise and enjoy life!  :-)


From your friend....

By the way, can you help me find work?  I was fired 8 months ago.

P.S.- The one thing I miss are my children... that darn judge gave me only 1 day a week visitation rights.  :-(



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Post above is fiction, but you get my drift.