Start gaining evidence of her flirting with you and not the other way round. Make it known to your local colleagues SHE is initiating it, and appear as though you are resisting, that you're the one getting harassed. I'm sure your work has CCTV. Even tell your boss of the problem but not to take any action since you don't want to cause a fuss.

Then if you do the deed and things go wrong, at least you've got something to fight any potential harassment suit and colleagues to vouch for you if your wife finds out!

But seriously, is it worth all that trouble with work, family and reputation etc for a brief indulgence?? Maybe she's crap in bed! Then you'd regret not paying an HG 800 bucks!

Have you seen the movie Fatal Attraction, you could open a can of worms. It might not be to that extend, but it would be pretty if anything gets out.

many bros have voiced their opinions, but i def agree with dont shit where you eat. You might get away with it it you were overseas, but being so close to home... you are flirting with danger ...

Thai women, when they git pissed off, can go berserk and do really bad stuff like cut off your dick . Best to keep work and fun segregated.

my 2 cents

Absolutely not. This is only end in problems. Unless you honestly don't care about losing your job.

I will take your advice and resist! If she leaves my work though she's fair game, am I right?? As for the harassment angle - many colleagues have seen her put her arm round me - touch my hand to get my attention etc and I def do not reciprocate. In Europe of coursethis is normal - but as I said my HK colleagues look shocked whenever this girl makes any contact with me! Also I noticed I am the only one she flirts with in the office so my other colleagues do think something is going on already shit wife coming out of shower!

People have been fired for less - like for instance, one guy who ran a Fantasy Football league at the office.

You might as well enjoy enjoy yourself and go out with a bang just like the Jet Blue flight attend ant Steven Slater

Gooner, since you seem to be typing these things up in such close proximity of the wifey, remember to clear your Internet browsing history or cache just to be on the safe side. You don't want her to accidentally open up your last visited webpage when you're in the shower.

Just some precautionary advice lols.

DO NOT DO IT.... NO FUCKING > NO BLOWJOB > NO KISSING > NOTHING

Few years back I was working in a financial company and got fired..... one of my staff members was a hot MK type girl.  Sexy face, dressed nice etc... I'm a married guy and.......  the girl was coming onto me, calling me, touching me and brushing her hand on my legs etc....

* rumours started (bad ones)
- people assumed it was me who was the aggressor
- people assumed I was  BIN TAI
- people started talking shit that I was having an affair
- people started talking shit that I'm not doing my job and all I'm doing is flirting with this girl
>> then the worse one, the word sexual harassment came up.  People assumed that since I'm the foreigner and I'm the married guy, that I used my management authority over the girl and I was sexually harassing her.

* My boss flew all the way from another country to meet with me. Told me that I was sexually harassing the girl....  Eventually the whole floor thought I was harassing her.... then the girl came back to the boss in his investigation that I wasn't and nothing was happening....
- kept my job
- rumours stayed

* then the girl gave me a blow job a few times
* I had a few lunches with her
- rumours increased that I was....

Eventually the girl had second thoughts and decided to call it quits on this fling.  Went to one of her friends in the company and mentioned this fling....

Next thing .... few days later my boss came back.  He didn't say anything until Friday... so 2-3 days passed and then what you know.... he said to the meeting room upstairs.  I got fired and learnt my lesson.

Don't be a tosser and keep your dick in your pants.

Too bad you got fired virginboy, I'm going to try my best to keep it plutonic between us and maybe have a crack if or when she leaves if we're both still up for it.

Only browse on I touch now gives me time to press. Home button then del history etc, with laptop she cansee me hiding something when she walks in the room!

Difficult to type fast on I touch though, have to get an iPad.

Anyway I'm wishing this girl never came to my work, yes I am much happier than before, actually miss her when I'm not working but I know it's going to be a nightmare if anything happens, I need to snap out of this quickly, prob is can't do any p4p for a few weeks when I have an excuse to be AWOL from wife or work!

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Really?  Actually she seems a little volatile like she knows what she wants, she's got a spark which is prob on of the reasons I like her, she refused to add any colleages on facebook because they might not like what they see, she added me though and I find she is bi and an old gf had painted her nude several times and posted to facebook, wow I thought this is def not a usual type of hk girl!

He makes a good point. Not only can this woman make your life very difficult very quickly, but this woman is potentially a few degrees of separation from your wife. Is there anyone at your work who knows both your co-worker and has been introduced to your wife? If so, steer clear of this woman.

The only other thing I can think of is: Can you imagine life without your wife? If anything happens between you and your coworker you can kiss your wife goodbye. In your situation, the chances of getting away with anything seem to be getting smaller and smaller.

Spend time with a WG, or a HG. They are cheaper than a divorce and are a lot less clingy!

That's just my humble opinion, with all due respect

No! Don't mix fun and job! That will create huge problems in your life.

Regards

An invaluable lesson learnt. Unfortunately for some people no amount of advice will stop them, they really need to go through the experience before it sinks in. This isn't 1960 these days an office fling can cost you dearly if the girl decides to haul you up for sexual harassment and trash your savings and reputation via the courts.

Think about it you got married have kids maybe u fuck this up whole ur social network falls down all people lose faith in .....go back to your childhood roots where you were already happy to make good friends in kindergarten...If u didn't had friends and was bullied those days fuck that biatch!

There is an old adage "Screw with the staff you are likely to fuck up the business" - think with your head bro and not your dick on this one

Hong Kong women are so sexually repressed that they are hyper-sensitive to any kind of sexual tension. They will spread gossip about you like it is truth... Stay away from all colleagues. Don't even lunch with her... Even if your girl doesn't say anything, the other girls will.

Take my advice, get 'professional' help for your problem. In my experience, you can get sex easily for free, but you pay WGs a premium to keep it discreet

If you don't care about your job, do your thang, quit and find another one.  If you like your job, do what all the other wise men have suggested on the board, get professional help, don't bother with it.  I know its mad tempting, but you gotta fight that shit, the drama is not worth it.  Avoid all possibilities of getting caught, do everything on the super low key if you have a significant other.  This is not worth losing more then half of everything + your immediate family.

If its the urge that is keeping u all hot and bothered my advice is just to wack one in the gents, i know i have

Yes I need to get professional help! You will hopefully see my in haris bar in a few weeks when wife is away!

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