Originally posted by LeoCan at 22-9-2017 23:10
I haven't girlfriend or wife yet... My family know it and they accepted (mother, sister, etc...).
They know that you don't have a gf or they know of you punting
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Although I enjoy reading the reports on this forum, I don't do this often and I certainly won't do it when I'm in a relationship.
I can understand that some ppl are seeing this as a business trade, which it certainly is. You pay for a service, no feelings involved.
Of course I have also fantasised about having sex with someone else while in a relationship, it is only natural and some ppl also have a stronger sex drive than others.
The main reason i wouldn't do this is that my SO might/will get really hurt. It's not about the sex itself. Your SO will think she is not good enough for you. This can mess up a person really badly.
You can also argue that this is worse than not paying for it and going out to find a one night stand. SO might think that you rather P4P than do it with her.
Regardless of your actual intentions and it's not about having feelings or not when doing it with others. It doesn't matter much if you still hurt your SO.
But if you can keep it a secret, good for you. No harms done. But I wouldn't want my SO to cheat on me or pay someone to satisfy her. It would probably fuck me up.
So, to answer the question: Yes, if I would punt while in a relationship, I would definitely feel guilty.
I'm not saying ppl who think & act differently should feel guilty. Just be very careful boys
Especially if you really care about your gf/wife but can't give up on being a hunter
It's only natural