jeffzeke, theworm.
I see where you guys are coming from, I do. I sometime ask myself would I have help her if she wasn't attractive, it would be a flat out no. I might have helped with a bigger tip but no more.
She definitely got my attention, she is pretty and, I have done more then I should have if it was strictly platonic, not going to deny it.

But, now reality sets in... I am not in love with her, secretly or openly. I am just seeing this trough, like a bird you set free a the end. I have way too much going on to do this thing with her. And even if I wanted to, I couldn't "logistically" make it work. Not only that but she is not "allowed" to marry outside her "people" some of you guys probably guess what kind of Chinese she it.
My permanent better half has to... well be my better half, she would have to make up for what I lack, farm girl cannot...

I do appreciate the feedback guys, there is an end date to this, in the meantime we just pen pals.

There are always many possibilities when it comes to motivations and what’s the future may hold. I try not to deal in maybes. If you know what you want, stick to your guns. Best of luck mate.

~UD

Thank you very much for your sharing. This is a very realistic solution. You are just a upright man with a smart brain. You and your partner did a great job and you ARE a  Jean Valjean.  

I think it is necessary to keep a communication with her. As she really needs a real friend to get advises. You are the only one at this moment. I think she can find her way to a better life. According to your text, she is nice and easygoing.

I feel the same way with a lots bros here. No need to retire or to stop. Just go for it. Be nice to girls. Not every WG have the same circumstance.

Don't be too serious. Life is too hard.

Well this is where it gets kinda sticky =)
I have made my intentions clear, she knows where I stand.

The more this uncovers the more it feels like a Chinese Drama Show, either she have watch one too many of those or she is reenacting one, let me explain.
She give me daily updates (probably not going to last forever) but she have introduced my to her friends and family as her boyfriend, I told her I was not, and never could be. According to her, this is somewhat of a cover for her in order to explain where the money comes from.

The more she shares her life with me the more I am sure I am not getting duped, just a farm girl with some some crappy circumstances. She has claimed several time that she just wants to spend more time with me, she doesn't care that I can never be her boyfriend or more, she said she will just wait for me... I am sure that her 22 year old brain talking.
I never intent to lead her on, and as she get more and more situated I will cut down on our communications, I know it is not a good idea, I do want to be there as a pen pal but she appears to get more and more attached. Again I never lead her on to believe that there is a future here.

So far she has been doing her job well, she didn't hit me up for more money or anything and she seems like a good person to be around according to my partner.

What a dilemma, its too soon to pull the plug and if I don't pull the plug soon I am afraid to create a monster of a situation. As far as me, I remain stoic, I don't have feelings for her, I just want to see her do well, again she is cute and that's it, we live worlds apart in every sense of the words.

thanks for the update, on the surface it looks like everything is hunky dory. Here is a scenario for you, what if she tries to kill herself to prove something, what would you do? Hope it doesn't turn into a fatal attraction.

Man...
I think when this is all over, I can sale the rights of the story to some drama writers...

Joke aside, I don't think any of us would know what they would do if it ever comes to that.
I take reassurance knowing that we don't really know each other, like I told her, what she think she feels for me is only ephemeral. Only thing I did for her is give her a little bit of money, that she doesn't owe me anything in return.

I also don't think I have made that much of an impact in her life that would merit such a drastic action, as previously mentioned, in any major city she wouldn't be single for long.

Is that a "bond" fire like in jail bonds or "bonfire"  
Great read!!!

Apparently, and inadvertently you have imprinted yourself to this young duckling.  Might already be too late.

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Let's test your Asianness Level...

1. I think the road bonfire thingy (physical pile of stuff on fire) is pretty common in Asian culture, kinda cleanse the past and on to the new life type deal.
I wasn't too surprised with the fire part, I just don't know why they were twirling a black chicken around her brother's head.

2. She definitely if not a duck or that would mean I am gay. I am a straight young Asian male.
If anything she was a young inexperience chicken.

In your world it might not be a big deal; in her world it might be. She might not be high educated and probably knows she doesn't have many opportunities in her life to get somewhere. Maybe marriage is the only viable option to her.

You might not be getting duped; but that doesn't mean she's still trying to 'hunt' you and 'get' you so she can have a better future. You slightly opened the door; she's busy kicking it in because that maybe the only hope she has.

Might have been a bad idea as well you introducing your friend & a job; the more she knows about you, the harder it will be to cast her off.

Good Luck.

Man... The more and more I get you guys' feedback the crappier I feel about this "deal"
I just wanted to do something nice, wasn't 100% altruistic I will admit to that.

I guess when I extended my help, I did not fully consider the full spectrum of potential impact.
At the time I have only considered how I would feel about it, did not really consider how she would take it or what this would do to her "world".

I would feel pretty crappy if I just break it off with her right here right now, not in a romantic way... I don't want to assume that she would be feel crappy too, but she will be affected.

What a pickle.

That is certainly true with regards to girls who come from rural communities in China.  As they have very little in terms of education, probably just the basics, how to read, write and do basic maths.  Which is the reason why some girls from the mainland go into this line of work.  Others go into it because they were cheated by their former spouse or boyfriend and just want to get as much money as possible to live a good independent life.  Subconsciously they are probably looking for their ideal guy at the same time.

there are far too many variables and parameters, and non of us really know this girl. Giving her a bit of slack and benefit of doubt, some likely scenarios include...
- she’s young and impressionable and you’ve made quite the impression
- she’s in love with her knight in shining armor and willing to wait out for this fairy tale to play into its happily ever after...
- sucking up to you because it means you might help her again if there is need
- she thinks she’s found “safe harbor” in you and to some women, that’s enough.

Again, many many many possibilities, but these are just a few. But it really doesn’t sound like she’s just really thankful at this point. Lol

~UD

OP

Just tell her you got happily engaged. Fake a couple of pics. She'll get over it in no time.

You shouldn't have to feel bad for being a good person or trying to do a good deed. You're not wrong, it the fuck up world that wrong for making you feel bad for doing a good thing. Keep it up I will be cheering for ya.

hey buddy, what is happening with your "friend" now? You guys stay in touch? got an update on status? I want to know thx

So whats the update?
She still working well at the factory?
By now she should have gotten her first paycheck. Did she send the 20% to you?
Dude you cant quit Punting. Check this out,
There are so many other farm girls out there waiting for you to help them.
Even if you cant help them with any extra money. By just paying for their service will already help them alot.
I look at it like this:
They work for a reason.
I punt for a reason
If nobody punts, then how will all these workers make money?
Dont quit.

Will love to hear more updates so we all can see how this love story end.
lolz