I have known escorts/BGs who are nymphos and don’t mind being in friendzone and having good sex. Note they will see most men as clients or potential money machines. But in friendzone the sex is amazing.

I called my regular (more than 4-5 times) Wanchai bar girls ..."friends" and lines were often blurred,
BUT there were ALWAYS "aerobics" to start with, after a good time at the bar, and even chatting in hotel after.

Then long before coming to HK, they dropped me a message to know a) if wife in town (then afternoon not evening) and b) my availability.

They knew the First Names of the others regular (mostly non-resident) so there was no competition whatsoever (little overlap when cruising in HK),
more like ...cooperation (not only in bed if several here) to help each others having one thing in common and knowing the "sharing" was fair (~ impossible with Phils, very jealous) !

From Nov 2020 to Feb 2021 when coronavirus was real pb here and bars closed at 6pm, there was NO business for the local ones...Very very bad.
What happened? The best among those got "hedged" with some of their clients (good deal for both sides)
...becoming their only client during that time to secure survival...until opening hours increased to 10pm.
I did that for one and I know another Indonesian girl who got the same arrangement with another guy.

The "business" angle is always there of course, but there can be room for much more.

I have a similar situation with one now (it is even more weird!)

Thank you everyone for the excellent feedback and advice. I have avoided updating this post because I'm not in the forum too much. I just left another post about another girl and thought I'd update this post while I was here.

In a nutshell: I walked away.

Big disappointment for me at the time and the situation is kinda just hanging out there to be sorted at some point (she owes me a bit of cash but I don't expect to see it again). If never sorted, that's okay. I'm not a victim of it... lol!

After reading everyone's replies I realised it was best to just walk away, and so I did.

We have kept in touch every few weeks, sometimes months, in the past year. It's obvious she wants to reconnect with me but I have never allowed the chats to reach that level. I've left it for now until the dust settles on all the madness in Hong Kong. She seems comfortable with the distance - probably doesn't care too much. At one point she wrote me and said, "I feel we're drifting apart." I texted her back and said, "Difficult times right now."

It helps that I found someone else. If that situation fell through I might reignite things with this other gal on clarified terms (as some of you suggested) but for now just keeping a friendly distance.

Really appreciate everyone's input - extremely helpful in more ways than you realise. Thank you.


[ Last edited by  shyrocket at 13-2-2022 23:30 ]

Thanks everyone for all your answers. Still digesting this post a few years later!

I’m still here in HK. This situation did end up in the friend zone in a somewhat bizarre way - Through all the maniacal mess of COVID this individual ended up accidentally finding out who I was in real life and that was the end of any action.

A few drunken nights she contacted me, feeling lonely, and wanted to hook up for action but at the same time expected “the usual price.” My response was, “and how is it that we never had any action beforehand?”

A few weeks after that, also after a few drinks, she contacted me again suggesting hooking up for a dirt cheap price to offset the money she owed me. Really tempting because she’s lost a lot of weight and is now super cute. But in the interests of safety and privacy I’ve had to create boundaries and distance.

Ironic but in the end actually a good thing that nothing happened. That was months ago and since she’s gone dormant.

I think this is my issue not hers. Bizarrely, she is not the only person this has happened to. I find if I’m not assertive with an escort or WG, they’ll let the time slide by until it’s time to go. There seem to be two types: those determined to make something happen and those with a “wait and see” attitude.

C’est la vie.

… to proceed with a BBBJ. The rest is history!
I haven’t seen her for over a year though, hopefully she will bless Hong Kong with her services again. “Bobo” used to work in the room the most on the left coming out of the elevator on the 21st floor of the Fuji Building, she had been there since 2015 at least.

WGs aren't mind readers at the end of the day.
Sex is probably at the forefront of their minds when they get booked.
So to be fair, its really on you for how you handle the session when you book her.
If you've seen her multiple times and never had any action, she might assume that chatting is what you enjoy.

And honestly, WGs are human too - most probably would prefer being paid to just chat and not fuck another dude.
its easy money for them.

It really depends on what you want out of this... if its just sex, you need to let her know.
You're paying for the time and you should be able to have access to any services she offers.

If you're looking to make this girl a GF... well that is going to be a more difficult convo lol.
For a WG to give up that life, they're gonna need a sense of security.

You won't find out unless you make your desires clear.

Not escorts, but had some awful experiences with European wg at massage parlors. From my experience they put in no effort and basically a ragdoll during FS. Honestly had a much better time with Asian wg. I do like to experience services from different cultures, but the service is pretty poor.