Subject: Marriage Vs LTRs
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Post at 16-11-2012 15:16  Profile P.M. 
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Marriage Vs LTRs

Let’s compare two men.

Man 1 abjures marriage.
He grows older moving from one long term relationship to another, experiencing relative instability in his love life but also the thrill of the hunt and the popping freshness of pussy varietals. As he ages, the number of women who are willing to abide his no-marriage clause shrinks, as does the youthful quality of the women. But he partly compensates for this inevitability with tight game and a charming, devil-may-care attitude, which allows him to punch above his weight well into his dotage. He has no heirs that he knows of, and for some reason this does not bother him as much as people tell him it should, but the fact that he is not bothered does bother him. He wonders, often now that the years ahead of him are far fewer than the years behind him, if one of those women he loved was one to hold to the exclusion of all others. At the end, he wheezes his last with memories of hundreds, perhaps thousands, of women — of their loving ministrations and tender caresses and fleeting intimacies between window blind shafts of sunlight — dancing through his head, and in the company of a nebulous regret that refuses to dislodge.

Man 2 abjures bachelorhood.
He marries at 30 after a trio of lukewarm short term relationships, and because he is a good man (or, more likely, because he is a man of middling status and dull personality with limited options in the sexual market which alleviates any threats of temptation against his virtue) he never cheats and puts his heart into pleasing his wife, who, because of her biology, inexorably grows less interested in sex with him, as her own attractiveness subsides in accord with her fattening waistline. He is healthy and content, all things considered, and he grows old fondly remembering his wife as she was many years ago, sexy and slender and whimsical, while the allure of her pussy — the only pussy he has seen and felt in twenty years — gradually diminishes, until the time comes he would rather caress pretty strangers with his eyes than caress his wife with his hands. He has two children, of whom he is very proud and loves very much, but still their existence does not relieve the gnawing that grips him in the chest when he thinks of love, and desire, that left him long ago. At the end, he wheezes his last in the company of his old wife’s tears and clouded eyes, and he drifts off to forever with memories he wished he had, and memories so distant they have receded to mere imagination.

Now… ask yourself: Which of these two men had it better?

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Post at 16-11-2012 16:16  Profile P.M. 
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I think the 2nd option is quite good.. as long he is into the hobby and is an active mongerer, he can be like the 1st man, sampling plenty of women, while still have the kids and the wife, blah blah blah...
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Post at 16-11-2012 17:58  Profile P.M. 
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QUOTE:
Originally posted by zeroz at 16-11-2012 16:16
I think the 2nd option is quite good.. as long he is into the hobby and is an active mongerer, he can be like the 1st man, sampling plenty of women, while still have the kids and the wife, blah blah b ...

There is no option 3 & 4.

If you had to choose what would it be.
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Post at 17-11-2012 01:32  Profile P.M. 
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Reply #3 atomic3d's post

Umm, this line in Option 2:  "(or, more likely, because he is a man of middling status and dull personality with limited options in the sexual market which alleviates any threats of temptation against his virtue)"

Is completely leading the witness.  It kinda ruins the whole point of what could have been an interesting debate.

So.. who here is happy with being "a man of middling status and dull personality with limited options in the sexual market"???   Any takers?

You are saying only dull, lower-status men get married?  This is essentially what your sentence reads...  and it certainly isnt true.
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Post at 17-11-2012 07:20  Profile P.M. 
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Originally posted by wander at 17-11-2012 01:32
You are saying only dull, lower-status men get married?  This is essentially what your sentence reads...  and it certainly isnt true. ...

No, I am not saying only dull, lower-status men get married. I am not expressing an opinion, this was written by a blogger (see link at the bottom of the posting).

You have ignored the last sentence, "Now… ask yourself: Which of these two men had it better?" It's not asking for takers, just which of the 2 had it better.

Yes the bracketed comment is trying to lead you pick one option over the other, but think we all understand that putting something in brackets, in this context, means that the author is expressing an opinion. I doubt that there has been too many studies done on this 'opinion'.

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wander   17-11-2012 07:29  Acceptance  +1   Gotcha. Cheers.
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Post at 17-11-2012 16:31  Profile P.M. 
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I agree with what Wander said, it is biased towards number 2.

But anyways, I would try to choose number one with some dabbling in mongering. I think its totally possible to sustain that lifestyle. Sex is just sex, and its a biological need to do it. It can be totally separated from the love for your wife and family.

The author also forgot that married men with families are the backbone of our stable society. Those men are more stable, stick to their jobs longer, are tied down to their house, etc, which makes a very stable community - the foundation which we single men can now take advantage of.

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wander   18-11-2012 11:21  Acceptance  +1   "we" single men? A lot of us Bros ARE married. Like me.
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